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Setting Healthy Boundaries

Have you ever felt angry or hurt because of something your partner, friend or colleague said or did? Since it would be almost a miracle if no one has ever upset or offended you, let’s talk about how boundaries can help.

Setting healthy boundaries can help you protect your emotional energy and deepen the connection within your relationships.

Boundaries are the guidelines we set about our expectations, availability, and energy. Because boundaries communicate how we feel, they prevent us from overcommitting or feeling resentful. They also help give others guidelines with how to treat us.

They do not have to be hard, aggressive rules. Setting boundaries allows us to be transparent about how we feel, so we can have a deeper, longer, lasting relationships.

The word boundary might be interpreted as pushing someone away. It is better described as an invitation to let others in to learn more about us and our needs.

Setting boundaries can improve the strength of any relationship. Not only are you inviting others to learn more about you, but you are also claiming responsibility for your emotions and how you take care of yourself.

Benefits to setting healthy boundaries:

Take care of mental health. Boundaries allow you to take responsibility for your emotional energy and mental health. Setting healthy boundaries can help you name your limits with your emotional energy in mind.

Give people a safe space to be transparent and vulnerable. Setting boundaries creates a safe container to be honest. It’s a way to grow trust and a sense of safety.

Learn about yourself. Learning where your boundaries are is a process of tuning into your own needs.

Setting boundaries allows us to care for ourselves and prevent resentment from arising.

Follow these tips to set healthy boundaries:

Be honest. Let the person you’re setting a boundary with know why you’re setting boundaries. Check in with their emotions.

Explore what you need. Pay attention to where you might feel resentment, guilt, or anger.

  • What makes you feel uncomfortable?
  • What values are important to you?

Make the boundary about you and your needs. When you state a boundary, focus on you.

  • “It was great to spend time together this weekend. I’d like to decompress alone the rest of the night. Want to get lunch in a couple days?”
  • “I feel attacked when my point of view isn’t considered. I appreciate feeling heard and understood.”

Start with thank you. If you have trouble setting boundaries, start by thanking the other person for their thoughts or requests.

  • For a partner something like this can help: “Thank you for wanting to spend time together, but I’m not up for it now.”
  • For a friend, something like this can help: “Thank you for the invitation and it sounds like fun. Instead of us driving their together, I’ll meet you there so I don’t cut your night short if you want to stay out late.”

Set boundaries for you and for others.

  • A boundary for you may be something like: “I don’t like watching scary movies. If that’s what they want to do, I’ll say no thanks and do something else.”
  • A boundary for others may be something like: “If they start yelling or name calling, I leave the room.”

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries

As you set boundaries, it’s important to understand that setting a boundary with the intent of controlling someone is not a healthy boundary.

A healthy boundary does not control the other person. They’re about what makes you feel safe and comfortable. Boundaries respect and honor both parties to grow and thrive together.

Boundaries ensure that you continue to respect one another, communicate, and honor each other’s needs. Healthy boundaries will deepen your connections as you learn what works and doesn’t work for each other. They’ll also make it easier to navigate your relationships as you feel a greater sense of safety and respect around what you want and need.

Dr. Debi
Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

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5 Ways You Can Ease Working Mom Guilt

A mom friend of mine sent me a picture this week. It showed her perched on the (closed!) pedestal on the toilet, resting her laptop on the toilet paper holder, while her daughter peeked over the side of the bath-tub doing her evening bathing routine. This is working mom life today. Juggling two jobs at once, but feeling like you’re doing neither one to the best of your ability. But even as the pandemic has passes, the mom’s guilt stays.

What can you do to help alleviate the guilt of having to balance your working responsibilities with those of being a good parent? Working mom guilt can paralyze us with stress and trigger our instincts of fight or flight – which, during the pandemic, are already heightened.

Ways You Can Ease Working Mom Guilt

The very first thing you can do is simply to breathe deeply. When you’re in the moment of heightened guilt, merely taking a few breaths can help put much-needed space between you and the situation.

Longer-term, you can seek to change your perspective on your guilt. Is it so bad for your child that they see mom working and having to prioritize her time? It sets an excellent example for your children and shows them that they can do or be anything they want to be, after all.

For a long time, we weren’t able to separate ourselves for even a few hours. Some of us are still not able to drop the kids off at childcare or school. Have you noticed how much clingier to you they were since they have you around 24/7?

Ordinarily, you can rest assured that despite your child’s tears at seeing you go (and possibly your own), you’re letting your child grow and form their thoughts and feelings and make personal friendships – without always looking to you for affirmation. You can relieve yourself of the guilt of letting them be in the care of someone else while you work.

However, in conversations with your child’s carers, how have you felt when it was someone else who was there for them when they cried? What about when you weren’t there for a milestone? Did you feel guilt and sadness that someone else spends more waking hours with your child, and might know them better than you?

There is a loneliness that settles into your heart as you learn how to juggle this new normal. I know you question if you are good enough—good enough at work, good enough as a mom, good enough as a spouse because I’ve thought and felt and carried all of these emotions too.

Letting go of the guilt comes with acceptance. Accepting that this is what is, and not hanging on to what SHOULD be.

This is especially true now, where we have not only had to juggle the roles of parent and employee, but also become our child’s teacher and playmate. How much guilt do you feel when you switch on the television or hand them a tablet to entertain themselves and ask them to be quiet while you try to conduct a meeting on zoom?

Knowing that it’s ok to be ‘good enough’ but not perfect, will give you more peace than trying to do everything correctly. You are not going to be the perfect mother. You are not going to be the ideal employee. And that’s ok. You are good enough, and that’s all you have to be.

It’s essential to establish your boundaries with your workplace. Your boss knows you’re a mom, and when you clock out promptly, it’s not your lack of ambition or slacking off. It’s merely that you have other responsibilities that you have to balance. They should hopefully be understanding of that. You’re not a bad employee because you’re a mom, any more than you’re a bad mom for working.

If you hate your job, but you do it to be able to pay the bills, then you are providing the means to create a childhood with a safe place to sleep and good things to eat.

When you have a job you love, and you do it because you are passionate about your cause, you are creating a childhood where little girls grow up to achieve their dreams and little boys see their moms and sisters and aunts and future daughters as equals.

Who Do You Surround Yourself With?

Think about who you surround yourself with? Do they support you, or mom-shame you? You’ll feel much lighter if you surround yourself with other moms and people who support you, and not those who tell you what you “should” be doing.

Don’t Follow The Rules

If you can stop following other people’s rules, you’ll achieve a step in relieving yourself of working mom guilt. Forget the rules. When you feel working mom guilt, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen if I break the rules?” Your answer can bring you back to your reality.

It’s not only when you’re suffering mom guilt that you need to limit your own screen time, but it will help you to limit your distractions. When you do have time with your child, try to give them your attention for the short time you’re with them. This can be very challenging when you’ve already been pulled in every direction at work all day. But freeing yourself from other people’s perfectly curated lives, and being present for your child will give you far more peace of mind. And the ability to be a present and conscious parent.

Do It At Your Own Pace

Take one day at a time. Don’t keep looking to the future weekends or vacations. Just focus on getting through today. After all – eight hours is far more manageable than five days.

Think about how working makes you feel? Do you feel like a more well-rounded and grounded person for going to work? Your child will benefit more from a good role model, and happy mommy, than from one who feels bored or unfulfilled. That’s not to say mommies who stay home ARE bored and unfulfilled, but if you are someone who enjoys going to work, that won’t change when you also have a family.

Don’t Judge Yourself

We are all our harshest critics. Especially when working motherhood is such a significant part of our identity. Have you ever forgotten something at your child’s school? A PJ day or pot luck? Or felt guilty that other parents put together a perfect Valentine’s gift bag for the entire class, while your offering lacked the same detail and imagination?

To stop beating yourself up, reserve self-judgment. Think about the bigger picture. Will any of those moments of guilt affect your child’s performance in school? We all forget things, and no one is perfect, and you can release yourself from the self-judgment.

It is ok to make mistakes and to help yourself you can learn from them.

Getting organized will help, and your phone is your friend. Set reminders, and use apps or planners that will remind you of everyone’s schedules.

Would you be a better mom if you only had one full-time job, and not two? It’s easy to think that perhaps stay-at-home moms are happier because they are not trying to do it all.

Mom Christy Lilley admits she’s asked herself that question many times. She says that she agrees that their lives would be less stressful and more manageable if she wasn’t working. “Things would be calmer, our weekends and nights would be less hectic,” she says.

However, she adds that she doesn’t think that she would be happier and that maybe it’s easy to believe that the grass is always greener.

We can accept working mom guilt isn’t going to go away completely. But you can work towards alleviating that guilt and see the positives of being a working mom.

Love and Blessings,

Katherine

PS. Check out my newest appearance on PedsDocTalk discussing why being mindful as a parent is important for your child’s success. Click here to listen and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel!

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Do You Really Want to Change?

It’s not only possible, but common to consciously convince ourselves that we want change in our life, yet subconsciously put our effort into keeping everything exactly the same as it is right now.

We can even go through all the motions of starting a new project, enlisting help, getting things started and more, only to consistently find some insurmountable challenge when it gets close to a start date that prevents us from following through.

Why would we do that?

Fear

Fear is a huge reason why so many of us don’t follow through.

Fear of what?

  • Fear of success
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of change
  • Fear of what others might think, say, or do
  • Or all of the above

We can say we’re unhappy, unmotivated, and unfulfilled. We can even know exactly what we need to do, but don’t seem to manage getting it done or moving things forward.

What does this stop and go, start and stop pattern create? This vicious circle of starting and then stopping, over and over again, can cause us to lose confidence, struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, and more. It can also cause us to lose trust in ourselves because we’re saying one thing, but our actions don’t match our words. This builds the conviction that we can’t do anything other than what we’re currently doing so we’re better of keeping everything the same, no matter how good a new future might look. When we say that often enough, that conviction becomes our new limiting belief and we’ll justify and rationalize anything that may question it.

Does this sound familiar? If so, what can you do about it?

Question your fear
A simple question like, “What’s the worst that can happen?” can show you why fear is stopping you in its tracks. Can you accept the worst case scenario? Is it really that bad? It’s unlikely that the worst case scenario will happen but if so, playing it out is often not as bad as we originally may have thought before we looked at it fully.

Imagine someone else taking your idea from concept to completion
Imagine your idea. Now imagine it was too hard, it would take too long, you didn’t have the time, resources or whatever else you believed you needed to move your idea forward. Now imagine someone else taking your exact idea and moving it from concept to completion.

If you had the idea, it’s because you’re the one who is supposed to see it through. Feel what it would feel like to give that dream to someone else simply because you didn’t take appropriate action when the opportunity presented itself.

What do you lose if you take action?
Sometimes it’s a matter of what we’ll lose that prevents us from moving forward. And, even if those things don’t seem worthy of holding onto, they’re comfortable and familiar which may be all it takes to keep things exactly as they are.

Will you lose staying under the radar as you become more accountable for your actions? Will you lose time or money as you pursue this new venture? Will you lose the story you may have created around why you can’t do something or why you’re unable to see this idea through?

Are you worried you’ll lose your current relationships or you’ll drift apart from your current social circle as you pursue this new passion and dream? Take a look at each of these concerns. Are they legitimate and if so, what decisions will you make to prevent a negative outcome as best you can? Next, consider why you may still feel compelled to hang onto that story or idea. Is it out of comfort, guilt or simply the fear of the unknown?

Make a Decision and Take Action
Through practical experience, you’ll come to realize that when you make a decision and take action, you move forward. As you do, you’ll see that life is more rewarding and satisfying when you don’t let your fears keep you small and/or stuck.

When you find purpose and meaning in what you do, you also realize that the fear evaporates. A sense of pride, fulfillment and purpose takes its place. It’s not that you’ll no longer experience fear, but by taking that fear on, you’ll have more opportunities to explore things that fill and fuel you. Taking on those fears, versus running from them, leads to success in any area you deem important.

As Winston Churchill said: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” A great perspective and reminder that stumbling towards what you want is far better than staying rooted to what doesn’t serve you.

Dr. Debi
Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

 

 

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Three Misconceptions About LinkedIn That Could Be Hurting You

Three Misconceptions About LinkedIn That Could Be Hurting You

In my roles as an executive branding expert, coach and speaker, I often hear misconceptions from both my clients and audiences about LinkedIn. When we accept these misconceptions as fact and operate on them, where we end up is not where we intend. This month I share three misconceptions and why they lead you astray on your journey to be memorable and to find opportunities –  clients, customers, and new challenges – that are right for you.

Misconception #1: LinkedIn is Just for Job Seekers

Although this may have been true in the past, it is certainly not the case today. LinkedIn is where many people will form their first impression of you. It’s where they look for evidence that they may be able to know, like and trust you – all prerequisites for doing business with you.

Today, executive leaders are waking up to the idea that sharing their authentic brand online is an asset for their company, because when they share their purpose, business passion and principles, they attract the talent they seek to hire.

If you are operating under the misconception that LinkedIn is just for job seekers and you are not seeking a new position, you are unlikely to tell your business story in a way that helps you stand out and be memorable. You are unlikely to sow the seeds of know, like and trust into your profile, and unlikely to be found by LinkedIn’s search function for opportunities that are right for you.

Also, if your company decides that they can do without you (it happens!), you are unlikely to be ready to search for your next role.

Misconception #2: Less is More

There are many situations when less is more. When the customer is already sold, we should stop talking. We appreciate white space in written documents; we know they will be less of a chore to read. And every Marie Kondo fan rejoices when they’ve achieved a kitchen counter devoid of all clutter.

But on LinkedIn, less is NOT more. This is because LinkedIn is a search engine in search of keywords. One of the primary determinants of whether you appear on page one of the results of someone’s search is the number of times the keyword being searched for appears in your  profile.

People who write their LinkedIn profile as though less is more are likely to have a very brief About section (or worse, no About section at all). They are likely to have little information in other sections as well. These people have no chance of ranking well on a keyword search: because they’ve used little text, their keywords don’t show up often.

In contrast, people who take full advantage of the LinkedIn character limits for each section by “writing to the margins,” will rank more highly because their keywords will naturally be used more often. See my article “If You’re Not “Writing to the Margins” on LinkedIn, You’re Missing Out,” for LinkedIn’s character limits as of this writing.


Misconception #3: Getting Thousands of Connections is THE Winning Strategy

My inbox overflows with offers to automatically generate leads for me with little effort on my part. It is as though getting leads (connections) is the most important strategy, to be pursued above all else.

Although the search algorithm works better when we have over 500 connections, once we’ve reached that threshold, there is a strategy that is much more important than adding new connections. That strategy is nurturing relationships – growing connections into friends; creating a true network of people whose expertise we trust. For LinkedIn nurturing strategies, see my article: Nurturing Your Most Important Business Relationships on LinkedIn.

speaker holding microphoneNamed one of six top branding experts in 2022 by The American Reporter, over the past ten years, I’ve helped countless C-level clients use LinkedIn to frame conversations, impress suitors and customers, and introduce themselves before their first conversation takes place. If you are a C-suite executive or senior leader, I can make this easy for you. Based on my knowledge of how LinkedIn works and how people respond to what they see there, I can ensure everything is ready and your profile conveys exactly the message and impression you’re aiming for. Let me help you attract the talent you want to hire, increase your visibility and influence, and steer your career.

 

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Other Articles by Carol Kaemmerer

What is a Personal Branding Expert? …And Do You Need One?

Why Senior Leaders Need a Strong Brand NOW — And Why It’s In their Company’s Best Interest to See That They Get One

7 Ways to Elevate Your Online Brand So You Can Love Your LinkedIn Profile

What is a Personal Brand – And How Can You Take Charge of Yours?

Twelve Changes You Can Make in About an Hour to Improve Your LinkedIn Profile

Why Is My LinkedIn Profile Getting So Few Views?

How Can LinkedIn Be Part of Your Company’s Strategy for Responding to the Great Resignation?

Is Your LinkedIn Profile Missing the Mark?

Comfortable in Your Job? Uncomfortable Life Lessons to Safeguard Your Career

How to Be Found on LinkedIn: Ten Top Strategies to Rank Well on a LinkedIn Keyword Search

Why Are You Playing Small on LinkedIn?

If You’re Not “Writing to the Margins” on LinkedIn, You’re Missing Out

Don’t Be Hooked Through a Big Phish: Recognize and Avoid Phishing Scams on LinkedIn:

A Small Omission That Undermines Your Credibility on LinkedIn

“Tell Me More…” — On LinkedIn

What is Your Poor LinkedIn Profile Costing You?

C-Suite Executives: Stop Hiding Online

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4 Reasons to Stop Using the Word BIPOC…Like Now!

I pride myself on being a continual student of life. I am always looking to learn more about what I do not know. I also know that if I am going to continue to do my work in the area of diversity, equity, and inclusion, I can never become too arrogant to think I have it all figured out. Enter the word BIPOC, which is a word I am afraid to admit I just learned about in 2020. I first thought it meant “BIsexual People of Color.” From what I have learned about this term, I have come to believe that this term is problematic for several reasons and organizations especially should stop using the term immediately.

According to the New York Times, the term first started appearing in social media circles in 2013. The term started to gain more prominence in 2020 in the wake of protests over the killings of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, and others. Since then, the term has sprung up everywhere. Organizations such as the BIPOC project are centered on a mission to “build authentic and lasting solidarity among Black, Indigenous and People of Color (BIPOC), in order to undo Native invisibility, anti-Blackness, dismantle white supremacy and advance racial justice.” They also state that they use the term BIPOC to “highlight the unique relationship to whiteness that Indigenous and Black (African Americans) people have, which shapes the experiences of and relationship to white supremacy for all people of color within a U.S. context.” While I respect their mission and the sentiments of others who identify with this word, this term should no longer be adopted into our lexicon for the following four reasons.

  1. The term “BIPOC” is like a double negative (or double-positive if you prefer).

If Black people are “people of color” and our indigenous or Native American people are “people of color” than the term itself is repetitive.

  1. Black & Indigenous people don’t have that much in common.

While the term BIPOC exists to express solidarity, it groups together a group of people whose histories could not be more different. The experience of Native Americans is like no other and is an extremely understudied aspect of American history. Native American history is often told from the perspective of the people who arrived on boats as opposed to from the perspective of people who were on the soil whereas black people were brought to this country through the transatlantic slave trade.

Both black people and Native Americans have experienced great oppression but their stories are also complicated by the fact that some Native Americans were also owners of enslaved Africans. Then of course, we can talk about the African American soldiers known as the Buffalo Soldiers who killed Native Americans in the 1800s. So what do these two groups really have in common? Queue reason #3 to stop using BIPOC—whiteness.

  1. Uniting around whiteness is not the way to go.

Black people and Native Americans have experienced severe forms of oppression at the hands of white colonizers and enslavers. Native Americans were also enslaved by colonizers. There are indeed countless examples of Native Americans and black people working towards unity, demonstrated in the 20th century by the fight for equality and civil rights and black & brown empowerment movements. The point here is that historically, most of the times that Native American and black solidarity has been demonstrated has been in response to white oppression. Is this reason enough to combine these groups in such a generic fashion? We cannot build movements based off of opposition to another group because real solidarity does not fully exist if it can only exist with a common enemy.

  1. Why do white people just get to be white?

I have seen so many terms used to describe non-white people throughout American history from Negro, colored, and Hispanic, to Indian, people of color, and LatinX. Now we have BIPOC. Throughout all of this, white people just still get to be called white. Not only is this annoying because, last time I checked, white is a color too, but also because the more terms we come up with, the more white people are viewed as being the original people and everyone else is colored into that white narrative of originality. Putting white people basically at the center of creation is not historically accurate. I have written more extensively about the broader problems the term “people of color” creates and why we should not use it so I will not revisit that here. I will just say that the more time we spend coming up with new terms to describe nonwhite groups, the more we actually strengthen the narrative of white Eurocentric dominance in America.

At the end of the day, I do not have the right to challenge how any one individual chooses to identify with a culture or identity. I am speaking to the challenges that exist on a collective level when we continually create new terms for people who ultimately do not have that much in common, as we have done with the term “people of color.” I argue for us to be intellectually energetic enough to treat each group with the respect they deserve in the same way we do white people. Both white people and Native Americans owned slaves but no one has come up with the term WIPOC to express solidarity. Let us tell the story of Native Americans, black people, and all cultural or racial groups with the individual respect they deserve. This is crucial in your commitment to creating communities where everyone is celebrated and not tolerated. Let’s GO!

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Living Your Life Beyond the Labels Assigned to You by Others

There’s an insidious epidemic that has happened to many of us internally that’s not widely discussed, but which can be just as crippling as the pandemic we just survived. And if not addressed consciously and mindfully, can affect us for our whole life.

I’m talking about the impact of imprinting and conditioning that starts when we’re young and builds over time. Simply put, the effect of others labeling us – and ultimately labeling ourselves – without regard to the often serious consequences.

No Surgeon General’s Warning

We know packs of cigarettes have a warning about how smoking could be harmful to your health (duh!)? Well, unfortunately, there’s no such warning about the impact of imposing (nearly always false!) labels on others and ourselves – I wish there were.

Did anyone ever tell you that you weren’t good enough at something? Or that you’d never amount to anything? Or that you weren’t smart enough? Or that you weren’t creative?

That kind of labeling starts when we’re young, and it can leave a lasting, lingering imprint if we don’t address it. By contrast, when we have parents, relatives and teachers who encourage our individual gifts and talents, we’re far more likely to thrive – in school, at work and in life.

As an avid reader as a child (and something of a loner inherently), I was told I wasn’t good at sports and should stay focused on my intellectual side. As a result, I never engaged in team sports and didn’t pursue athletics in any way other than as an observer. No surprise, when people were chosen for sports teams in school, I was always among the last to be picked.

My mom encouraged my sister and me to engage in arts and crafts. Even though I actually won awards for my projects, my sister was dubbed “the artistic one,” and me, “the intellectual.”

When John Lennon was five, his teacher asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. He wrote down “Happy.” She told him he didn’t understand the assignment, and he told her that she didn’t understand life. Wise beyond his years even then at five years old!

More recently my friend rocker Paul Stanley of KISS recently observed something similar. A mother tweeted how her six-year-old daughter painted an amazing scene in an after-school art club and the art teacher told her she’d done it wrong. She was so upset as art was her favorite thing to do. Paul was mortified. He responded to the child through her mother, “your art is AWESOME!! There is no such thing as doing art ‘wrong.’ There are only teachers who are wrong! Keep doing exactly what you’re doing; I LOVE it!”

How about you? What labels have you carried throughout your life, and how have they impacted how you saw and interacted with the world in terms of barriers or constraints?

 

Busting Through (Usually False) Labels Is Liberating

As a result of growing up and living with these false labels, we adopt belief systems about who we are and what we are and aren’t capable of. And we diminish our capabilities, hold ourselves back, and limit our life circumstances – all because of things others said that we took on as being true about us.

When you realize that you’re not the labels others have imposed on you, you can free yourself to take back your power and choose to see yourself differently. When you see that those were just belief systems that no longer serve you (and never did – and weren’t even true!), you’re free to take on whatever is calling to you to be and do now.

For example, you’re being led to take up painting (maybe for the first time ever) – but you’ve held that you weren’t creative all your life – try taking a class and dabbling in it; wade in and prove that in fact that believe was a lie.

One highly effective tool to begin breaking loose from these old beliefs and thought patterns about ourselves is to question the truth about them. Byron Katie is an author and speaker who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work” (and has published books and courses on this approach). Effectively it encourages us with four powerful but simple questions to address stressful beliefs, anxieties, and assumptions that may have held us in their grip for years and gently moves us to self-evaluate whether these are really true – and to re-frame new possibilities that are likely to be more positive and freeing allowing us to move forward in our lives with peace and ease.

What Might Be Possible if You Embrace the Label of “Creator” (Get Curious)

A colleague of mine, Steve Chandler, is an inspiring coach and author. One of my favorite books of his addresses this topic head-on – and it’s simply called “Creator” (I highly recommend it).

Can you see how powerful it can be to make some time for introspection to consider where you may have held yourself back by living old beliefs, labels, and limitations that others (or you yourself) have imposed on you that have resulted in you playing small or holding yourself back in life? Can you also see the promise and potential in terms of what’s possible in your life when you shift out of those debilitating mindsets?

I hope you’ll make the time and effort to get curious, take a closer look and evaluate this for yourself. You owe it to yourself and to those you love to take the reins of your life, embrace the truth about your gifts and talents and who you really are, and plot a truly empowered course from here forward. I’d love to hear what you learn. Reach out to me if you want more support with this or just want to share your insights.

 

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How To Ethically Create New Capital From Thin Air

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How To Ethically Create New Capital From Thin Air

On Capitalizing Your Cashflow even if sales or income are on a low curve

*Disclaimer: The contents of this article are solely meant for your own personal considerations and thus they are in no way meant as any legal, financial, medical or other professional advice for which you would otherwise consult or hire an expert or respective specialist. In other words, this article is solely meant for you to think and ponder the meaning of certain concepts and ideas without tying direct practical or productive consequences to them. Doing that is dependent on where you are now, what kind of business you run, and the responsibilities and actions you take to get to where you want to go. So, the author cannot be held responsible for those consequences. You are responsible for your own actions and deeds that could follow from working with these concepts and ideas. It’s about ethics, both in terms of business ethics as well as in terms of even higher standards of general human conduct. Respect and honor that, for yourself, for your loved ones, for your colleagues and even for humankind as a whole.

Introduction

Have you ever had a downturn on investments but needed a fast cash injection at the same time?

It can be a rough place to be in indeed. And although it seems like it’s a numbers game mostly, there’s something deeper laying at cause. More on that later.

But first, let’s ponder the question what a cash injection really is these days…

  • Is it coins and bills?
  • Is it currency and flow?
  • Is it new capital and value?
  • Or is it simply a matter of interplaying digits and assets that create a specific type of balance and supply?

There’s merit in all four of these options. And having them working together might very well be the solution to the question we started with.

But let’s not get ahead of ourselves, for there is a quintessence that makes sense of all four of them. And that quintessence needs to become clear first. More on that in a moment.

Let’s begin though with understanding a bit more about the process of creation. Because the process of creation can help you with capitalizing your cashflow. It could pay you many dividends. Even if sales or income are currently on a low curve.

Thin Air

If you want to have something, that would mean that you don’t have it already. It may exist already in some physical form. But that doesn’t necessarily has to be the case. So, how do you then get from not having it to having it, in other words, from creating the very thing you want as being part of your existence?

>>There is a real order of reality<< When you understand that order you can literally create something ‘from thin air’. An example would be this very article you’re reading right now. It didn’t exist before I wrote it. But I did want to create it. So I tapped into the creation process and constructed it ‘from thin air’.

Now it’s a form of capital in the form of content – an online asset these days. Placed on a website that generates traffic, i.e. readers, it now has also become part of a certain flow, a flow that could lead to currency.

In other words, when you want a fast cash injection, creating something ‘from thin air’ could very well be the way to get that done. And there are indeed many shapes and forms in which this creation process could then play out.

There are too many of those shapes and forms to name here though. But they all have one thing in common – they all create a form of value that could be categorized under the umbrella term ‘new capital’. And here’s why it’s important to indeed value them as such…

New Capital

There are five forms of capital when you categorize them in a general manner. From there you can then further specify it to your specific needs or wants in terms of value.

I won’t dive into these five categories here but if you want to learn more about them you can get a special Infographic that explains them all right here: >>https://www.agilebusinesswisdom.com/ultimate-one-pager<<

What’s important about this general view on new capital creation is the inner coherence by which they exist. Indeed they vary in a delicate interplay that even goes beyond a mere balance of digits and assets. But together they form an infinite supply!

Now, isn’t that the quintessence of what we all want when it comes to capitalizing your cashflow even if sales or income are on a low? That’s right, from an infinite supply there will always be more than enough.

There is one thing though that could disturb that supply. And that disturbance probably lays at cause of the low sales or income in the first place. But when understood and enlightened, it can be turned around.

It’s a delicate thing though. And sadly today, many people don’t even bother to dedicate a single thought to it. But since you’re reading this article, I reckon you’d like to learn a bit more about it.

So let’s dive in…

Ethical Creation

Creation as described before is not just a personal thing, even when done alone in an office, laboratory or somewhere else. For the place itself where that new creation takes place has already been created by others or by something or someone else (depending on your general outlook on life). So it’s safe to say that you never really create alone.

Indeed there’s always some kind of facilitation. You can call it the power of the Master Mind. So, with that in mind, it pays to pay attention to how you create. And it then makes perfect sense to create with all that is present at hand.

  • What is present at hand is the infinite supply through the five categories of capital.
  • What is present at hand is the coins and bills, currency and flow, capital and value, and digits and assets that are existing already somewhere somehow.
  • What is present at hand is the ‘thin air’ from which you can create something new.

Capital, supply and cash injection can so become more aligned in an ethical manner.

Because being aware of this greater coherence opens up the ethical dimension of respecting and honouring other peoples’ work, their contributions and efforts, and their approaches to a life well lived.

Now, to bring it all together, let’s briefly answer the question from the title of this article.

How to Ethically Create New Capital from Thin Air

When we take all the information and knowledge contained in this article and combine it with all the wisdom you already have, you can now ethically create new capital from thin air by using specific agile innovation principles that are applied from a philosophical point of view.

  1. This means that you first gain profound insight in the real order of reality.
  2. You then (re)learn the skills, tools and techniques to ethically align the five general categories of capital.
  3. And finally you get the best methodologies in place to apply your infinite supply.

If you want help with that then check the Infographic right here: >>https://www.agilebusinesswisdom.com<<

Thank you for reading this article.

I hope you’ve already received new inspiration to ethically create new capital from thin air now.

Sincerely,

Maurits van Sambeek, MA

Founder, >>The Omnibenevolence Council™<<

Author of >>Omnibenevolence<<

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