“Astonishing Advice About The 7 Body Language Micro-Expression Signs That Announce Negotiation Danger”
People don’t realize they’re always negotiating.
Danger lurked in the negotiation. But nobody knew its signs.
Did you see that, asked the first negotiator? See what asked the second negotiator? The body language signs displayed throughout the negotiation by the opposing negotiators indicated danger. Their gestures became more hostile as the talks progressed, replied the first negotiator. She continued by saying, we should have paid more attention to their body language signs. Had we done so, we might have avoided the negotiation impasse.
When was the last time you were stuck in a negotiation and wondered how you missed the body language signs indicating pending danger? Accurately reading body language can help you avoid such perils. Plus, it gives you an advantage during negotiations.
There are seven body language signals you can use to assist in helping you avoid tumultuous outcomes. The following body language gestures are known as micro-expressions. They encapsulate the displayer’s emotional state of mind at that moment in time. And micro-expressions last for less than a second. Thus, the person’s brain does not control the display before he makes it.
What follows is advice about how to recognize the seven body language signs that announce danger in a negotiation. Once you become armed with this information and implement its insights, you should be better prepared to alter the flow of a negotiation headed for danger.
It’s normal — and even healthy — to treat children differently. After all, they’re each their own individual person with unique needs. But how can you honor their individuality without making it seem like you’re playing favorites?
The Dos and Dont’s: When You Should Treat Your Kids Differently — and When You Shouldn’t
As a mother myself, I know that YOU know you’re not actually playing favorites. Many factors contribute to our daily interactions with our kids: their personality, age, maturity level, even their birth order!
Consider the experience of a first-born child. They’re brought into the world by parents who look at them like deer in headlights — completely inexperienced when it comes to raising a baby. This child may recall being the center of attention, with Mom and Dad anxiously monitoring their every move.
The second-born child, on the other hand, will probably have a different experience — in large part because their parents feel more confident and at ease the second time around.
The truth is, no two children experience the same family in the same way.And no parent experiences each child the same way either! Each kid is unique — and their individuality is precisely why we can’t treat them the same way all the time.
When considering your kids’ individual needs, DO treat them differently according to:
Personality. You can’t expect an introverted child to have the same hobbies or activities as an extroverted child. Encourage your kid to identify what interests them and be supportive of what they choose — whether it’s sports, ballet, drama, painting, or even reading quietly by themselves.
Tailor your approach even when prodding your children to make friends. An introverted child may be more comfortable with a one-on-one playdate, while an extroverted child might enjoy group activities.
Age. It’s normal for a younger child to complain when their older sibling is allowed to do something they’re not. But as the parent, it’s important to stand your ground about what’s developmentally appropriate for each kid.
Be firm but empathetic about why, as a 7-year-old, your kid can’t drink coffee or go to the mall on their own. Acknowledge their frustration and let them know you understand their disappointment. That acknowledgement will help them release the negative emotion and let the issue go.
Special needs. If your kid has a learning condition, allergies, or any type of special needs, by all means cater to them. Encourage their siblings to practice being considerate and supportive of each other’s special needs, too. If one child is allergic to nuts, for example, ask your other children to be selective about the food they share at home and have alternative food options their sibling can eat.
That said, don’t forget to give time and attention to the kid who doesn’t have special needs. Some children are so good at being the “strong, supportive sibling” that they don’t know how to ask for help from their parents when they need it. So be proactive about checking in with them!
Maturity level. Not all kids have the same level of maturity at ages 5, 10, 15. Some children are more mature than others, and should be treated accordingly to nurture their autonomy and independence. Still, navigating these considerations can be difficult for parents, as I learned firsthand.
When my daughter Pia was in 6th grade and we were living in Hong Kong, I left for an extended work trip. Upon my return, I found out that Pia had started taking taxis on her own. My husband was comfortable with this milestone, but boy was I unprepared!
We ended up resolving this conflict through effective communication. The truth of the matter was that Pia was ready and responsible for that level of independence. Luckily, my daughter understood that it was me who had a problem with fear, worry, and letting go. She supported my needs and came to a compromise by agreeing to text me her whereabouts whenever she took a taxi on her own.
When considering your kids’ individual needs, DON’T treat them differently when it comes to:
Implementing value systems. Your expectations for behavior and responsibilities should be consistent among all your children. Let your kids know that everyone is expected to be kind, considerate, and helpful — inside and outside the house. No exceptions.
Showing appreciation. Whether you’re attending your daughter’s field hockey game or your son’s piano recital, be their biggest cheerleader. Show them you’re proud of who they are and how they choose to express themselves.
Spending quality time. It’s important to spend quality bonding time alone with each child. Schedule a “Mommy/Daddy and Me” time at least once a month with your kids — and hold that time sacred and immovable.
Treating your kids differently doesn’t mean you’re playing favorites. It means you respect your children as individuals with varied needs and desires.
Explain to your kids why they require different treatment from you at times. But let them know that when it comes to the question of who your favorite is, the answer is “no one” — because you love them equally.
Hello, all you fans out there. Kak Varley here with another kTip.
I wanted to talk about why there is no silver bullet in marketing. You see it all the time in ads. They’re going to make you a million dollars tomorrow, from what I understand, and there’s always a new tool. There are a ton of tools in the digital marketing space that tells you that they’re going to get the job done, they’re going to make you money or make your job easier. And it is true. There are plenty of them and they do a great job. They do what they say they’re going to do in terms of functionality. But here’s the first thing I ask my clients when they come across a new tool, do you know how to use it? Do you know how to use it? Do you know how to set it up? That’s the question. The second question I always ask is, what kind of marketing principles are you going to apply to this tool to make it provide results? Because the tool itself isn’t going to do what you want it to do in terms of goals. It’s the marketing principles that you apply that will have an effect.
If you have any questions, please contact me at KakVarley.com. I’m going to keep on doing these tips, but I don’t do them on a regular basis, I do them in batches. If you want to know when the next one’s coming out, please hit the subscribe button over here. I’d like to keep on providing you with this kind of help.
You may be thinking “Why do I need a book proposal? I don’t plan to submit it to a publishing company. I’m publishing it independently.”
Book proposals serve a valuable purpose for authors, agents, and acquisitions editors at publishing houses. The author prepares a detailed summary of the book’s essence, provides a chapter outline and usually one to three sample chapters, describes his or her platform, i.e. authority, reputation, social media presence, and other elements, and summarizes his or her marketing plan. Authors often submit a book proposal to agents or editors prior to writing or completion of the book.
Most of the elements of a traditional book proposal can serve a different and equally important purpose for you as a future self-publishing author.
The Purpose of a Synopsis
A synopsis can help you plan what to put in your book. It gives you the opportunity to look at the big picture of what you intend to write.
Once you have your general concept in mind, you can make sure that someone else hasn’t already written a book that too closely mirrors what you intend.
Search on Amazon. If, for example, you want to write a book that demonstrates the value of women having prominence in the C-Suite, you might search for “women leaders management.” (By the way, this subject seems to be wide open for development.)
I recommend that you further research any titles you find, and if they look genuinely interesting, you can read samples and decide if they’re worth buying. In the course of your research, you may find your book idea has a unique slant on the subject. Learning that someone has said what you want to say may spur you to find a different original focus.
A Book Must Have a Structure
If you are thinking about writing a book, you may feel overwhelmed by the swirl of ideas in your mind. You can think of dozens of subjects that could go into your manuscript, but how do they all fit together? How do you narrow down your subject matter so that the reader isn’t as overwhelmed as you are at this moment?
Writing a proposal will help you to not only define but to organize your book. Its basic structure provides a format into which you can put your ideas into separate categories that will turn into chapters.
Briefly summarize what you want to include in each chapter, and put it aside. Come back a day or two later and read it carefully. How do the chapter topics flow? Would a different order make your points more fluidly?
At this stage of planning your book, you have the greatest flexibility. You can order and reorder, experimenting until you have a structure that will guide the reader to an understanding of what you want to say. Don’t stop until you’re satisfied that one chapter builds on the previous one in an organic way and that the conclusion ties it all together.
You Will Write Much More Easily
Writing a nonfiction book without a synopsis and chapter outline is like traveling in a foreign country without a map. You may find your way to your destination. You may also get very lost.
At worst, you will decide to abandon the journey.
The combined guidance of a synopsis and chapter outline will save you from the question: “What do I write next?” You know what your next subject will be, and that writing goes much more smoothly.
By doing the advance work, you greatly increase your chances of realizing your dream of having a published book.
You can find much information about how to write a book proposal on the Internet. Here are two starter sites. Both of them are written with an agent or editor in mind, but the basics of the actual writing apply to writing a book proposal for any purpose.
One of the best-known methods for writing a book that reaches your ideal audience is to imagine you are writing for one person who represents the audience you want to meet.
If you want to write a book that will help women entrepreneurs, you might envision a woman in her forties. She is divorced. Her two children are in college. She has recently downsized her living space. She’s reached a dead-end place in her corporate job. She has an idea/product/service that she wants to market.
Interview Her
Keeping this person in mind will help you focus on relevant material for your book. You can take this a step further.
Imagine that you’re this woman’s business coach. Think about the kinds of questions she might. These questions will vary, based on the particular focus of your book. Here are some samples:
Practical Questions
How do I get start-up financing?
What kind of legal entity should my business be?
Should I keep my current job and start the new business in my spare time?
Can I (do I have to) do it all on my own?
If I take on a partner, what do I need to consider?
Motivational Questions
How do I develop the will and stamina to persist?
What professional organizations should I join?
What can I do to keep my dream alive?
What are good sources for creative inspiration?
How do I keep my life in balance?
Fill in the Picture
Once you’ve completed the list of questions, write down your best answers. As you do so, imagine that you’re speaking directly with this woman. Listen for the additional questions your answers elicit. Write them down, too.
If you have chosen your questions well, this process will give you the foundation for a book.
As you write it, continue to keep your ideal reader in mind. Pause from time to time, and ask her, “Does that answer your question?” Don’t be surprised if she answers you. You may discover that you’re engaging in an ongoing dialogue with her.
You will need to have more material in your book. You will probably want to interview successful women entrepreneurs and include other success stories you’ve discovered in your research.
Here again, your ideal reader can help you. When you choose among stories, ask her, “Does this inspire you? Does it provide practical information?”
She will probably become real for you. You’ll miss her when you’ve finished your book. However, you will have your reward. Her counterparts will read your book and say to themselves, “How did this author know exactly what I needed to read?”
You’ll know why—and it would be a nice touch if you dedicate your book to her.
The links below will give you further insights into getting to know your ideal reader.
Pat Iyer is a book coach who works with authors to plan their books so that they are laser targeted on their ideal reader. Reach Pat through her website at http://patiyer.com.
