Executive Leadership Pearls of Wisdom on Conflict Management
An irritant can be the catalyst for the creation of something beautiful and valuable.
One of the most delectable foods you can eat in our beloved bayous is an oyster po-boy. Talk about delish! My mouth is watering just thinking about it! But watch out! Don’t be surprised if you crunch down on a pearl. (No need to worry about pearls if you’re slurping down raw oysters on the half shell without chewing. Your teeth will be spared. But ca c’est bon!)
Pearls are formed when a piece of grit, sand or shell get trapped inside the oyster. It protects itself from irritation by secreting a liquid around the particle, which eventually, over time, builds into what we know as a pearl.
Many managers tell me that they spend a large part of their workday resolving conflicts and settling disputes among team members. When we think of “conflict,” we automatically think that it is always a bad thing. This is not necessarily true. Like the irritant to the oyster, something valuable can come from conflict. Actually, conflict can be a very positive thing when it challenges leaders to explore new ideas, sparks curiosity about differences, or stretches the group’s problem-solving efforts.
A little dash of hot sauce, or a bit of conflict among team members is inevitable. Managing conflict within a work group can be quite a challenge, and your team needs a leader who can channel it for the greater good of the team.
Leaders and managers, you are probably constantly faced with playing “referee” between two or more of your employees. (This is a complaint I hear often!) Although I’m certainly not a relationships expert or a counselor, I have had quite a bit of experience in this department (unfortunately).
Try to practice a few of my “pearls” of wisdom to help you help your employees resolve conflicts with as little bloodshed as possible.
Executive Leadership Pearls of Wisdom to Manage Conflict:
- Foster an open-minded work culture so that employees will realize that their way is just one way of looking at things. Instead of asking themselves “How can I win?” they should ask themselves, “What can I learn?”
- Teach team members to get their emotions under control and to gather their thoughts before they say something that they’ll regret. Explain that the only decisions that can’t wait are those involving the safety or health of others. All other decisions can wait until facts are gathered and emotions are checked.
- Encourage employees that if they must criticize, to criticize ideas not people. Teammates should focus on the issues instead of blaming or insulting others, which would only result in the negative, destructive type of conflict.
- Train yourself and employees to use active listening skills. For example, try restating what the other person is saying before responding. Listen to the whole message rather than just what you want or expect to hear.
- Urge the team to ask questions rather than assume. You know the saying, when we assume…. Well, you can only guess what another person is thinking or what their motivations are.
It’s easy to talk about these pearls of wisdom, and hard to actually perform them regularly. Kind of like talking about the need to exercise, when we really just want to kick back and have a strawberry daiquiri. It is important as a leader that you use these team-building techniques so that your team members can learn to work out disagreements on their own.
CHIME IN:
How do you deal with conflict in your workplace?
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
|Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
|Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
|Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
|Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
You’re thinking about taking up macramé just to get through your unbearably boring team meetings. CAUTION: This is a symptom of group-think and leads to disaster.
Trying to determine who’s responsible for an action item is like an Abbott and Costello routine. WARNING: This proves there is no accountability amongst team members.
When someone asks how your team is doing, your response is always “Fine.” NEWSFLASH: Fine is the new Sucks. Fine won’t take your business to the next level.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.
I solve people problems for organizations like yours every day.
I’ll help you to cut through the BS, also known as silos, politics, and competition between team members, so you can achieve greater results in less time.
I work with leaders individually, I work with teams as a whole, I work with the leaders and teams together. No consultant speak. No fluffy exercises. Just practical strategies…with some Cajun spice. Born and raised along the bayous of South Louisiana, I’ve found that a little Cajun wisdom brings new seasoning to time-tested success principles. We call this “lagniappe” or something a little extra that makes all the difference.
My programs focus on mastering communication, inspiring real teamwork, and amping individual influence to impact the bottom line.
If you want an engaging keynote speaker, a skilled facilitator, a lively workshop leader, or an experienced leadership mentor, contact me for a complimentary 20-minute call and we’ll identify your greatest needs and how we can best solve your people problems.
My basic principles are captured in my book Lead, Follow or Get Me the Hot Sauce and have inspired me as a speaker at conferences and events. Today I am one of only four Certified Speaking Professionals (CSP) in the state of Louisiana as recognized by the National Speakers Association. I’m also a certified Senior Professional in Human Resources, a Certified Structured Facilitation Professional, and a certified Master Trainer, and I guess that pretty much means that I’m certifiable too!
After overseeing hundreds of employees as a Human Resources Director, as well as a consultant who has worked with sales, service, and operations teams in the oil and gas, manufacturing, financial, and professional services industries, (to name a few) I am convinced that every organization’s sustainability and profitability hinges on leadership and team success.
And finally, I’m passionate about crawfish, chocolate, wine, and Gumbeaux - my golden retriever puppy.
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