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The Power of Personal Branding: How to Build a Strong Online Presence

 

 

 

Introduction:

In today’s digital age, building a strong online presence is critical for individuals and businesses alike. One of the most effective ways to do this is through personal branding. Personal branding is the process of creating a unique identity and image for oneself in the eyes of others, whether it’s online or offline. It involves showcasing one’s strengths, expertise, and values to build a strong reputation and attract opportunities. In this blog post, we’ll explore the power of personal branding and how you can build a strong online presence.

 

Define Your Personal Brand

Before you start building your personal brand, it’s important to define who you are and what you want to be known for. Begin by identifying your unique strengths, skills, and values. Ask yourself questions such as: What sets me apart from others? What do I want to achieve in my career or personal life? What are my core values?

Once you’ve identified your unique attributes, it’s time to create a personal brand statement. This statement should capture the essence of who you are and what you stand for. It should be short, memorable, and easy to understand. Use your personal brand statement as a guide when creating your online presence.

When creating your online presence, make sure to use consistent branding across all platforms. This includes using the same profile picture, bio, and visual elements such as color schemes and fonts. Consistency is key when it comes to personal branding.

 

Create a Strong Online Presence

Now that you’ve defined your personal brand, it’s time to create a strong online presence. This involves using social media platforms, blogs, and websites to showcase your expertise and build your reputation.

Start by choosing the social media platforms that are most relevant to your personal brand. For example, if you’re a photographer, you might want to focus on Instagram and Pinterest. If you’re a business professional, LinkedIn might be the platform for you.

When creating your social media profiles, make sure to optimize them for search engines. This includes using keywords related to your personal brand in your bio and posts. Use high-quality visuals that reflect your personal brand and engage with your audience regularly.

Blogging is another effective way to build your personal brand. By sharing your knowledge and expertise, you can establish yourself as an authority in your industry. Use your personal brand statement as a guide when creating blog content. Make sure to promote your blog on social media to reach a wider audience.

Finally, consider creating a personal website. This is a great way to showcase your portfolio, share your story, and connect with potential clients or employers. Make sure your website is easy to navigate, visually appealing, and optimized for search engines.

 

Engage with Your Audience

Engaging with your audience is crucial when it comes to building a strong online presence. This involves responding to comments, asking for feedback, and creating a sense of community around your personal brand.

Make sure to respond to comments and messages promptly. This shows that you value your audience and are interested in their feedback. Ask for feedback and incorporate it into your personal brand strategy.

Creating a sense of community around your personal brand can be achieved through various means. Consider starting a Facebook group or hosting a Twitter chat related to your industry. This allows you to connect with like-minded individuals and establish yourself as a thought leader in your field.

 

Conclusion:

Personal branding is a powerful tool for building a strong online presence. By defining your personal brand, creating a strong online presence, and engaging with your audience, you can establish yourself as an authority in your industry and attract opportunities. Remember to be authentic, consistent, and engaged to build a personal brand that truly reflects who you are.

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My Foot in My Mouth: Leadership & Parenting

“All parents should be leaders and all leaders should be parents,” I say a few weeks ago to a group of managers who I am leading through a strategy session.

What?  Where did that come from?  Although not completely off-topic, it does not directly relate to the discussion at hand.  Uh oh. I’ve lost it.  Perhaps I am doing too many different things and I have lost my edge.  Crap.

So far I have managed to keep the two companies completely separate.  So far I have managed to keep my business clients separate from my Men in the Head ® initiative. So far I have not irrevocably let one interfere with the other.  So far, man, it must be the heat.

Crap. Crap. Crap.

Well, too bad for me, because I now have to speak to this subject as if I meant to bring it up.  I look around the room and notice many eyes on me waiting to see where I am going with this comment.  I take a deep breath gathering my thoughts…

“With leadership, you lead a group of people to a common goal with an eye on the long game, but managing the day-to-day details,” I pause, “How many of you are parents?”

I look around the room and see that most of the people have raised their hands.  Oh, thank you God, perhaps I have dodged a bullet.

“With parenting, it’s the same thing, but with parenting you have more compassion while with leadership, you have more objectivity.  You actually need both for each role, so perhaps the better way to describe it is leadership and parenting share many of the same activities and you need to apply both objectivity and compassion in equal measure.”  Oh yeah, that’s what I meant to say.

Thankfully the meeting’s not derailed and we actually accomplish what we set out to do.  Phew.

However, on the ride home I start thinking about my comment and I realize while it’s not necessary to have one person be both a parent & a leader, there’s much to be said for looking at parenthood through the leadership lens.

According to Kouzes and Posner, there are 5 practices of good leadership:

  1. Modeling the Way

As a leader, you need to be a good role model. As a parent, you are a role model with every look, thought, deed, act, and engagement.  Your children are observing and following everything you do – every single day.  They watch the way you drive, how you talk on the phone or to your neighbors.  They observe how you treat yourself, your friends and your family.  They monitor how and what you eat, watch on TV, how much time you are on your laptop or mobile device, and whether you have a beer or glass of wine with dinner.  You are modeling everything to your children, every minute of every single day.  So, parents as role models – check.  

  1. Inspiring a Shared Vision

A good leader inspires a shared vision. As parents, we have a vision and sometimes it may be just to get through the day, but most times, it’s to provide a foundation for our children from which to launch their lives.  Everyday, we get our children ready for school, drive them to their activities, help them with homework, allow them to spend time with their friends and take them on family vacations.  All the while, we are talking to them about making good choices, advising them on navigating the pitfalls of growing up, and motivating them to make the very best lives for themselves.  So, parents inspiring a vision – check.

  1. Challenging the Process

A good leader takes risks, makes decisions, makes mistakes and then learns from them. Yeah, I think parents have that covered.  Who knew there would be so many risks, decisions, or mistakes?  Yikes, parenting is not for sissies.  I remember one of my friends said to me, “The last day you knew anything for sure was the day before your first child was born.”  (Thanks Kathy) She was JUST SO RIGHT. As parents, we make decisions on every single thing from the smallest, should they have a blanket covering them to the largest, where should they go to college and everything in between. I could go on for hours on this one, but I won’t.  We all know what we do all day – everyday.  So, parents as challengers – check.

  1. Enabling Others to Act

A good leader is a mentor, disciplinarian and coach.  He or she encourages, motivates, and yet has a strict operational code. Parents provide boundaries for their children while giving them the freedom to live their lives.  The limit of the boundaries depends upon their ages and as I say to my two, their attitudes, as does the extent of their freedoms. So, parents as mentors, disciplinarians and coaches – check.

  1. Encouraging the Heart

A good leader recognizes and rewards their employees for their efforts and accomplishments. I think parents do this better than most leaders.  I especially like it when it involves family time together as a reward instead of a material good, but that’s a personal choice.  So, parents recognizing and rewarding their children – check.

One thing is for certain, both leadership and parenting are living breathing things that need to be tended and nurtured every minute of every day.  You need compassion and objectivity in equal measure.

For me, I feel that my leadership experience has helped with my parenting.  I am more objective and can take a long view on some things that I don’t feel I would be able to do otherwise and that is particularly helpful these days in the tween and teen years.  I also would like to think that my parenting experience lends itself to my leadership skills.  I think I have more patience and compassion and am more apt to celebrate accomplishments.

However, next time I’m in a strategy meeting and I mention the parallels of parenting and leadership, I will be sure to handle it more elegantly.  Yikes, that was a collision I could have done without.

Because of this experience, I am pleased to present my Rich and Powerful Leaders Academy stepping stone program. Together, we will unlock your full potential as a leader and help you achieve success on your own terms. So let’s embark on this exciting path to greatness.

 

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WATCH:  Tips on How to Start And Grow a Personal Brand in 2023

 

Introduction:

In today’s digital age, creating a personal brand is more important than ever. People are no longer just buying products or services; they are buying into the people behind those products or services. This is why having a strong personal brand is crucial to success, whether you are an entrepreneur, executive, or employee.

 

What is a Personal Brand?

A personal brand is the perception that people have of you, based on the image you present to the world. It is how you are perceived by others, including your peers, clients, and competitors. Your personal brand is not just about what you do; it is also about who you are and how you communicate your values and beliefs.

 

Why is a Personal Brand Important?

Having a strong personal brand can help you stand out in a crowded market. It can also help you attract more clients, build trust and credibility, and increase your influence. A strong personal brand can also help you create more opportunities for yourself, whether it is getting a promotion, speaking engagements, or media coverage.

 

How to Build a Personal Brand

Building a personal brand takes time and effort, but the rewards are worth it. Here are some steps you can take to build a strong personal brand:

  1. Define Your Brand

The first step in building a personal brand is to define who you are and what you stand for. This includes identifying your values, strengths, and unique selling points. You should also think about your target audience and what they are looking for.

  1. Develop Your Story

Once you have defined your brand, it is time to develop your story. This is the narrative that you will use to communicate your brand to the world. Your story should be authentic, compelling, and memorable. It should also be tailored to your target audience.

  1. Build Your Online Presence

In today’s digital age, having a strong online presence is crucial to building a personal brand. This includes creating a website, blog, and social media profiles. You should also be active on relevant online communities and forums.

  1. Create Valuable Content

Creating valuable content is a key part of building a personal brand. This includes writing blog posts, creating videos, and sharing your expertise on social media. Your content should be informative, engaging, and relevant to your target audience.

  1. Engage with Your Audience

Engaging with your audience is crucial to building a strong personal brand. This includes responding to comments on your blog or social media posts, participating in online discussions, and attending events and conferences.

 

Conclusion

Building a strong personal brand takes time and effort, but the rewards are worth it. By following the steps outlined in this guide, you can create a personal brand that stands out in a crowded market. Remember to stay true to yourself, be authentic, and communicate your values and beliefs. With persistence and dedication, you can build a personal brand that helps you achieve your goals and creates more opportunities for yourself.

 

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Thriving with a Disability: Tips to Meet Your Basic Needs and Live a Fulfilling Life

Living with a disability can be a challenging and overwhelming experience. It can affect every aspect of your life, including your physical, psychological, and financial well-being. But it doesn’t have to be that way. With careful planning and the right tools, you can meet your basic needs and live a fulfilling life. We’ve compiled ten tips to help you do just that. 1. First, take a comprehensive look at your current and future needs. This includes your family’s needs as well. Understanding your needs will help you create a realistic budget and plan accordingly. 2. Next, consult with a financial planner to analyze your current finances. Knowing what you have at present will help you organize the distribution of those finances to meet your basic needs. 3. It’s also important to enlist the help of a professional attorney or financial planner with experience in special needs planning. They can guide you in using your current finances the right way and help you identify other options for benefits, which could prevent financial catastrophes. 4. Adjust your expenses by cutting back on avoidable expenses. Identify the things you can live without, such as eating out, cable TV, and entertainment sources, and start living without them. 5. There’s no shame in looking for a bargain. Many common grocery and clothing brands have regular sales, and online coupons are available, which give you incredible discounts on everyday needs. Try to plan your necessary shopping a little ahead of time so you can find the appropriate sale or coupon. Small savings can really help out. 6. Avail disability insurance benefits. Check if your employer offers disability insurance. If not, you can also purchase disability insurance individually. 7. Social Security Disability Insurance is also available depending on your eligibility and the amount of years you have been contributing to social security. 8. Check if your employer offers sick pay. If you have been injured at work or suffer from a work-related illness, you can qualify for worker’s compensation. 9. Housing assistance is available for people with full medical disabilities. The US Department of Housing and Urban Development provides rental assistance and vouchers to the disabled. The Independent Living Fund also offers payments for those living independently. 10. Finally, check your eligibility for benefits under Medicaid and Husky. Medical care is provided free of cost to those who qualify for assistance under Medicare or any state-run aid program. Living with a disability may be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With these tips, you can meet your basic needs and live a fulfilling life. Don’t let your disability define you. Take control of your life and find the resources you need to thrive. For more Healthy Money Tips Listen to our PodCast  “Money 911Subscribe to my Youtube channel youtube.com/@healthymoneyhappylife

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Failure to Differentiate Yourself in Business is Not an Option

As teenagers, nearly all of us wanted to blend in with our crowd. While we worked to separate ourselves from our parents’ generation, we realized that deviation from our peer group’s normative look and behavior could lead to our being ostracized by our peers. So we sought safety in numbers and let the herd mentality reign.

But in business, failure to differentiate our products – and ourselves – is not a winning strategy. We are forced to compete on price when we fail to differentiate our products. “How low will you go?” is not a success strategy.

When WE are the product, we are generally savvy enough to have our signature brand, which sets us apart from others by how we dress, talk, or write. When we are present in person, that is.

But when it comes to our personal brands online (aka, our LinkedIn profiles), we revert to herd mentality. We sink to the lowest common denominator. We visit a few C-suite profiles and see that that they are fairly unrevealing and short. We treat those profiles as exemplars, allowing us to complete our profile quickly and without personal insight.

We’ve all seen those skeletal C-suite profiles. But should we accept them as models for our profiles? NO.

Benefits of a stellar online profile

People want to do business with people they know, like, and trust. People want to know what makes us different – why they should choose us for their next board director, employee, supplier, or business partner. With effort and insight, it is possible to provide the reasons in your LinkedIn profile. When you do, LinkedIn’s search engine will help you connect with the right opportunities for you.

Being intentional about a personal brand can benefit anyone in business. A stellar profile can:

  • Increase your visibility
  • Improve your relationships with others
  • Increase your opportunities for career advancement
  • Position you as the authority in your industry
  • Help you attract the right talent
  • Make you a more valuable asset to your organization

So why is your profile still barely there?

It IS hard to write about yourself. I understand that; but you don’t have to do it alone. If you are a senior-level leader, you’re used to seeking out experts to work for you; the same is true here.

I’ve helped countless C-level clients over the past decade to use LinkedIn to frame conversations, impress customers, and introduce themselves before the first conversation occurs.

I was selected by The American Reporter as one of the top 6 personal branding experts to watch in 2022. I work exclusively with top executives and senior leaders. I am the author of the award-winning book LinkedIn for the Savvy Executive: Promote Your Brand with Authenticity, Tact and Power – 2nd Edition.

If you’d like to know more, schedule a discovery call with me.

Contact me through my website https://carolkaemmerer.com for:

  • Executive one-on-one assistance with your online brand
  • Professional speaking engagements on personal brand and LinkedIn
  • An autographed copy of my book, LinkedIn for the Savvy Executive-2nd Edition
  • My self-paced, online course
  • To receive my articles in your email mailbox monthly

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The Productivity Paradox: How Chasing Two Rabbits Can Sabotage Your Success

Multitasking works to get things done slowly and with poor quality. You may disagree. Many times during the day, you may feel overwhelmed. So you decide to kick it up by multitasking, so you feel like you’ve been productive but really have little nothing to show for it. The answer is not trying to spin more plates on sticks at one time; the answer is slowing down, narrowing focus, and completing one thing at a time.

It’s time to introduce you to the lesser-known, more successful cousin of multitasking: Monotasking.  Just work at a steady pace, keep your plate full, and keep chipping away.  The crazy thing is—you’ll probably get there just as fast, if not faster. Here are some basics to get you started.

We are taking on jobs and responsibilities while saying yes to everything, leaving you with the massive task of getting everything done. If you could see yourself as you multitask, you would be shocked at what you see: missed items, uncompleted pieces, and shoddy quality. However, what we see through our eyes as we are in the middle of things, we miss how ineffectual we are. Besides, we are not making progress, constantly switching from one activity to another without completing the first.

Studies show it can take anywhere from 11 to 23 minutes or longer to find your focus after an interruption or task switch. So what is the solution to multitasking?

The solution is simple – do the opposite, just Monotask and produce better results. How to start Monotasking with two simple steps.

First, write it down and get the tasks out of your head. The old-school paper works best.

Do a second pass and put things into categories if you want. But the only thing that matters is that it’s on the list, and nothing is in your head.

Once it’s written out, you can organize it how you like. Color-code tasks and arrange them from big to small, by category or time needed. Once you know everything is listed, you will feel calmer because the list has an end.

Instead of multitasking, do one thing—for as long as you want or until it is finished. Just work at a steady pace, keep your plate full, and keep chipping away. You’ll find that this new pace is far more sustainable and productive. 

Should you start with the easiest or the hardest? It depends on you. One: by starting with the easiest possible items, you can get a bunch done quickly and build momentum. The other is to attack the most challenging first. Once completed, you’ll feel like you can conquer anything, just like coasting downhill on a bike. Either way, you can’t go wrong by working steadily one task at a time. Slow but effective work every time.

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MICHAEL MAGLIANO Personal Brand Origin Story

I struck out.

It was 2008. The biggest recession to hit Chicago in decades. Everyone in sales struck out. I had only been an industrial broker for a few years, this business takes time to build, and my wife and I were expecting our 2nd daughter. My salary was full commission and the market tanked; I mean everything went to zero. Nada.

Growing up a Cubs fan, I got used to losing, but nothing prepared me for this.

I called in Uncle Lou. I’ve been calling in Uncle Lou for business advice since I was 16. After our conversation, I made two of the most humbling decisions of my life. First, I accepted Uncle Wally’s generous loan. Yes, I paid him back. Then I returned to Lou Malnati’s delivering pizzas. The same job I had in high school, the one my neighbor and her friend (who later became my beautiful wife) secured for me.

These were lean, tough years.

Which is why when I got hired again as an industrial broker at Cushman and Wakefield, over 14 years ago, I was determined to employ a long-term strategy for success. It’s similar to how I approach baseball, a game my grandpa and dad taught me as a child, and I continued to play well into my thirties. I keep the focus on building quality relationships and delivering value regardless of if a sale is on the line. Then when sales do come in – the singles, doubles, triples, and homeruns – they are all treated with same vigor because I know this game is won over many innings, over many years.

Or even generations which is often the case for many family run manufacturing businesses.

I especially like these clients because hard work and loyalty are at the core of their ethics. Plus, I was born with the gift of gab, inherited from my dad a retired postmaster, so I enjoy building rapport within various family dynamics.  My own Italian family is like how comedian Sebastian Maniscalco describes his in that company skit, pre-wireless days, where folks are on the ready with Entenmann cakes and Sanka to welcome in visitors. Imagine that – no phone call, no notice, just a knock on the door – and my grandparents loved it. In fact, we all did. Our Sunday family dinners often had random company at the table. Food was the way my grandmother showed love, she even once dropped off a lasagna to help ensure I got a college internship at 670AM The Score. It kills me I’m such a poor excuse for an Italian. I developed too many allergies as an adult to enjoy these meals. I am even allergic to pizza, c’mon, now that’s ironic.

I take extreme pride in being an honest resource to my clients, one they can rely on to mitigate multi-million-dollar risk.

Moving a manufacturing plant is strenuous with so many considerations to factor in, it gets overwhelming fast. It’s a pleasure navigating clients through this process, step-by-step like a partner customizing a real estate plan they can trust. Frequently, this means I play the ultimate connector, making service provider recommendations and calling on team members when their expertise is needed. What I love about baseball, unlike other fast paced, individually high-scoring games, is you need all nine players to show up and work together to win. Our sales strategy at Cushman and Wakefield works the same, and we prioritize fun and family.

As a dad of three girls, it’s my absolute privilege to be at their events and active in their lives. My motto to them is to be true to yourself at work and at home. Which is why at the end of every baseball season, I chuckle thinking about my grandfather who lived 96 years as an avid Cubs fan, but not long enough to celebrate their 2016 World Series championship. Sometimes being true to yourself also means striking out. That is when quality relationships matter the most. Strive to make it count.

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Women Supporting Women

Did you know it’s National Women’s History Month? As a female business owner and entrepreneur, I’d like to say THANK YOU to all those who came before me and paved the way. Sometimes, being a strong powerful woman can feel very isolating. We all know the irreplaceable value of a strong, inclusive, loving support group. From childhood to parenthood, small networks of family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and classmates give us a sense of belonging, protection, and camaraderie.

Support feeds the soul.

Getting the right support is crucial. Whether your kid won’t stop yelling your name or your coworker is clicking their pen incessantly, there are times when you’re frustrated and stressed out. All you want is the sympathetic voice of a friend who knows what you’re going through (and maybe a glass of wine).

You may have been disconnected from your usual support systems in recent seasons of life. I’ve discovered that a great podcast can help rebuild a sense of community. Listening to a wonderful podcast host feels a bit like a conversation with a wise and empathetic friend.

I’ve had the honor of collaborating with several incredible podcasts within the Conscious Parenting Revolution platform. If you’d like a little female camaraderie and support, I encourage you to listen (and subscribe!) to these fantastic shows.

THE SENSORY PROJECT SHOW

Rachel Harrington and Jessica Hill are certified occupational therapy assistants whose mission is to help families practice health and wellness in their daily lives. They’re light-hearted, funny, intelligent women with a fresh perspective on healthy family dynamics. Listen to my episode with Rachel and Jessica here.

THE BLENDED FAMILY PODCAST

Melissa Brown addresses the challenges of having an extended and blended home life with personal stories based on her own family. She tackles difficult topics like having a healthy divorce, managing relationships between non-biological siblings, and “time sharing” with an ex. Her episodes aim to help blended families not only co-exist, but thrive. Listen to my episode with Melissa here.

DISTRACTION PODCAST

In our world full of bright, shiny objects, we all need some advice on managing distractions. Dr. Ned Hallowell, a New York Times best-selling author and ADHD expert, lends his expertise on minimizing distractions in your daily life. His bright, enthusiastic show offers practical advice and shows how issues like ADHD can transform into strengths. Listen to my episode with Dr. Ned here.

THE MODERN MAMAS PODCAST

Jess Gaertner and Laura Bruner embody modern motherhood: Laura is a certified nutrition consultant, Jess is a licensed athletic trainer with a master’s degree in kinesthesiology, both are CrossFit trainers, and mamas to their babies—whew! They interview guests about fertility, pregnancy, parenting, fitness, and holistic health and spirituality. This duo is a blast to listen to! Listen to my episode with Jess and Laura here.

EXPERT TALK WITH TGO

A direct connection into the world of “Trailblazers” who openly share their journeys to success. From step-by-step tips on building their businesses to how they overcame insurmountable odds and turned their dreams into realities. Tune in to our International Women’s Day LIVE Event March 8th!

LAW OF ATTRACTION WITH NATASHA GRAZIANO

Bringing you the latest wisdom and neuroscience on how to manifest your goals in life and create abundance in wealth, love, health, relationships. She is the creator of the world renowned meditational behavioral synchronicity (MBS) method. By listening to this podcast, you will learn how to refocus your mindset and thought processes with practical and mindful exercises that you can begin right here, right now, simply by pressing play. Listen to my podcast episode here.

 

Which episode was your favorite? Hit reply and let me know!

Love and blessings,

Katherine

P.S. I am thrilled to be part of the 3rd Annual International Women’s Day Marathon!! An event featuring over 25 live interviews hosted by my good friend, TGo, showcasing successful women from small business entrepreneurs to trailblazers from around the world. On March 8, 2023, from 9-5pm PT, you can watch this event for FREE, streamed live from the comfort of your own home. You will have the opportunity to hear from remarkable women who have made a significant impact in their respective fields, inspiring and empowering you to achieve your own goals. This inspiring event is made possible by NOW – the Network Of Outstanding Women, and is sponsored in part by PodNation TV and JD3TV networks. I can’t wait to share with you! iwdm.live

 

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Compassionate Communication: A Primer on Conscious Parenting Language

With President’s Weekend in my home country, the United States, upon us, I wanted to touch on communication. Whether you’re leading a household or a country, great leadership stems from great communication.

There’s a verse in the Bible that states, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” This proverb encapsulates what we already know to be true: words hold a lot of weight. What we say—and how we say it—can have an enormous effect on those around us.

At the Conscious Parenting Revolution, one of our core teachings is effective and compassionate communication. We repair family relationships by teaching parents and children methods and tools for listening with love and speaking from the heart.

Our conscious parenting vocabulary revolves around supportive communication. The goal of this approach is to build others up and never tear them down no matter what situation you find yourself in—calm or stressful, charged or joyful.

If you often find yourself at a loss for words when communicating with your children, here is some basic conscious parenting language to use for effective, life-giving communication.

Compassionate Communication: A Primer on Conscious Parenting Language

Situation: You’re caught in an argument or a tense circumstance

CPR Language: Instead of “You always” or “You never,” say “It seems/feels.” 

When you find yourself at what could be the start of a heated argument with your child, take a moment to step back and reframe what you’re about to say.

Instead of the usual accusatory, “You never clean your room,” try something less aggressive like, “It seems that you’re having a hard time keeping your room tidy.”

Words like “never” and “always” put your child in defensive mode, which could result in them shutting you out. Rephrase your words so your kid feels encouraged to open up and tell you the true root of the problem.

Situation: A celebratory occasion, such as your child receiving high grades at school

CPR Language: Instead of, “You’re so smart,” say, “Congratulations! I admire how hard you worked on that!” 

One of the communication methods we teach is using acknowledgement instead of praise.

Praising a child for their intelligence or outward appearance teaches them to measure their self-worth based on superficial traits and external factors.

Acknowledgement, on the other hand, allows a child to connect to their own sense of accomplishment. It helps them become self-aware of their competencies and tap into how they feel about themselves. 

Situation: Your child exhibited bad behavior

CPR Language: Instead of, “As punishment you’ll…,” say, “Can you tell me what made you act/react in this way?”

Simply punishing bad behavior never addresses the root of the problem. Rather than resorting to punishment, ask your child why they acted a certain way.

Was there a misunderstanding? Did they feel unheard, unseen, hungry, sad, or some other negative emotion? Once your child explains what caused their behavior, work on finding a solution together.

Situation: Describing your kid’s behavior

CPR Language: Instead of, “You’re a mess,” say, “You made a mess.”

There’s a big difference between telling your child their behavior was irresponsible and making them feel like they are irresponsible.

Your words have a major impact on your children! So use non-blameful descriptions of their behavior and avoid labeling them in a negative way that can undermine their self-confidence or self-love.

Situation: You lost your temper/lashed out/made a mistake

CPR Language: “I’m sorry.”

Traditional parenting says that parents should never apologize to their children. But our kids are human, too, and they deserve an apology when we’re in the wrong.

Saying the words, “I’m sorry,” lets your kid know that their parent is, in fact, human. It also sets you both on a path of mending and healing.

Words have the power to bring comfort and devastation, joy and pain. Let’s do our best to communicate with our children with the love and compassion they deserve.

Love and Blessings,

Katherine

P.S. Want a chance to practice your new Conscious Parenting vocabulary? Join our private Facebook group to connect with like-minded parents around the world. We run live impromptu Tips for Parents in that private facebook group, join and request to be alerted when we go live and you can ask your individual questions.

 

 

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5 Mindfulness techniques you can use with your kids

What is mindfulness? If it’s something you have never tried before, it’s a way of focusing your awareness on the present moment. And at the same time, you calmly acknowledge and accept your feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It’s used as a therapeutic technique. So right now, it’s something that can really help you stay calm as we deal with all the uncertainty around us.

Mindfulness has lots of amazing benefits. From decreasing your stress to improving your mood. It can also help with emotional regulation. And that’s not just for adults. Your child can experience these benefits, as well. However, you are no doubt thinking, ‘Get my kids to sit down and meditate? Are you crazy?’ Well, there are ways you can help your children be mindful. You just have to make it fun.

While your kids don’t have the same stresses as adults, they often don’t connect with their feelings. With all the activities they do and the time they spend on their phones and tablets, they are often mindlessly going through the day. This means the only time they are checking in with themselves is when they have a tantrum or meltdown. And that leads to you being even more stressed out than you were before.

Mindfulness can help your children check in with their emotions and recognize them. Research shows that practicing mindfulness with children helps them increase their focus, decrease stress and anxiety, and can enable positive prosocial behavior. It can also be a great way to connect with your child and find a moment of tranquility. And they can be few and far between right now.

Here are five great ways you can introduce mindfulness to your children. And you will both reap the rewards.

5 Easy Mindfulness Techniques For Your Kids

  1. Breathing exercise

Meditation is essentially about sitting down and focusing on your own breath. What does it feel and sound like? Now your child might struggle with sitting still for longer than a matter of seconds. How do you combat that? You can use colorful pillows and play some soft music to create an atmosphere of calm and love. This will also get them interested. You can ask them to pretend they can smell something really nice, like flowers or a cake. As they take a deep breath in, they can then pretend to blow out candles or a ‘dandelion clock’ as they breathe out. Ask your child to think about their tummy rising and falling. Start by keeping it short, aim for 10. Then you can increase the time.

  1. Notice 5 things around you

When you consciously notice the world around you, it can help bring you back to the present. This is very helpful when you are feeling overwhelmed by stress or emotion. Noticing five things you can see brings you back to the present.

You can turn this into a game for your kids. Sit down with your child wherever you are and explain you want to play the “notice five things” game. Then you call out five things you can see around you, and ask your child to try it too. Then you can explain this can help if they are ever feeling upset. You can also try saying, noticing five things you can hear.

This game brings your child back to the now. It works really effectively if your kids are already relaxed and ready to learn. With regular practice, your child will soon be calling on this tool to help with stress or losing control.

  1. Encourage your child to embrace all their feelings

No matter how hard you try to keep your children calm, they w

ill, at some point, throw a tantrum. Mindfulness can enable them to learn how to accept their feelings without judgement. As a parent, you need to set an example in this.

Of course, if your child is in the middle of the grocery store screaming blue murder, you are just as upset as they are. So easier said than done. But if you try and see past their behavior, acknowledge your reaction, take some deep breaths yourself, that is the first step to calming everything down.=

Don’t try and get them to do meditative breathing while they are throwing a hissy fit. This will not go down well! And it won’t work. Instead, wait until they have calmed down a little. Then talk to them about their feelings, and the unmet needs behind those feelings. You can then do some breathing and discuss how you can both look at solutions for dealing with it the next time. And there will be more than likely, next time!

  1. Drop anchor

In this exercise, you stand across from your child. Stand with your feet firmly on the floor around shoulder-width apart, and show them how to do it. Then demonstrate how to push down through your feet so you can feel the ground steady beneath you. Ask, ‘How do your leg muscles feel when you push down?’

Then ask your child to tune in to different parts of their body

, starting with the head. Ask, “How does it feel?’ You work down through the whole body so your child can feel the weight of gravity connecting them to the earth.

Once you have done that together, ask what they can notice around them. This is essentially a way of linking back to the earth around you and feeling more grounded in the present.

  1. Silence game

The silence game has been practiced in Montessori classrooms around the world for many years. This mindfulness practice asks children to be as quiet as they can. And it’s not just with their voices, it’s with their bodies as well. It’s good to aim for a minute, to begin with, asking kids to be as quiet and still as they can.

When the game ends, speak in a soft voice and ask your kids what they heard or saw while they experienced the quiet. Then ask them to keep that calm, peaceful feeling during their next activity, and if they can for the rest of the day.

In conclusion, these simple games and activities are an excellent way for you and your child to connect differently. They will help them build tools to center themselves when they feel stressed or out of sorts.

Mindfulness is a way you and your child can experience calm to

gether. It will also alleviate those feelings of nervousness and anxiety, which we are all dealing with during the coronavirus.

Don’t approach mindfulness with too many expectations. This means you’re living in the future, and mindfulness is about the present.

But if you encourage your child to embrace these methods, they will also start learning the necessary tools to self-regulate. If you practice regularly, your kids will feel happier and more peaceful. And so will you.

Love and Blessings,

Katherine Sellery

PS: It’s a crazy time of year – the overstimulation, the weather changes, the time off from school. Read my entry on how to introduce structure to your children’s life if you are dealing with chaos. Click on the link here now.