There is a quiet frustration echoing through boardrooms, leadership retreats, and executive Slack channels everywhere.
“We can’t find good people.”
“Our teams aren’t engaged.”
“Something just isn’t working.”
And yet, beneath those statements lies a deeper truth that many leaders are reluctant to confront:
The problem isn’t your people. The problem is how you understand them.
When I sat down with Alex Aanderud—an expert in leadership, communication, and human behavior whose career spans aerospace engineering, military flight testing, and integrative psychology—I expected a conversation about performance optimization.
What I got instead was a fundamental reframing of leadership itself.
Because if you want better outcomes in your business, you don’t start with strategy.
You start with people.
And more specifically, you start with understanding what drives them.
The Making of a Different Kind of Leader
Alex’s journey doesn’t begin in a boardroom or a lab.
It begins in adversity.
Childhood trauma.
Serious medical challenges.
Authority figures who decided early on that he wouldn’t succeed.
Not because he lacked ability.
But because they could not lead him effectively.
That distinction matters.
Because it challenges one of the most persistent myths in business:
That performance is primarily an individual responsibility.
Alex’s experience tells a different story.
Performance is contextual. It is shaped, enabled, or suppressed by leadership.
And when leaders fail to create the right environment, even the most capable individuals will struggle.
The Dangerous Narrative of “Nobody Wants to Work”
If you want to understand the current state of leadership, listen to the language.
“Nobody wants to work anymore.”
“We can’t find the right talent.”
“People just aren’t motivated.”
It’s a convenient narrative.
It absolves leadership of responsibility.
But it’s also wrong.
What’s actually happening is far more nuanced—and far more actionable.
People are not disengaged because they lack ambition.
They are disengaged because they are misunderstood.
AI as an Amplifier, Not a Replacement
In today’s business landscape, AI is often framed as a disruptor of jobs and human connection.
Alex sees it differently.
AI is an augmentation tool. It amplifies human capability.
But only if it is trained correctly.
What makes Alex’s work distinctive is his integration of developmental psychology with artificial intelligence.
Instead of using AI to automate tasks, he uses it to deepen understanding.
To decode behavior.
To translate communication.
To guide leaders in real time.
The Breakthrough: Understanding the “Why” Behind Behavior
Most organizations rely on familiar tools:
- DISC
- Myers-Briggs
- Enneagram
- StrengthsFinder
These frameworks are useful—but limited.
They focus on observable traits.
They tell you what someone does.
But they don’t tell you why.
And that “why” is where leadership lives.
For example:
An employee who avoids commitment might be labeled as disengaged.
But through a developmental lens, they may have an avoidant attachment style—a learned response rooted in early experiences where trust led to disappointment.
Now the leadership question changes.
It’s no longer:
“How do I get them to commit?”
It becomes:
“How do I create an environment where commitment feels safe?”
The Four Conditions of Human Performance
Alex distilled decades of psychological insight into four essential conditions:
People perform when they feel:
- Seen
- Safe
- Accepted
- Protected
These are not abstract ideals.
They are operational levers.
When these conditions are present:
- Engagement increases
- Innovation accelerates
- Retention improves
When they are absent:
- People withdraw
- Risk-taking disappears
- Performance declines
This is not a theory.
This is cause and effect.
The Leadership Failure Hidden in Plain Sight
Here’s where many executives get it wrong.
They focus on skills.
Communication training.
Leadership frameworks.
Process optimization.
All important.
But incomplete.
Because under pressure, people don’t default to skill.
They default to conditioning.
They revert to earlier patterns—often formed in childhood.
In Alex’s words, they become “the seven-year-old version of themselves.”
And suddenly, your high-performing executive is reacting, not leading.
The Real Work: Building Capacity
This is one of the most critical insights for modern leadership:
You cannot eliminate stress. You can only increase your capacity to handle it.
Organizations often try to engineer stress out of the system.
But that’s not realistic.
What leaders must do instead is help individuals expand their ability to operate under stress.
To feel it.
To hold it.
To function through it.
This is where growth happens.
Language: The Hidden Lever of Leadership
One of the most practical—and powerful—concepts Alex introduced is translational communication.
We assume that if we explain something clearly, it will be understood.
But clarity is relative.
Each person interprets the world through their own lens.
Alex describes this using color:
If one person sees “red” and another sees “blue,” describing blue in blue terms won’t work.
You must translate blue into the red language.
This is what great leaders do.
They don’t just communicate.
They connect.
The Introvert Who Outperformed the Extroverts
One of the most compelling examples Alex shared involved a struggling real estate agent.
She had been trained repeatedly—in scripts, presentations, and techniques.
None of it worked.
Why?
Because she was being trained to perform like an extrovert.
Alex took a different approach.
He leaned into her natural strengths:
- Asking thoughtful questions
- Listening deeply
- Guiding conversations organically
The result?
She became one of the top performers on her team.
The lesson is clear:
Performance improves when people are allowed to succeed as themselves—not as someone else.
Engineering Human Understanding
Alex’s background in engineering shaped how he approached human behavior.
He didn’t see people as categories.
He saw them as systems.
Complex, dynamic, and influenced by multiple variables.
So he built a model.
Not four dimensions.
Not ten.
Over fifty.
Each represents different aspects of human psychology and behavior.
Then he trained AI to interpret those dimensions.
To recognize patterns.
To provide guidance.
To think the way he does.
From Consultant to System
What started as a consulting practice evolved into something much larger.
Alex began feeding his insights into an AI system.
Hundreds of pages of frameworks, observations, and methodologies.
He refined it continuously.
Tested it with clients.
Compared its recommendations to his own.
And at a certain point, something remarkable happened.
The AI didn’t just match his insights.
It expanded on them.
Providing more depth.
More nuance.
More actionable guidance.
The Shift from Insight to Action
This is where most tools fall short.
They describe.
They categorize.
They label.
But they don’t guide.
Alex designed VitalSpark differently.
It answers the questions leaders actually have:
- How do I motivate this person?
- How do I handle conflict between these two individuals?
- What role is this person best suited for?
- How do I support them when they’re struggling?
This is actionable intelligence.
And in today’s business environment, that is what leaders need.
Leadership in Real Time
Leadership challenges don’t wait for quarterly reviews.
They happen in moments.
- Before a difficult conversation
- After a tense meeting
- In the middle of the night, when something won’t let go
Having access to real-time guidance changes the game.
It creates a feedback loop.
A learning system.
A leadership partner that evolves with you.
The Bigger Idea: Harmony Over Uniformity
One of the most elegant metaphors Alex shared comes from music.
A “minor fifth” sounds dissonant.
Move just slightly—and you get a “perfect fifth.”
Harmony.
The difference is small.
But the impact is profound.
In organizations, we often try to create alignment through similarity.
But true alignment comes from complementary differences.
From understanding how different “frequencies” interact.
And adjusting accordingly.
The Executive Imperative
If you are leading an organization today, you are navigating:
- Increased complexity
- Rapid technological change
- Evolving workforce expectations
And the old playbook is no longer sufficient.
Command-and-control leadership is obsolete.
One-size-fits-all management is ineffective.
The future belongs to leaders who can:
- Understand human behavior deeply
- Adapt their approach dynamically
- Leverage technology without losing humanity
The Final Reflection
Alex’s journey—from adversity to innovation—is not just a personal story.
It is a blueprint.
A reminder that:
- People are not problems to be fixed
- They are systems to be understood
And when leaders embrace that shift, everything changes.
Performance improves.
Culture strengthens.
Results follow.
Not because you demanded more.
But because you understood better.
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Watch the episode: DI 153 The Future of Leadership: AI and Human Behavior
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This article was drafted with the assistance of an AI writing assistant (Abacus.AI’s ChatLLM Teams) and edited by Lisa L. Levy for accuracy, tone, and final content.
