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The Ultimate Guide to Repairing Your Parenting Relationship: 5 Proven Ways to Become Better Partners

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date May 8, 2023

Troubled relationships with parenting partners are all too common. Whether parenting with a partner who sleeps next to you at night, co-parenting with an ex, or even sharing the responsibility of raising a child with grandparents, it is normal to experience ups and downs in the relationship. If you are struggling with parenting together, it is important to work towards repairing your parenting relationship in order to become better partners. Parenting is fraught with daily stresses, and our conversations can very easily sound like this:

Didn’t I tell you they need to get dressed by 8am? It’s 8:30!
How can you let them watch TV when I literally just said they can’t?!

Why do I feel like I’m doing everything and you’re doing nothing?

Sound familiar? You might find it increasingly challenging to manage working, keeping house, and managing your child’s extracurricular activities. And because of that, your relationship with your parenting partner may be on the rocks. Here are 5 ways to help you repair that relationship and become a better parenting partner:

Practice effective communication. Effective communication is key. Instead of using negative language or showing frustration, try kind and clear communication to raise healthy and secure kids. For example, instead of yelling, “You never help me when I need you to!”, try calmly saying, “I feel overwhelmed because I have a meeting in five minutes. Can you help me by [insert your specific request]?” Repairing your parenting relationship starts with effective communication.
Be strategic.Strategic planning is another important aspect of parenting together. Treat your parenting tasks like business goals, especially when issues arise. Create a schedule, prepare an agenda, have objectives, exchange relevant information with your partner, and keep them in the loop. Work together to come up with solutions that benefit both partners. Repairing your parenting relationship means being strategic in your approach.
Cultivate an atmosphere of respect. Communicating with respect is one of the fundamental values of conscious parenting. As parenting partners, model respectful behavior in how you talk to and about each other. Avoid trash-talking your partner or undermining their authority, especially in front of your child. Repairing your parenting relationship starts with respect for each other.
Agree to be consistent. Consistency is also crucial. Consistency is key for children. Shifting from one set of rules and expectations to another can be confusing for them. Apply consistency to bedtimes, chores, and study and play periods. Get on the same page about what’s permitted and what isn’t. Once you’ve made your decisions, stick to them and be consistent. Repairing your parenting relationship requires consistency in your approach.
Chill out. Lastly, taking time to relax is important. Overextending yourself in too many directions can make you tired, overwhelmed, and cranky. For the sake of your partner, child, and yourself, create time in your schedule to kick back and relax. Even a few minutes of quiet time can make a big difference in diffusing high-emotion moments and bringing peace to your home life. Repairing your parenting relationship also means taking care of yourself and each other.

Parenting together can be challenging, but by using effective communication, strategic planning, cultivating an atmosphere of respect, being consistent, and taking time to relax, you can minimize meltdowns, create successful outcomes, and bring peace to your household. By repairing your parenting relationship, you and your partner can become better partners and raise healthy and happy children together.

Love and Blessings,

Katherine

P.S.: Looking for more weekly guidance? Join me in my private Facebook group for tips every Tuesday!

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The Benefits of Integrating Astrological Insights in Your Business Strategy

Post author By Kim Woods
Post date April 5, 2023

Case for Astrology

Throughout history, astrology has been a useful tool for scientific methods, political strategy, business growth and the pursuit of fame. The earliest Popes used astrology either through other’s interpretations or their own.[1] Scientists such as Hippocrates[2], the Father of Medicine, believed astrology was invaluable to medicine, even teaching astrology to his medical students. He’s quoted as saying, “A physician without the knowledge of astrology has no right to call himself a physician.”

Galileo Galilei was both an astronomer and astrologer, drafting horoscopes[3] for nobility and students and Johannes Kepler, the calculator of planetary motion, was also the official astrologer for the Holy Roman Emperor Rudolf II[4]. Carl Jung incorporated astrology with his psychological counselling work, calling it ‘synchronicity’ and is quoted as saying, “Your psyche is the breathing of the cosmos.”[5]

A famous astrologer, John Dee[6], counseled Queen Elizabeth I, Theodore Roosevelt hung his horoscope in the Oval Office, Franklin Delano Roosevelt quoted horoscopes and President Reagan used astrology when making decisions[7].

J.P. Morgan is the most recognized businessmen to use astrology, being quoted as saying, “Millionaires don’t use astrologers, billionaires do.” [8] Gloria Vanderbilt, heiress to a huge fortune and successful business woman in her own right, was a keen follower of astrology.[9] According to Fast Company, “astrology has officially infiltrated work culture.”[10]

The former U.S. Secretary of Treasury, Donald Reagan, once said “It’s common knowledge that a large percentage of Wall Street brokers use astrology.”[11]

Angelina Joile uses astrology daily and to make important decisions about movie roles and premiere dates. Cameron Diaz, Lady Gaga, Beyonce, Madonna, Princess Diana have been avid fans of following astrology for their life and career choices. Beyonce even has a song titled, “Signs”.[12]

According to a 2018 Pew Research poll, about 29% of American adults now believe in astrology. Likewise, the poll found that women are more likely to believe in astrology (37%) than men are (20%).[13]

Astrology in Business

Astrology is important for business because it creates certainty and calm amidst chaos. Astrology helps business leaders with decision making, setting strategy, creating plans and scheduling. It helps inform teams of direction and next steps, as well as gives insight into team strengths, communication abilities and effective skill building methods.

Astrology supports timing and course of action for marketing events, sales promotions and outreach, product launches, travel, staffing, communication and investing or divesting. Astrology increases self-awareness and empathic relations for business owners and their staffs. It’s useful for branding, positioning and informs business modeling for success.

Across the organization, astrology is a useful tool, creating results on the top and bottom lines.

Results based on Astrology in Business

Kim Woods, MBA Business Strategist and Master Astrologer, uses astrology in her own business as well as all of her clients. She and her team of Intuitive Leaders have consulted with over 350 business leaders in either 1:1 customized solutions or in small group programs.

For her own business, everything is based on astrology, from decisions regarding high-level multi-year strategy to timing during the day for reaching out to a prospect or associate. She uses the Sun and its power to leverage each monthly zodiac sign for coordinating launch cycles for seasonal programs and relies on the Moon for timing of the business growth and optimization phases. Kim’s organizational planning is dependent on her personal astrology as well as the worldly annual forecast. Each of her leadership team also consults their astrology when front-facing with the marketplace. Big star events are scheduled and communicated to her company’s audience to take advantage of the star energies for expansion or deepening, depending on their particular influences.

Astrology is effective as Kim’s company has grown an average of 378% over a three-year period, even during the pandemic.

For her clients, Kim begins every engagement with a ‘Big Reveal’ into the business owner’s birth chart by walking into their stars the minute they’re born and opening them to their full potential. She assesses their foundational personality characteristics aligning these with their life mission, bravery, mastery and soul destiny signatures. She compiles themes based on their evolutionary DNA, success factors and satisfying love, money and relationship expressions.

The client’s personal star roadmap constructs the foundation of their work together, continuing to relate to their business models, success blueprints, marketing and sales energies. The work doesn’t end with business, but involves partner relationships and family dynamics in order to achieve the client’s goals for creating ease and satisfaction as well as growth and abundance. Additionally, she reviews team, client, prospect, vendor and collaboration opportunities for her clients as well as advises on buying and selling personal or business properties.

For corporations, Kim uses the astrological ‘birth’ chart of the business itself to further inform about the most successful direction for the business.

Kim also relays timing based on transit analysis to give her clients notice of positive growth-oriented periods for outreach, negotiations, promotions and sales versus the right timing for streamlining, optimizing and divesting.

Aligning business opportunities with the stars is something unbelievably valuable, it’s almost priceless. Kim has seen her clients grow an average of 51% across the board during the pandemic, even with brick and mortar businesses. She’s experienced her clients double their revenues, or gain 30% revenues while lowering effort by 40%. She’s seen triple digit jumps month-over-month when her clients align themselves with their astrological signature, as well as the astrology going on in the world.

Book a Free Discover Call with Kim to see how your astrological chart can be leveraged in business so you can gain a competitive edge in the market!

[1] “Leaders Who Followed the Stars”, Orlando Sentinel, by Sam Hodges, May 17, 1988.

[2] Astronomy, Astrology, Medicine, by Dorian Gieseler Greenbaum, July 7, 2014.

[3] Galileo’s Horoscopes, Swerdlow, N.M., Journal for the History of Astronomy, Vol 35, Part 2, No. 119, p. 135 -141, 2004.

[4] “400-Year-Old Horoscope Shows Kepler’s Sideline”, New York Times by Associated Press, March 9, 1999.

[5] “Carl Jung and Astrology in Psychoanalysis”, Exploring Your Mind, February 8, 2018.

[6] “Painting of John Dee, Astrologer to Queen Elizabeth I”, by Marissa Fessenden, Smithsonian Magazine, January 18, 2016.

[7] “White House Confirms Reagans Follow Astrology, Up to a Point”, New York Times, by Steven V. Roberts, May 4, 1988.

[8] “Can Planets Affect Your Portfolio?” Forbes, by Kenneth Rapozza, February 20, 2012.

[9] “The Surprising Ways Successful Business People and Presidents Used Astrology”, Numerologist, August 29, 2019.

[10] “From Tarot Readings to Gemini Memes…”, Fast Company by Pavithra Mohan, September 9, 2019.

[11] “Famous People and Their Astrologers who Guide Them”, St. James Chicago, December 15, 2017.

[12] 10 Celebs Who Believe in Astrology”, The Things by Anja Grcar, January 8, 2021.

[13] “‘New Age’ beliefs common among both religious and nonreligious Americans”, Pew Research Center, by Claire Gecewicz, October 1, 2018.

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What are your children actually listening to? Who? Inner voices? Outer voices? Both?

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date April 5, 2023

Control. Do you feel yourself longing for it lately?
When life feels uncertain, we often respond by grasping for control in any way possible.

You hyperfocus on cleaning up the house.

You micromanage a project at work.

You criticize your spouse for the way they do…just about anything.
And you try to get your kid to “behave.”

The belief that we should control our children, that they need to act according to our wishes, usually comes from a deep-seated belief passed down from our own childhood. And when our kids don’t do what we think they should do, we take it personally:

They’re driving ME crazy.
They’re making ME frustrated.
They’re not listening to ME.
We’re tuned into how our kids make us feel, but what about them?

If they’re not listening to you, who are they listening to? What are they listening to? Why can’t they just do as they’re told?!?

The answer is that (just like us and everyone else) they’re listening to something inside themselves. Watch this trailer for that Pixar movieInside Out?

Have they been silencing that sarcastic voice inside all day at school and they just can’t do it anymore?

Have they buried their own feelings so they can follow orders at school and now have they collapsed into high emotion because they can’t dismiss themselves a minute longer?

Chances are that they never learned the skill to get “bigger than what’s bugging them.” They don’t have a clue how to be connected with their feelings and be present to them in a way that communicates complete self acceptance of what is there. Not identified with them or overcome by them, and just as importantly not numb to them or oblivious to them and their inner world either!

Rumi, the Persian poet born 807 years ago expressed it so well in his poem The Guest House.

As an adult with tons of training I am still mindful to be with the feelings that arise and be attending to them like a visitor or a guest passing through. No matter what is arising internally I am interested and curious! I don’t identify with it as who I Am. The skill of Being With makes all the difference.

Once we are centered in the sense of self that is bigger than identification with any one part of us we can turn toward all of it and hear how it is feeling from it’s perspective and how it wants us to behave without giving the reins over to that part and behaving how it wants us to!

Granted, if we are merged with that part, and in essence we have collapsed into it, we may be:

throwing a temper tantrum
- riding a scooter through the house, or
- sneaking out after curfew.

I’m suggesting you support your child to have the awareness of their inner world, to cultivate “getting bigger than what’s bugging them,” so that they can be with all the parts of themselves just as they are,with total self acceptance AND also without letting that part decide their behaviors.

With this knowledge you can see how they are separate from you. How they are navigating the outer voices in their world and their inner voices. When your child says “no” to you, they’re saying “yes” to something inside themselves. Get curious about what they are saying “yes” to inside of themselves.

Developing a sense of self is important for your kid. You want to raise a confident adult who’s able to advocate for what they need. But without the right guidance, you’ll probably default to judging what inconveniences you, and to control your child’s behavior, under the false pretense that they made you feel the way you do – which is of course ridiculous – no one makes us feel.

Every parent I’ve worked with has made the mistake of trying to control their child in some way. But you can change your behavior and transform your relationship. (And incidentally, your child will probably start listening to you more often!)

Love and blessings,

Katherine

P.S. Looking for a little mid-week guidance with your conscious parenting journey? We have good news! Our resident pediatrician, Dr. Lauren Fulkerson, and I have returned with Tuesday Tips in our private Facebook group! Last Tuesday we discussed the recent influx in school shootings – what can parents do to protect their kids.

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Women Supporting Women

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date March 6, 2023

Did you know it’s National Women’s History Month? As a female business owner and entrepreneur, I’d like to say THANK YOU to all those who came before me and paved the way. Sometimes, being a strong powerful woman can feel very isolating. We all know the irreplaceable value of a strong, inclusive, loving support group. From childhood to parenthood, small networks of family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and classmates give us a sense of belonging, protection, and camaraderie.

Support feeds the soul.

Getting the right support is crucial. Whether your kid won’t stop yelling your name or your coworker is clicking their pen incessantly, there are times when you’re frustrated and stressed out. All you want is the sympathetic voice of a friend who knows what you’re going through (and maybe a glass of wine).

You may have been disconnected from your usual support systems in recent seasons of life. I’ve discovered that a great podcast can help rebuild a sense of community. Listening to a wonderful podcast host feels a bit like a conversation with a wise and empathetic friend.

I’ve had the honor of collaborating with several incredible podcasts within the Conscious Parenting Revolution platform. If you’d like a little female camaraderie and support, I encourage you to listen (and subscribe!) to these fantastic shows.

THE SENSORY PROJECT SHOW

Rachel Harrington and Jessica Hill are certified occupational therapy assistants whose mission is to help families practice health and wellness in their daily lives. They’re light-hearted, funny, intelligent women with a fresh perspective on healthy family dynamics. Listen to my episode with Rachel and Jessica here.

THE BLENDED FAMILY PODCAST

Melissa Brown addresses the challenges of having an extended and blended home life with personal stories based on her own family. She tackles difficult topics like having a healthy divorce, managing relationships between non-biological siblings, and “time sharing” with an ex. Her episodes aim to help blended families not only co-exist, but thrive. Listen to my episode with Melissa here.

DISTRACTION PODCAST

In our world full of bright, shiny objects, we all need some advice on managing distractions. Dr. Ned Hallowell, a New York Times best-selling author and ADHD expert, lends his expertise on minimizing distractions in your daily life. His bright, enthusiastic show offers practical advice and shows how issues like ADHD can transform into strengths. Listen to my episode with Dr. Ned here.

THE MODERN MAMAS PODCAST

Jess Gaertner and Laura Bruner embody modern motherhood: Laura is a certified nutrition consultant, Jess is a licensed athletic trainer with a master’s degree in kinesthesiology, both are CrossFit trainers, and mamas to their babies—whew! They interview guests about fertility, pregnancy, parenting, fitness, and holistic health and spirituality. This duo is a blast to listen to! Listen to my episode with Jess and Laura here.

EXPERT TALK WITH TGO

A direct connection into the world of “Trailblazers” who openly share their journeys to success. From step-by-step tips on building their businesses to how they overcame insurmountable odds and turned their dreams into realities. Tune in to our International Women’s Day LIVE Event March 8th!

LAW OF ATTRACTION WITH NATASHA GRAZIANO

Bringing you the latest wisdom and neuroscience on how to manifest your goals in life and create abundance in wealth, love, health, relationships. She is the creator of the world renowned meditational behavioral synchronicity (MBS) method. By listening to this podcast, you will learn how to refocus your mindset and thought processes with practical and mindful exercises that you can begin right here, right now, simply by pressing play. Listen to my podcast episode here.

Which episode was your favorite? Hit reply and let me know!

Love and blessings,

Katherine

P.S. I am thrilled to be part of the 3rd Annual International Women’s Day Marathon!! An event featuring over 25 live interviews hosted by my good friend, TGo, showcasing successful women from small business entrepreneurs to trailblazers from around the world. On March 8, 2023, from 9-5pm PT, you can watch this event for FREE, streamed live from the comfort of your own home. You will have the opportunity to hear from remarkable women who have made a significant impact in their respective fields, inspiring and empowering you to achieve your own goals. This inspiring event is made possible by NOW – the Network Of Outstanding Women, and is sponsored in part by PodNation TV and JD3TV networks. I can’t wait to share with you! iwdm.live

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‘Twas the Night Before…

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date February 16, 2023

‘Twas the night before Christmas,

And all through your home,

Your little ones are stirring,

They won’t leave each other alone!

You went the extra mile

To bring holiday joy

But it’s not what you pictured

…it’s all about toys!

If that isn’t how the poem goes…it really should be!

A quiet, peaceful Christmas Eve isn’t the reality for many families. Your children have probably consumed copious amounts of sugar and are low on sleep. It’s not a recipe for success!

Whether you have little ones who are on a sleep strike or refusing to eat anything that isn’t covered in frosting, here’s a quick tip you can use to guide your child without raining on their parade:

“I can tell you’re really excited about Christmas, and it’s great to see how happy you are! And you’ll feel best in the morning if you _____ and _______.”

Remember always to use AND and not BUT to start a conversation that takes both their side and yours into consideration.

Fill in the blanks with: you get a good night’s rest, you eat some veggies, you and your sibling aren’t fighting… adapt this script to whatever situation you find yourself in.

Remember, both you and your child want the holidays to be a time of merriment and memories. You’re on the same team!

My wish for you this Christmas Eve is that you feel confident in your parenting. No matter where you are in your conscious parenting journey, I admire and applaud you.

To set up your 2023 to be the best year ever, I’d like to gift you with 70% off our Ultimate Parenting Toolbox between now and Jan 1st! Just use the code HOLIDAY when checking out to receive this incredible offer. This Conscious Parenting starter kit will help you gain the skills to amplify your parenting wins by responding differently to behavioral challenges.

Merry Christmas 🎁 Happy Hanukkah 🕎

Cheers to you and your family!

Love and Blessings

Katherine

P.S. Don’t get lost in the image you expect your child to be. Remember to be thankful for who your child is, not who you want them to be. For more on this, check out my tips on The Motherside ABC7 – and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel so you don’t miss out on any other parenting hacks! Happy Thanksgiving!

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LinkedIn Is All About… [What?]

Post author By Carol Kaemmerer
Post date February 14, 2023

LinkedIn Is All About… [What?]

The large number of LinkedIn connection requests coming to me from people who promise to generate leads for me suggests that they think LinkedIn is all about leads. But from my perspective, most business owners already have sufficient leads. What they may lack is sufficient customers.

The problem, converting leads to into buyers, is actually one LinkedIn is well positioned to solve. That’s because LinkedIn is all about relationships.

LinkedIn Is All About RELATIONSHIPS

I can hear the pushback now. “What?! I have thousands of connections on LinkedIn but very few relationships.”

I grant that is true for most of us. But the infrastructure and the tools available through LinkedIn can be used to move someone along from awareness to a sense of camaraderie – and perhaps eventually toward an interest in our services or products. Nothing happens without your commitment to make it so, however. Cultivating relationships requires an investment of your time and attention. It doesn’t happen through automatic canned messages and responses.

Cultivating Relationships

Starting out on the right foot

It’s hard to cultivate a relationship with someone to whom you haven’t yet bothered to say hello. If you send me a robo connection request (i.e. a request without personalization), how interested will I be in getting to know you? I may accept your connection request merely because your profile doesn’t alarm me and your connections will expand my network, but I’m not likely to spend time interacting with you.

Going the other way, if I ask you to connect with me but fail to follow up with any message after you accept, it’s hard to imagine that I’ve built the foundation for friendship. You should greet your new connections authentically and invite a response by asking a question.

Is it essential that we exchange niceties with each connection? No. Only with the people who really interest us — the people whose profile, job title, or something else about them catches our eye and resonates with us. Forming relationships should be a joyous endeavor, not drudgery.

Don’t sell

Selling in our connection invitation or right after we connect is not a winning proposition. There is no bigger turnoff than pushy sales talk without a prior relationship. Never assume that because someone has accepted your invitation to connect that they’ve agreed to be sold to. Sales and referrals flow when you are top of mind, you have demonstrated value over time, and your connection either experiences a problem that is perfect for you to solve or they know someone who they think needs what you are offering.

Relation-building strategies

Engage online. When commenting on someone’s posts, add real value to the person whose post you are commenting on, to others reading it, and to yourself. Note that neither a LIKE alone nor a comment under 5 words are considered by the LinkedIn algorithm to be “engagement.”
In your own posts, focus on adding value. Will your post add value to others and yourself?
Endorse skills. On your connection’s profile, identify three skills that you can vouch for and endorse them for those skills. Why not more? This is an attention-getting strategy you may want to use several times.
Use the “tag” function when you mention a person’s name online. They receive an email message from LinkedIn that they have been mentioned in a post. This assures that they will notice your kind mention of them and provides an opportunity for them to respond if they choose to do so.
Use LinkedIn’s messaging function to communicate with people (but only if they are active daily on the LI platform). When you use LinkedIn for sending a note to an individual, your message features your LinkedIn headshot, an important part of your brand.
Send an article via LinkedIn message to a person likely to appreciate it. This shows that you are thinking of them and that you’re paying attention to the kinds of content they may find valuable. Don’t send the article to several people adding their names to the same message. When you do that, you’ve created a group and everyone who responds will automatically be communicating to everyone in the group.
Be helpful because it’s the right thing to do, not because you expect quid pro quo. Eventually all the positivity you’re sending into the world will find its way back to you.

LinkedIn is all about relationships. Remember that relationships emerge through your investment of time and attention. Use LinkedIn’s functionality and these strategies to effectively engage, add value, grow your sphere of influence – and build relationships.

To your success!

Named one of six top branding experts in 2022 by The American Reporter, over the past ten years, I’ve helped countless C-level clients use LinkedIn to frame conversations, impress customers, and introduce themselves before their first conversation takes place. If you are a C-suite executive or senior leader, I can make this easy for you. Based on my knowledge of how LinkedIn works and how people respond to what they see there, I can ensure everything is ready and your profile conveys exactly the message and impression you’re aiming for. Let me help you attract the talent you want to hire, increase your visibility and influence, and steer your career.

Contact me through my website https://carolkaemmerer.com for:

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Happy Valentine’s Day from CPR!

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date February 13, 2023

Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite holidays! I long for the days when my children were little, and I would send them to school dressed in red, with little cards for each classmate in hand. I love the energy, the decorations, and the spirit of meeting others with love. Most of all, I love how I can jump right from my Chinese New Year celebrations into Valentines day!

My Conscious Parents from the US or EU may not know this, but the final day of the Chinese Lunar New Year is celebrated very similarly to the western holiday we know as Valentine’s Day. Young women, in hopes of finding a sweetheart after a week of Lunar New Year festivities, walk their neighborhoods and admire the many decorative lanterns strung about. As an expat in Hong Kong the past 30+ years, I had the honor of celebrating this beautiful holiday many times, and still hold it’s traditions tight to this day.

For families, Valentine’s Day is a chance to find your own traditions, and an excellent opportunity to practice meeting each other with love. This season often reminds me of Marshall Rosenberg’s rendition of “See Me Beautiful”, a heartfelt song that pleads for love in spite of imperfection. How timely Dr. Rosenberg’s message is for the parenting work that we do! May we all celebrate not only the unconditional love of our significant others but of our children, our families and our communities.

See me beautiful, look for the best in me

That’s what I really am and all I want to be

It may take some time

It may be hard to find

But see me beautiful

See me beautiful, each and every day

I hope these holidays inspire you to relish new beginnings and see the beauty in everyone.

From the bottom of my heart, wherever you are in the world: Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love and Blessings,

Katherine

PS Honored to be a guest on Natasha Graziano’s show – one of the most generous, pure hearted and supportive people I’ve ever met! Check out the episode here!

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Is Your Teen Rebelling, Resisting, and Retaliating?

Post author By Katherine Sellery
Post date February 3, 2023

Is your teenager’s defiant behavior ruling your family life?

The teenage years are challenging, leaving many parents and caregivers at a loss. But in fact, there’s a perfectly legitimate explanation for their behavior. During adolescence, humans begin developing their prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for making judgments, weighing pros and cons, and managing emotional responses.

This critical part of the brain continues developing until the mid-20s, making it difficult for teenagers to think critically and manage their moods. Research even shows that teens often misread cues and facial expressions…and are more likely to interpret them as being shocked or angry.

Yikes! Combined with the flood of new hormones coursing through their bodies, it’s no wonder your teen walks around constantly sighing, rolling their eyes, and slamming doors!

Understanding the Three Rs

According to child psychologist Dr. Louise Porter, who I co-authored the Guidance Approach to Parenting with, 75% of family disruptions result from what Dr. Thomas Gordon called the Three Rs: Resistance, Rebellion, and Retaliation.

When your child refuses to walk beside you at the mall, they’re resisting. When they go to a party instead of doing their homework, they’re rebelling. When they’re aggressive with their siblings because they feel misunderstood, they’re retaliating.

Teens’ defiant behavior is a reaction to power and control being imposed over them and is the classic activation of those 3Rs mentioned above. The lack of control over their emotions and bodies, combined with their legitimate need for self-direction and autonomy that is thwarted by many parents, causes them to “act out.”

As parents, we owe it to our teenagers to practice empathy and do our best to understand where they’re coming from. To combat normal but challenging behaviors, we have to give them the autonomy they crave while still ensuring their safety and well-being

7 Practical Tips for Managing Your Teen’s Behavior

The 3Rs can be eliminated by using the Guidance Approach to Parenting. The reason the 3Rs surface is that controlling discipline activates them. The way to prevent them from surfacing is to never activate them in the first place. My TEDx talk, “The Rebellion is Here: We Created It and We Can Solve It,” has more detail about how the process works.

These practical tips can make a world of difference:

1. When tempers rise, disengage. If your teen is defensive or upset, postpone heavy conversations for a later time. Give them space to calm down and think things over. You’ll benefit from this space, too.

2. Set age-appropriate guidelines. Give your teenagers the independence they crave, setting age-appropriate guidelines. What’s reasonable for a 13-year-old is probably too restrictive for a 16-year-old, so use your judgment and be open to feedback. Create solutions together, seeking clarity so everyone’s on the same page: “So are you saying you would feel better if I let you do your own thing from 2-5 pm on Saturdays, as long as you tell me where you’re going and with whom?”

3. Find common ground. Connect with your child by finding activities you both enjoy. Watch a movie together, go get ice cream, or play a favorite sport. Engaging in shared interests fosters a positive environment for meaningful connection. If your teen starts opening up about their life, listen and invite them to tell you more! Be careful not to use the 12 roadblocks to communication or will go awry!

4. Respond, don’t react. When your teenager confides in you for the first time about, say, a boy they’re interested in, resist the urge to freak out! Drop the “my baby” perspective and be as objective as you can. Give advice like you would to a friend, assuring your teen that they can talk to you about anything—even the uncomfortable stuff.

5. Avoid phrases like “You never” and “You always.” Nothing sparks defensiveness more than the words “never” and “always.” Reframe your language to be non-accusatory. Instead of, “You’re always late for school!” say “I’ve received some reports about lateness from your school; is everything okay?”

6. Respect their privacy. With so much happening in their minds and bodies, teens can be extremely self-conscious about, well, everything. Respect their budding sense of self. That means no snooping in bedrooms, phones, laptops, or social media. Build trust with your teen, and they’ll feel empowered to tell you what’s going on.

7. Help them understand the changes in their body. Teens are better equipped at handling physiological changes when they’re fully aware of what’s happening. If they don’t want to talk to you about these changes, enlist the help of a trusted family member, friend, or counselor.

As your teenager navigates this complex period in their lives, it’s critical for parents to provide the support they desperately need.

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How The War in Ukraine is Causing a Global Shortage For Millions…

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Post date October 28, 2022
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Russia and Ukraine export nearly a third of the world’s wheat and barley. And more than 70 percent of its sunflower oil…

The war in Ukraine is preventing grain from leaving the “breadbasket of the world” and making food more expensive across the globe.

World food prices were already climbing, and the war has made things worse, preventing over 20 million tons of Ukrainian grain from getting into the Middle East, North Africa, and parts of Asia.

According to this article in Intelligencer, West Africa is facing its worst food crisis in a decade, with the number of people in need of emergency food aid standing at 27 million in April and rising fast. Another 13 million face severe hunger in the Horn of Africa, and as many as 19 million will be food insecure in Yemen by the end of this year.

Europe embraces for another mass migration crisis sparked by food shortages in Africa and the Middle East.

Sri Lanka, once more prosperous than its neighbors, applied last month for 100,000 metric tons of food aid from a regional food bank as its debt crisis threatens to leave millions hungry.

Watch this video for a full explanation of the developing food crisis…

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WATCH: Abandoned by Parents, Kid Vows to Be Successful. Builds $4B Wendy’s Fortune

Post author By Tyler Hayzlett
Post date August 5, 2022
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Dave Thomas was an orphan. Growing up, eating hamburgers in restaurants was the only thing that gave him a sense of belonging and purpose. When he was 8-years-old, he set out a plan to open the best restaurant in the world and later founded Wendy’s.

But even at an early age Dave knew that in order to grow a successful business, he was prepared to learn everything about the business from the ground up.

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15 year old Dave started as a busboy at a Hobby House Restaurant in Fort Wayne, Indiana where a guy named Cornel Sanders was touring the country, trying to convince restaurant owners into converting their buildings into Kentucky Fried Chicken franchises.

Thomas’ boss, Hobby House owner Phil Clauss, was one of those restaurant owners. Hobby House became Kentucky Fried Chicken, and Thomas became one of KFC’s first cooks.

A new waitress, Lorraine Buskirk, caught his eye and they were soon married in 1954.

Dave and his wife Lorraine grew their family to include five children – Pam, Ken, Lori, Molly and Melinda (Wendy was her nickname and who Dave named the business after). All the while, Dave worked toward his goal of owning his own restaurant.

He was pivotal in helping grow KFC. He simplified the menu and came up with the classic rotating red bucket sign. Thomas also convinced the colonel to appear in TV ads for Kentucky Fried Chicken.

Thomas’ success eventually enabled him to sell his stake in the four franchises back to the colonel, for $1.5 million. He used the money to open his first Wendy’s and became multimillionaire by the age of 35.

Today there are 6,900 restaurants worldwide.

Dave Thomas passed away in 2002 with a net worth of $4.2 billion. Dave wins.

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