Handling Conflict as A Leader
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Hello, everyone! I am Eddie Turner, The Leadership Excelerator®. In this episode of the Keep Leading!® podcast (#107), I interview Dr. Jen Goldman-Wetzler. She is an organizational psychologist and the founder & CEO of Alignment Strategies Group. We discuss “Handling Conflict as a Leader.” Jen explains how to deal with conflict and achieving conflict resolution. Here’s some of the information you’ll learn in this podcast.
What is Conflict?
Conflict is part of our human experience. For some, it’s part of daily life. We may notice conflict emerging when we interact with someone, and it does not feel right. We may find ourselves intentionally avoiding someone, or we may not treat someone the way we should.
For a leader, an ineffective resolution of conflict can derail success at work and home. However, there are times when conflict can be a healthy element of life. In business, for example, it can lead to creativity and innovation— particularly when you have teams with diverse perspectives.
Situations When Conflict is Destructive for a Leader
As a leader, you must identify when a conflict is healthy and is helping you be more innovative and when it is not and therefore detrimental.
Destructive Conflict Situations
- When you are going around and around in circles and not getting the required answers
- When you are not coming up with the solutions that you thought you were going to.
- When you feel like banging your head up against the wall while trying to get your team to do something different, but they are resisting and not doing it.
- The ‘under the surface’ kind of conflict that bubbles up now and again and then dies down only to explode later, which you do not want to see or do anything about it.
People often get stuck on a conflict loop going around and around without any outcome due to certain conflict habits.
The Four Conflict Habits
- We avoid conflicts because we don’t know what to do about them. So we either blame other people or blame and shame ourselves.
- We shut down in the face of recurring conflict.
- We relentlessly seek collaboration with other people and yet fail to get anywhere.
- We waste time, energy, money, and resources- trying to achieve a ‘win-win’ solution with someone who does not cooperate with us.
Each of these four habits can be useful and can lead to healthy conflict outcomes unless a leader uses it habitually.
Handling Conflict
As a leader, dealing with destructive conflict situations or conflicting habits is about freeing yourself from them. If even one person makes a change, the entire relationship can get better in conflict situations.
Steps for Handling Conflicts as A Leader
Step 1 Stop, pause, and notice what is going on.
Step 2 Identify the conflict habit.
Step 3 Break the habitual response pattern.
- If a person shuts down during conflict, you need to cool off over a weekend or let it go for a few days. It can jolt the other person out of their habitual way.
- If a person has a conflict-avoiding habit, have a conversation with them. Share the truth with love, care, and respect.
Step 4 Be more direct in letting others know what you need.
Step 5 Empower yourself by learning negotiation skills to resolve conflicts with a win-win outcome.
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Eddie Turner is an in-demand expert in leadership development. Forbes called Eddie the preeminent authority on emerging leaders. He works as an executive coach for senior and emerging leaders. Eddie delivers keynote speeches and facilitates learning delivery and executive strategy sessions.
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
|Eddie Turner is an in-demand expert in leadership development. Forbes called Eddie the preeminent authority on emerging leaders. He works as an executive coach for senior and emerging leaders. Eddie delivers keynote speeches and facilitates learning delivery and executive strategy sessions.
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
|Eddie Turner is an in-demand expert in leadership development. Forbes called Eddie the preeminent authority on emerging leaders. He works as an executive coach for senior and emerging leaders. Eddie delivers keynote speeches and facilitates learning delivery and executive strategy sessions.
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
|Eddie Turner is an in-demand expert in leadership development. Forbes called Eddie the preeminent authority on emerging leaders. He works as an executive coach for senior and emerging leaders. Eddie delivers keynote speeches and facilitates learning delivery and executive strategy sessions.
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
|Eddie Turner is an in-demand expert in leadership development. Forbes called Eddie the preeminent authority on emerging leaders. He works as an executive coach for senior and emerging leaders. Eddie delivers keynote speeches and facilitates learning delivery and executive strategy sessions.
Eddie is a Certified Speaking Professional™ (CSP®) and ranked #6 on the "Top 30" list of Motivational Speakers by Global Gurus. He is also a certified trainer and master facilitator.
Eddie has appeared in national print, radio, and television media such as the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Fox News, and ABC. He has also worked as a national media commentator.
Eddie Turner is one of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, an International Certified Coach, an Affiliate Coach with the Institute of Coaching (McLean/Harvard Medical School), a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) coach with the International Coach Federation, and an official ICF Mentor Coach. Of the more than 37,000 ICF members in 143 countries, Eddie Turner was selected as a 2020 ICF Coach of the Week.
Eddie is the author of an international best-selling book, a C-Suite advisor, and C-Suite Radio host of the Keep Leading!® podcast, which earned Apple Podcasts coveted New & Noteworthy designation.
Eddie Turner is one of 60 contributing subject matter experts to the Talent Development Body of Knowledge—The Definitive Resource for the Talent Development Profession by the Association for Talent Development.
Eddie has extensive experience working with all levels of leaders in Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, international conglomerates, universities, public, private, and non-profit organizations as a technology and leadership consultant. He studied leadership and organization behavior at Northwestern University, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree. Eddie also holds an Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School in Public Leadership.
Contact Eddie Turner to work with your senior or emerging leaders to "Accelerate Performance and Drive Impact!"®
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