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6 Ways to Take a Holiday from the Holidays

Let’s face it, for some people, the holidays can be filled with stress and pain. While some people are making memories with loved ones, others are reminded of those no longer in their lives. Maybe there was a recent loss of a beloved family member. Maybe there was a divorce, breakup, or betrayal that rocked you to your core. If you’re moving through any of these experiences, holidays hold a different meaning and while creating new positive associations may be something to work towards, this season, you may just want to take a holiday from the Holidays.

If you noticed a pattern of getting stressed and depressed around the Holiday Season, you can consciously change that pattern now. It first starts with awareness, realizing something like: I am aware of any thoughts that come up that may trigger negative emotional patterns.

Awareness: Maybe you notice that holiday music can trigger old memories that bring you down. Notice this impacts you then check into your heart, comfort yourself, and remind yourself that old beliefs that hurt you need your care and attention.

New Rules: As you start holiday shopping, do it from a new perspective. Make sure that you have plenty of time to get the shopping done so you don’t feel rushed. Maybe decide to shop online to reduce stress and mailing costs. Maybe decide you’re giving the gift of your presence instead of your presents this year.

Whatever it takes to make your holiday season go smoothly, be willing to make the adjustments.

Traditions: Look at what traditions you want to keep and which ones fail to serve you. With the world as it is today, consider letting go of old, worn-out traditions that create stress and adjust to the new reality.

Self-Care: Look at what you can do differently to take a holiday from the Holidays. Maybe treat yourself to a massage or a facial, support your body with extra nutrients, or get a pedicure or have an entire Spa Day.

Letting Go: Reduce the stress by letting go of any tasks that are unnecessary. Maybe reduce your holiday baking. Let go of excess card writing. Let go of trying to be everything to everyone. Learn how to say “no” in order to preserve your time, well-being, and sanity.

Set some boundaries. Set some boundaries around spending. Create boundaries around what topics are off-limits, and how much you’ll be indulging in holiday food and festivities.

Today, regardless of what it takes, you may choose to take a holiday from the Holidays. Instead, creating enjoyable, stress-free traditions can be your plan for this year.

Dr. Debi, Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

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Growth Health and Wellness

Talking about Manifesting Dreams with Bestselling Author Robert V. Joseph

Robert V. Joseph’s book ‘Words From The Spirit’ recently soared on to the bestseller list. This award winning books message of personal development, spiritual connection, and the power to manifest dreams into reality in order to create success clearly resonated with both readers and reviewers. 

 

This phenomenal read includes a series of messages which can help readers find their way on their journey of personal development, as well as help them find a greater spiritual connection. Robert V. Joseph used the messages in this book to change his own life, and help him make his dreams a reality. With ‘Words From The Spirit’ he wants to help others discover the force of their spiritual energy, and become empowered in their lives.

 

Robert V. Joseph is not only a talented writer, but a successful speaker, carrying his message in venues across the United States. Recently he took some time out of his busy schedule to talk to us about his book, and what’s next. 

 

‘Words From The Spirit’ is based on the spiritual messages you received while living in NYC.  What was it like for you when you started getting these messages?  How did they change your life?  

 

For a period of approximately a year, these messages were coming to me from a spiritual place at random moments in various places.  Some messages would come to me while I was at work, some messages would come to me while I was sitting in a coffee house, some messages would come to me while I was riding on a subway train, etc.  It was interesting to live in New York City at this time because NYC has an energy like no other place I know.  And, this energy provided me with powerful stimulus for thought.  So, as this was happening, I made sure that I had something to write with and something to write on at all times.  After about a year of this process, I had a large collection of notes with these messages.  How did they change my life?  It was clear to me that God shared these messages with me to help me to improve myself and my life in various ways.  However, before I could share the words of these messages with anyone else, I had to make sure that I was walking the walk and not just talking the talk.  It was not enough for me to write these words and speak these words.  I had to live these words as well.   

 

‘Words From The Spirit’ gives readers a new way to look at the world.  It’s one thing to have a spiritual awakening and another one to write about it.  What made you want to put your story down on paper?

 

In my belief system, God is the source of all of the messages in this book.  It was simply my hand that was chosen to put the pen to the paper and share these messages in the form of a book.  I don’t consider ‘Words From The Spirit’ to be a book that tells my story.  It’s a collection of original messages that are universal in nature.  And, every reader of the book is empowered to claim any or all of these messages and apply them to her or his own life.  While the book certainly shares my beliefs with respect to spiritual connection and personal development, it does not really share my story.  I think it is true to say that there was a spiritual awakening within me as I received the messages that God intended for this book.  And, along with this spiritual awakening came a sense of purpose that compelled me to write down each of these messages, assemble them into a manuscript, edit them, publish them, and make it possible for other people to have a similar spiritual awakening.   

 

These days, people have a lot on their minds and a lot of stress.  If they want to jump-start their connection with spirituality, what can they do now to get started?

 

Connection with spirituality requires us to first acknowledge that it exists and then become aware of the ways that spirituality functions and manifests in our lives.  I don’t believe that connection with spirituality is something we can jump-start because spirituality is a part of us from the origin of life.  I believe that many people have an awareness of spirituality on a subconscious level but not on a conscious level.  And, the key to connection with spirituality is to become as conscious as possible of the ways in which spirituality functions and manifests in life.  Some examples of ways that spirituality functions and manifests in a person’s life include prayer to a Higher Power, meditation, spiritual messages from conversations with other people, faith practice or religion, spiritual messages from books, spiritual messages from songs, and experiences in the natural world.  A way for a person to take some level of control of this process is to establish a daily routine to facilitate spiritual connection on a conscious level.  For example, I facilitate this kind of spiritual connection on a daily basis with a routine that I refer to as my “Spiritual Connection Session” which includes a combination of prayer, affirmations, incantations, and specific images for active visualization.

 

I’ve heard that you are working on another book, which is very exciting.  Can you tell our readers a bit about it?

 

Yes, I am working on my next book at the present time. This book places emphasis on personal development, and in particular, the various forms of personal power that are available to all of us. In addition to in-depth discussion on the concepts and principles of personal power, this book will provide instruction on how to apply these concepts and principles in daily life in order to have success with the process of self-improvement and the accomplishment of life goals. This book will also include a number of inspirational stories which help to illustrate these forms of personal power in the context of real-life human experience.  And, in case anyone might be wondering, I plan to share a few stories from my personal life experience as well.  So, this book is where readers will be able to learn about my story.

 

Let’s change things up a bit and have some fun.  What is one of your favorite wineries in California to go to when you are looking to relax?

 

The Robert Mondavi Winery in the Napa Valley of California. It has a long-standing tradition of excellence and a relaxing atmosphere with some of the most scenic vineyards in California.  And, of course, it has great wine!

 

To find out more about Robert V. Joseph and his book ‘Words From The Spirit’ head over to Amazon.

 

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Talking Superpowers, Drumming and More with Bestselling Author E. Alan Fleischauer

Alan Fleischauer’s book ‘Just Die’ is a thrilling adventure that has readers and reviewers raving about it. In the past Fleischauer was best known for his epic award-winning westerns, but recently he turned his attention to a new genre that fans are grateful for. Recently, Fleischauer’s new book ‘Just Die’ soared to the top of the bestseller list. ‘Just Die’ is clearly a “must read” this season, sweeping readers into an enthralling story, loaded with intriguing characters and taking them deep into a story that will keep them guessing from beginning to end.

Here’s a teaser to give you a taste of what the excitement is all about. “Shortly after Jake Silver, a successful young financial advisor sells his business, he suffers a mild stroke and ends up in the hospital. Thanks to some clot-busting drugs, he recovers rapidly, only to find he’s not the man he used to be. When he discovers that he can point his finger at anything — red squirrels, marauding coyotes, drug lords, dictators — and make it die on the spot, Jake has to decide whether to use his powers for the good of the country.”

This book will have you on the edge of your seat, and leave you wanting to read more of E. Alan Fleischauer’s books. Recently he took some time out of his hectic schedule to talk to us about writing successful books, his process, and of course what’s coming next.

Do you try more to be original or to deliver to readers what they want?

Original for sure. I write for myself and my enjoyment of the process. I think it would be impossible for me to guess what the readers want. There are too many genres to address and so little time.

Did you ever envision ‘Just Die’ would be turned into a featured film and if so who in your opinion would you like to play the lead characters in the film?

Oh, yes. I would say half the people that read the book commented on how it would be a great movie. My wife thinks Matt Damon would be perfect for the part. I wonder if he is available? LOL.

How do you select the names of your characters?

That is an excellent question. The question could be expanded to names for cities, saloons, etc. In ‘Just Die’ it was easy as I just used real cities. As to names, I must confess I used my dogs’ name, Jake, for my protagonist. He was a big lovable golden retriever, may he rest in peace. The others were sometimes selected by the roles they played, a detective would not be named Geronimo, but a native American, yes. I pulled some names from my friends that wanted to be in the book, also I used names of some people I’m not fond of as antagonists. I did however change the last name! I also write Westerns and I’m always looking for interesting saloon names. The Swine Trough is one of my favorites.

‘Just Die’ is different from your books, did you find it difficult to write in a different genre of book?

No, not at all. I have done a collection of short stories, Just ‘Another Morning’, that covers many genres. From a detective novella called’ Sherlock and the Tiger’ to a story on 9-11. I’ve also written an illustrated children’s book called ‘Charlie Lou Goes to the Rodeo’.

And of course my many Westerns – ‘Rescued’, (First Place in the Laramie Award contest.) Then ‘Hunted’, ‘Kidnapped’ and ‘Tommies’, all in the JT Thomas series.

When you are not writing what do you enjoy doing for fun?

Writing is part-time. My day job is being a financial advisor and I’ve been in the industry for well over 35 years. I have about one hundred clients and I managed nearly ninety million dollars for them. My financial website is Reconfigurement.com and it focuses on reconfiguring one’s life after the age of fifty. Also, I’m a singer and drummer in a classic rock band.

All of E. Alan Fleischauer’s novels are available on his website.

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Interview with CEO, Bestselling Author Arthur Bozikas on His Latest Book ‘Iron Boy’.

Arthur Bozikas lives in Sydney, Australia and has been the CEO of a nonprofit disability organization for over twenty years. His life story was supposed to be short; at twelve, he was given an expiry date. But life doesn’t always turn out as we expect. Now sixty, he’s had forty unexpected years of life since that use by date expired.

 

After his day job as the CEO, Arthur was lecturing many business management courses part-time for seven years at the same university he graduated from. Additionally, he also was teaching many business management subjects as a casual teacher at several TAFE colleges for eight years, finally concluded all his teaching commitments to focus more on his passion for writing fiction novels.

 

I had an opportunity to catch up with Arthur on his latest book, ‘Iron Boy’. Personally, this book is inspiring, it is enduring, it is the story of struggle but also about the will and drive to move forward against all odds. It was an honor to have the opportunity to meet up with him and ask him some interview questions. This is what he shared up with me. 

 

‘Iron Boy’, is such an inspirational story looking back what got you through the entire experience? 

 

My family, and in particular my wife. Helen has continued to be the light in my darkness, I’m here because of her! More so, I’ve succeeded and excelled both personally and professionally because of her encouragement and support every way possible. My wife is amazing and I’ve been so lucky to have her in my life!

 

Have you ever gotten writer’s block and if so have you overcome it?

 

I’ve heard about writer’s block but only experienced an insignificant burden maybe because I started writing at a late age and I’ve got so much to say? When it occurs, I simply stop and start again the next day. It never lasts longer than a day. For me, stopping immediately is what overcomes it.

 

What is the first book that made you cry?

 

April Fool’s Day is a 1993 book by Australian author Bryce Courtenay. The book is a tribute to the author’s son, Damon Courtenay, a haemophiliac who contracted HIV/AIDS through an infected blood transfusion. The title refers to the date of Damon’s death, 1 April 1991. It was this book that I decided to be an author!

 

Do you think someone could be a writer if they don’t feel emotions strongly?

 

After reading many books over the years, I believe anyone can be a writer. However, only the great ones write with strong emotions.

 

What does literary success look like to you and what is something that you hope people can take away from, ‘Iron Boy’?

 

Reviews are a great indicator but success for me is getting published and holding the finished work in my hands in a form of a book. I would love if everyone can view each other as “people first” and not focus on their disability. No one is perfect, everyone gets old and eventually gets a disability in one form or another.

 

The most important question is how are you feeling today and if there is one lesson or something that you would like to share from the entire process that you experienced from the beginning to now what would that be and why is it important for you to share? 

 

I feel great to be alive. I think one lesson for me would be to go back and tell my younger self to stop worrying every day. I wasted so much time worrying instead of enjoying life! Try it, it’s awesome for you and for everyone in your life…

 

For More Information on Arthur Bozikas and to get a copy of ‘Iron Boy’ click here. https://arthurbozikas.com

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Pre-Onboarding Wisdom for Franchises

There is such a thing as pre-onboarding. Let me make this statement about it . . .

If you want your entire franchise to achieve high levels of success from top to bottom, pre-onboarding is something you absolutely have to do.

So, what is this activity that I am recommending so strongly, pre-onboarding? It is a process in which you enroll serious potential buyers in a program that teaches them everything about your franchise that you possibly can. You give them a complete onboarding experience, omitting only the signing of final agreements and legal papers.

Why Is Pre-Onboarding Essential Today?

In the old days, individual owners often had an imperfect idea about what they were getting themselves into when they bought franchises. They went ahead and bought anyway. Many had high expectations, became disillusioned, and got out fast.

In today’s more competitive climate, franchises realize that allowing that to happen can cause irreparable damage to the entire franchise at every level, because . . .

  • It becomes dramatically more difficult to sell franchises, because potential buyers won’t consider buying one where there is a known chance of failure. And if individual franchises are failing, make no mistake about it, potential new owners will find out.
  • Customers stay away if they see one location close, and stop shopping at franchisees that are not well run. The strength of the entire franchise brand erodes.
  • The owners of failing franchisees sell their locations at low prices, or at the bottom of the scale, their franchise agreement requires. That devalues the entire franchise, with crippling results.
  • Unskilled, ineffective franchise owners become the norm in a franchise. Again, the results of that are crippling. Poor sale revenues, low customer loyalty, high employee turnover, and other problems become the norm.
  • Communications between the franchise company and individual owners are weak because they were not established early on. In your franchise, you want to make sure that your relationship with every franchisees is strong, positive, and ultra-effective. That can’t be an afterthought. It is something you need to establish and cultivate with your owners through pre-onboarding, even before they become owners.

Some Keys to Effective Pre-Onboarding

Have your strongest potential buyers . . .

  • Visit and spend a few days working in successful franchise locations, so they see first-hand how your franchise works, what makes it successful, and more. 
  • Enroll in the same training programs that you offer do your franchise owners. 
  • Attend your annual franchise convention, where they can take part in seminars, hear talks from successful franchisees, and get an informed inside perspective on what their experiences as owners will be like. 
  • Get to know with your current owners, become part of their community, and share information and insights. This helps assure that new owners come on board with realistic expectations, and helps build a community in which all your franchisees are part of something that they see are critically important to their success and to their lives.
  • Sit down with members of your franchise’s leaders, with successful franchisees, with members of your sales team, and other important people in your enterprise.

Does offering a great pre-onboarding program take time? Yes, but in the end, it saves time because your franchise owners are more knowledgeable, more enthusiastic, more skilled, and much more likely to succeed. Plus, a great pre-onboarding program makes each of your franchise locations more profitable.

So as I close this article, let me offer one final word of advice about pre-onboarding. If you do it, and do it well, it will completely transform your franchise.

About Evan Hackel

Evan Hackel is a 35-year franchising veteran as both a franchisor and franchisee. He is CEO of Tortal Training, a leading training development company, and principal of Ingage Consulting. He is a speaker, hosts “Training Unleashed,” a podcast covering training for business, and author of Ingaging Leadership. To hire Evan as a speaker, visit evanspeaksfranchising.com. Follow @ehackel or call 781-820-7609. Why not have Evan Hackel address your group about franchising success?

 

 

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Michael Beas Interviews Hollywood Producer Burt Weissbourd on Movies, Books and Yellowstone

Burt Weissbourd is a novelist, screenwriter and producer of feature films. He was born in 1949 and graduated cum laude from Yale University, with honors in psychology. During his student years, he volunteered at the Museum of Modern Art in Paris and taught English to college students in Thailand. After he graduated, he wrote, directed, and produced educational films for Gilbert Altschul Productions. He began a finance program at the Northwestern University Graduate School of Business, but left in his final semester to start his own film production company in Los Angeles. He managed that company from 1977 until 1986, producing films including Ghost Story starring Fred Astaire, Melvyn Douglas, John Houseman, and Douglas Fairbanks Jr, and Raggedy Man starring Sissy Spacek and Sam Shepard, which The New York Times called “A movie of sweet, low-keyed charm.”

In 1987, he founded an investment business, which he still runs. Burt’s novels include the thrillers Danger in Plain Sight, The Corey Logan Trilogy (Inside Passage, Teaser and Minos), and In Velvet, which is set in Yellowstone National Park.

I had the privilege of working with Burt Weissbourd in 2021 and had the honor in being part of the success of   his books becoming International Bestsellers on a world wide arena. With hundred of reviews and talk of his works being showcased at Yellowstone it is truly a pleasure to interview him on C-Suite.

This is what he shared up with us.

From movies to pen and paper you have quite the portfolio of published and produced works. My first question is which is of your books is your favorite and why? 

This is a hard question to answer. It’s like being asked who’s your favorite child? The answer is always all of them. My first book, however, Inside Passage, will always be special for me. Not only because it was my first book, but because that’s the first time I wrote, and thought carefully, about Corey Logan and Abe Stein. Corey and Abe went on to be at the center of all three books in the Corey Logan trilogy.

 

I read that you use to teach during your college years English to students in Thailand, what was that experience like and more so what in your view did you learn from your students?

Teaching in Thailand was a great experience. I was young, twenty years old, and the college where I was teaching had just opened, so there was quite a lot of improvising. What I remember most was that my students couldn’t speak English, and I spoke very little Thai. Early on, I figured out that what they did know was the words to popular songs. They knew the words to Beattle songs, Rolling Stones songs and so on. What I did was teach them English by teaching them the meanings of the words in the songs. Before too long, often when I came into town, my students would break into these songs. It was funny and actually quite sweet.

 

From a movie perspective, you have worked with some of the biggest names Hollywood, one that comes to mind is Fred Astaire, who starred in your film “Ghost Story” among others. The question is when you write a script or a book for the matter do you visualize the characters acting in real life if that book or script becomes a featured film? My question is more directed on the mind set and process that you envision when writing a manuscript. 

One of the things I learned producing films was that casting a movie before it was getting made, was very difficult. I think that carried over to my writing. It wasn’t a conscious decision, but I never think about actors or actresses when I’m creating a character. Sometimes, after the book is finished, I fantasize about who might play the part, but that’s always after the book is done.

 

Talk to us about what you have in the works from a book / novel standpoint. Do you have anything in the works that fans of your writing can look forward to reading? 

I’m now finishing the sequel to Danger in Plain Sight, the last book that I wrote. It’s called Rough Justice, and it follows Callie and Cash a year later. This book begins with a twenty-six-year old woman, Sara, immigrating from Paris to the U.S. She has a visa, a job, and she flies to Seattle, where she’s picked up by an older woman, one of her new employers. This woman takes her on the company’s boat in the San Juan Islands to bring her to her new workplace and living set up. At night, on the water, the woman tries to kill her. Sara kills her assailant, gets away, to realize that she has no idea why they tried to kill her, and that she’s in a country where she knows no one. She has one lead, before she died, her mother gave her a letter written to her from her dad. The letter was from Seattle. She finds her dad at Callie’s restaurant in Seattle, Le Cochon Bronze. It’s Cash Logan, living now with Callie. He has no idea that he has a twenty-six year old daughter. Nor why people are trying to kill her. Sara is unmistakably Cash’s daughter, in brainpower, temperament and imagination. The story evolves from there.

I would like to know and maybe this can be the bonus question: But one of my questions would be  why is Yellowstone important to you? 

I’m very excited to be selling my Yellowstone book, In Velvet, in the park next year. I’m hoping to team up with Yellowstone Forever, the principal foundation for the park to sell books together. I’m also exploring creating a partnership with some of the hotels in Yellowstone. 2022 is the 150th anniversary of the park, and I’m finding that there are lots of opportunities to take advantage of that, particularly since I’m willing to publish an anniversary edition. This is all at the early stage, but if it works, it promise the possibility to create long term relationships with partners to sell books with me to the three million plus visitors to Yellowstone every year.

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Culture Growth Health and Wellness

Be Thankful for Who Your Kids Are—Not Who You Want Them to Be

Here in the United States, we’re a week away from one of our oldest holiday traditions: Thanksgiving. Whether or not you celebrate Thanksgiving where you’re located, it’s a good opportunity to show some gratitude for all that we have: our homes, our families, our health.

 

As a parent, I know you’re incredibly thankful for the gift that is your child. But sometimes we can be grateful for our kids and yet, in the same breath, wish they were different.

If only my kid were as well-behaved as my neighbor’s.

I wish my son got into an Ivy League school.

Why can’t my daughter be more friendly?

 

Parents find it hard to accept their kids for who they are. When a child exercises their autonomy, the parent often responds by telling them they’re rude, bad, spoiled, or unappreciative. We don’t stop to wonder:

What makes my kid more outspoken than the neighbor’s child?

What else interests my son besides schoolwork?

What social situations make my daughter feel most comfortable?

 

Why do we freak out in the moment when our kids say “no” instead of wondering what they’re saying “yes” to?

Your child may be your progeny, but they aren’t your clone. At most, they only share half your DNA, and they have a unique combination of experiences and emotions that are separate and apart from yours. All too often, parents treat their children as though they should be dolls: obedient, orderly, and passive. Those attitudes are often subconscious and stem from what we learned during our own childhoods.

But the cycle is not inevitable. When you engage with your child and get curious about what they’re saying “yes” to, you open the lines of communication and start to connect with them at heart-level, as human beings. And when we truly connect, that’s when we realize that our kids aren’t being self-centered or defiant—they’re just being themselves.

Our kids aren’t being self-centered or defiant—they’re just being themselves.

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The truth is, our kids don’t exist to obey us, comply to our rules, or make us happy. Each child is their own unique individual, with their own personality, opinions, and set of likes and dislikes.

So this Thanksgiving, eat a slice of humble pie, and accept that it’s not “your way or the high way” when it comes to parenting. As healthy, conscious parents (or caregivers!), it’s our duty to nurture our kids’ autonomy and uniqueness. That’s how we help them grow to be self-sufficient adults.

We need to recognize this responsibility, take it to heart, and be grateful that our children are just the way they are. Teaching kids to be considerate of their own needs and the needs of others trumps training kids to be obedient and compliant every time.

Happy Thanksgiving! I am thankful for you, and happy that we’re on this journey together.

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From Manager to Consultant: Evolving Your Parent-Child Relationship for The Teen Years

Parenting a teenager evokes a powerful combination of conflicting emotions: pride and worry, joy and frustration. Indeed, this phase of life can be just as challenging for parents as it is for their kids!

The parent-child relationship fundamentally changes as your children turn into young adults. While this transformation is rewarding to witness, it also forces you to adapt your parenting style so that you’re less of a manager and more of a trusted consultant.

The Individuation Process 

Many parents fear that they’ll lose their connection to their children as they navigate the rocky teen years. Teenangers are often written off as having difficult attitudes and wanting nothing to do with their parents, but these clichés don’t tell the whole story.

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What’s really happening is that teens are going through the process of individuation and forming their own independent identities. 

Individuation can be distressing for parents, as it manifests in ways that aren’t always pleasant. Your teen may become self-absorbed or defensive, and they’ll likely want to spend less time with you than they used to.

Although these changes are perfectly normal, the process can be confusing, hurtful and even a little scary for even the most understanding parent. But creating a safe space for your child’s individuation process is crucial to maintaining a happy and healthy parenting relationship.

Evolving Your Parenting Style from Managerial to Consulting 

While it might seem like your child is pushing you away, the truth is that they still need you during this turbulent phase of their life! Teens are faced with high-stakes decisions every day, from navigating peer pressure and romantic relationships to choosing their path post-graduation.

They need someone they trust to guide them through these decisions. That someone can be you. But here’s the catch-22: the more you try to manage their obstacles or insert yourself into their decision-making process, the more your teen will turn away. They need to feel independent and autonomous—and if you ignore that need, you’ll push them in the wrong direction.

So, how should your behavior evolve to best support your teen? Here are a few suggestions:

  • Make your home a judgment-free zone. Kids absorb cues that you may not even realize you’re giving. Have you inadvertently conveyed that you view failing a test as a sign of weakness? Your teen will be less likely to approach you for help if they do poorly on an exam. Be mindful of how you express your feelings and opinions so that you don’t shut down conversations before they begin.
  • Spend quality time together. Simple activities like running errands or eating dinner together create space for open communication between you and your kid. The more you can be available without them having to seek you out, the more chances they’ll have to open up to you.
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  • Respect boundaries. As important as it is to be available for your teen, don’t take it personally when they aren’t interested in talking. Respect their space by not prying or forcing them into a conversation. What they may need most is peace and quiet, and honoring that could help them more than you realize.
  • Reinforce your support. We all need to be reminded that the people who love us want to be there for us. Teenagers are no exception. Every now and then, remind your kid that you’re a safe person for them to go to if they need to talk or want guidance.

Ultimately, you want to create an environment where your teen will come to you. Take the initiative in adjusting your own behavior to build their trust in you as a reliable confidante.

Evolving your parenting role from manager to consultant is a form of letting go. You give your child more autonomy to be their authentic self, and you give up some of your own control in the process.

It’s no small feat, and wherever you are in that process, I applaud you.

 

Love and Blessings,

Katherine

P.S. If you need support as you navigate your child’s individuation process, join the revolution in our Facebook group! You can meet and talk to other parents who are going through a similar transition.

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“Negotiating A Salary Increase — How To Do It Properly And Persuasively” – Negotiation Tip of the Week

“To negotiate salary increases successfully, you must know the perception of value and how to use it.” -Greg Williams, The Master Negotiator & Body Language Expert (Click to Tweet)

 

 

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“Negotiating A Salary Increase — How To Do It Properly And Persuasively”

 

People don’t realize they’re always negotiating.

Whether you are a fresh graduate or a seasoned professional, you have probably given some thought to the tricky salary negotiation process. That is because negotiating a salary increase can be fraught with opportunities and disappointments. Thus, like in any negotiation, the better prepared you are for the coming interactions, enhanced will become the probability of getting what you seek.

What follows are insider thoughts and ideas about how you can become more successful in your salary negotiations and enhance your negotiating salary increases.

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5 Words Of The Year And The ONE Thing To Focus On For 2022!

Why Five Words Of The Year 2021?

There’s magic in numbers…

Let’s look at the meaning of 2021 for example: 2+0+2+1 = 5. And since the number 5 stands for change, we can use five words to understand what changes took place this year.

We all know there’s been global pandemics, local lock-downs, renewed investments and new global perspectives rising. But not everyone’s experience is aligned with the deeper meanings of all of this. And for many it’s especially hard to rise above the turmoil that the year has brought. I’ve experienced some heart-braking moments too. That’s why I dove deep into the words that I’d like to share with you in this article.

So let’s dive into the five words of the year 2021 that could help gain a deeper understanding of what happened, what is happening, and what could happen in the next year and beyond.

Before we begin though, one fair warning – these five words of the year are not randomly chosen. Yet, they’re also not the only words one can choose. Just allow yourself to immerse in the deeper layers of meaning of these five words of the year – how they now apply to your life, business, and potential new acts of benevolence. From there, perhaps all other words could also gain more meaning and sense again.

Let’s begin with:

  1. Time. We all have it. We all use it. We all share it somehow. But what is your experience of it? Do you think you have enough of it to do everything you want? Is there a feeling of wanting more of it? Do you spend it too much on things that don’t really matter, or would you like to share more of it with loved ones?

Time… It’s a complex of movements, rhythms and change. It’s available in units as well as it is infinite. It gives us moments. It takes things away.

And it helps us develop talents, over time.

 

  1. Talent. We all have some of it. We all use it to some degree. We all share in the skills that get developed by it somehow. But what is your experience of it? Do you think you have well-developed talents? Is there a feeling of not having enough of them? Do you work on developing more of them or putting it to use for greater benefits?

Talent… It’s a complex discussion whether it’s all inborn or solely a matter of proper nurture and education. It’s something that some people seem to be more endowed with than others. We can share them to enhance them.

And it helps us come together to combine and develop treasures of different kinds and values.

 

  1. Treasure. We all have some of it, whether as skill, talent, time, or finances. We all use it in various ways. We all share opinions about it, whether we agree or not about the value and use. But what is your experience of it? Do you think you have enough of it to be wealthy? Is there a feeling of lack or insecurity about it, or perhaps a desire to expand and expound upon it? Do you share it with others or mostly keep it for yourself?

Treasure… It’s a complex word that carries many meanings. For some the real treasure is pure health and vital life force. For others it’s mental resourcefulness or pure gold in a metaphorical sense. For many it’s solely related to money and luxury items.

And for most of us, all these forms of treasures help us somehow to be inspired and motivated to getting things done for the greater good of ourselves and others.

 

  1. Philanthropy. We all have an implicit notion of it. We all have had some use of it. We all share in the acts it brings forth somehow. But what is your experience of it? Do you think you have a profound understanding of its meaning? Or is there a feeling of disagreement with it or a desire to develop it more? Do you share one or more of the things related to the three words above (time, talent, treasure) in the light of being philanthropical?

Philanthropy… It’s a complex activity with many aspects and layers. It’s an historical endeavor as well as a modern day industry. It has a calling and a changing reputation.

We could say that in a way it helps us coming together in a greater spirit of harmony for the definite purpose of doing more good in the world.

 

  1. Mastermind. We all have greater thoughts, at least sometimes. We all use aspects of this grander spirit, to some degree. We all share in the effects of it, somehow. But what is your experience of it? Do you think you have a clear understanding of the word ‘mastermind’, the concept, its workings? Is there a feeling of not slightly ‘getting it,’ or perhaps connotations that go in various directions? Do you share your thoughts and feelings with two or more people in order to come to greater clarity and actionable plans?

Mastermind… It’s a complex concept for grasping something larger than our sole individualistic consciousness. It’s a greater term for bringing many things of thought together. It’s a profound gathering of the seen and unseen in a spirit of cooperation.

And it helps us to transcend the current states of affairs in order to reach something that’s perceived as better.

So let’s bring it all together in the ONE thing to focus on for the new year and beyond…

What is The ONE Thing to focus on in 2022?

The above five words of the year show us that we had some time to develop our talents. They also show us that we might have lost parts of our treasures but there were also signs that new treasures are on the way. They show us that we can learn anew why it matters to help one another, even when it’s done remotely or firstly alone for our direct neighbors.

And, these five words show us that there’s something greater at work, for all of us, with us and through us!

So, what would then be the compelling thing we need to work on, now, in the next year and beyond – What is The ONE Thing to focus on in 2022?

I think we can summarize it in one word…

>>OmniBenevolence!<<

This means we can work on goodness abound, from the inside out and from the outside in. This means that it’s not just for one person or for one single group. It simply means that we use the five words of the year 2021 in relation to all other words, in order to think, talk and do more good in the world – indeed feeling it from the inside out and both living it from the outside in.

And there are many ways to give this vital power a chance (see links below). But let’s begin with a question:

What words would you use to describe the meaning of OmniBenevolence? Share them in the comments when you share this article.

Thank you!

To a wonderful new year!

Sincerely,

Maurits van Sambeek, MA

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PS: Do you want to read more on these words and their deeper meanings?

Then follow these links to valuable articles and resources: