Parenting with Impact

Parenting With Impact with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster

Episode 146 Simple, Safe & Connected — Tips to Navigate Big Emotions with Sonali Vongchusiri

Sonali Vongchusiri is founder of Forward Together Parenting and the “Raising Your Strong-Willed Child” series. She often says that she WAS that kid and now she HAS three of those kids. As a parent coach she supports parents in shifting from “parenting perfectly” to “parenting with personality” — helping parents step off the emotional roller-coaster, simplify parenting and stabilize their relationship with their kids by focusing on their needs as well as their kids.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Sonali Vongchusiri about navigating big emotions.

Parenting is Leadership

Parenting is a leadership opportunity. With the “Parenting is Leadership” Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will guide you to up-level your parenting… and improve the most important relationships of your life.

Link: https://impactparents.pages.ontraport.net/leadership-guide?utm_campaign=funnel&utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=episode&utm_content=leadership

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Sonali shares her experiences and the difficulties she faced in her relationship with her children. Sonali realized she needed to find her own approach to parenting, one that aligned with her needs and the needs of her children. She emphasizes the importance of connection and sharing truth with ourselves and our kids, rather than trying to fit into a mold of what parenting should look like.

Sonali emphasizes the challenge of meeting both parent and child needs simultaneously. She suggests acknowledging both the child and parent’s needs instead of trying to fix the situation. One effective approach she recommends is using nonverbal communication.

She expresses the importance of feeling safe and stable in any emotional situation, whether dealing with a frustrated child or facing overwhelming circumstances. Sonali introduces the SHUAVE Process, which involves accepting and approving of oneself, aligning with emotions, and feeling a sense of belonging and validation.

Connect with Sonali Vongchusiri:

https://www.forwardtogetherparenting.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/raisingyourstrongwilledchild

https://www.instagram.com/raisingyourstrongwilledchild/

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift

Connect with Impact Parents:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/

@impactparents

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent

@impactparent

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/

@impactparents

X (fkaTwitter): https://twitter.com/ImpactParents

@impactparents

Leslie Josel, a renowned expert in effective communication strategies for parenting complex kids, has over two decades of experience in this field. Leslie’s perspective on this topic is rooted in her belief that effective communication is the most crucial aspect for parents to understand. She emphasizes that all issues related to parenting complex kids ultimately boil down to how parents communicate with their children. Drawing from her personal journey as a parent to a child with ADHD and executive dysfunction, Leslie acknowledges that parenting complex kids can be overwhelming, but she underscores the need for parents to educate themselves and find ways to effectively communicate with their children. She also highlights the importance of translating complex medical and therapeutic language into conversational parenting language to make it more accessible for parents.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Leslie Josel about communication with complex kids.

Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex Kids

Parenting complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.

https://impactparents.pages.ontraport.net/calm-confident-tipsheet?utm_campaign=Podcast&utm_source=episode&utm_medium=cta&utm_content=calm

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Leslie shares her journey of becoming an accidental entrepreneur. She explains how effective communication and support can make a difference in raising complex kids.
• Leslie and Elaine dive into the crucial role of brain activation in parenting and effective communication with children. Leslie shares insights on medication, meditation, sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
• Leslie explains techniques on acknowledging your child’s current state, choosing the right moment to talk, and prioritizing clear communication. She describes how to create an environment where children feel comfortable discussing important matters without triggering defensiveness.

Related Links:

https://orderoochaos.com

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift

Connect with Leslie:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/orderoutofchaos

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/order.out.of.chaos/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leslie-josel-adhd-student-parent-coach/

Connect with Impact Parents:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/

@impactparents

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent

@impactparent

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/

@impactparents

X (fka Twitter): https://twitter.com/ImpactParents

@impactparents

The topic of supporting parents of young adults, with its unique challenges, evolving relationships, and opportunities for growth, is the focus of this Parenting with Impact podcast episode. Join Diane and Elaine on this episode as they delve deeper into this significant and necessary area of focus.

Episode 144 Helping Young Adults Get Back On Track with Elaine and Diane

Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane.

How to Talk to Your Complex Kids [and Other Important Relationships]

Strained communication can create a hot mess of misunderstanding and conflict — whether it’s with your kids or any significant relationship in your life. In this FREE guide, you’ll discover your role in communication dynamics and 10 simple but effective ways to help you build more trust and calm in your communication with your complex kids — and any relationship. 

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

● Diane, who has been actively supporting parents of young adults for three years, emphasizes the need for understanding, guidance, and support for parents navigating this stage of life. She believes in creating space for young adults to ask for help and for parents to support their agenda, while also acknowledging the complexities involved in parenting young adults.

● Elaine stresses the importance of building and maintaining strong relationships with young adults, fostering trust, and effective communication. She encourages parents to focus on the progress and incremental growth of their young adults, rather than solely on the desired outcome of complete independence.

● Elaine and Diane dive into the complex world of parenting adult children. From establishing boundaries to fostering open communication, they explore the ups and downs of this ever-evolving process.

Related Links:

·      Parenting Emerging Adults 

·      Effective Agreements

·      4 Phases of Parenting: How to Support Without Enabling 

·      It’s No Mystery: Why Kids Resist Help

·       It’s All About Control: Are You Ready?

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

·      Instagram  @impactparents

This episode brings you another Success Story from the ImpactParents Community!

Elena Nichols is passionate in raising complex kids through personal transformation and effective communication. After stumbling upon coaching by accident, she became intrigued by the concept of self-awareness and its potential for personal growth. As a parent of a child with dyslexia, Elena initially struggled with expectations and frustration. However, through her own journey of seeking

support and focusing on her child’s strengths, she witnessed significant

improvements in their reading abilities. Elena’s dedication to understanding

neurodiversity led her to become a neurodiversity informed coach, recognizing

the unique talents and facets of individuals with a greater degree of neurodiversity. With a diverse clientele and a supportive community at Impact

Parents, Elena continues to find fulfillment in connecting with and coaching

people, experiencing personal growth along the way.

Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex Kids

Parenting

complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help

you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater

independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using

to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.

Listen to this Success

Stories Edition Parenting With Impact episode with Elena Nichols about parent

coaching for complex kids.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Learn how observing herself and taking a pause before reacting changed her
• interactions with her children.
• Discover coaching as a transformative profession that opens the door to a whole new world.  Through coaching, obstacles and challenges are easily resolved, and everything flows effortlessly
• Learn how parent coaching as a transformative approach that empowers parents to navigate the challenges of raising complex kids.

Related Links:

Elena Nichols

Overcoming Learning Challenges – A Complex Kid Speaks Out

Helping Kids with Dyslexia Feel Good about Getting Help with Reading

Look for the Positive Traits to Find the Fabulous in Complex Kids

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Impact Parents:

www.impactparents.com

Instagram: @impactparents

Facebook: @impactparent

LinkedIn:@impactparents

Twitter: @impactparents 

As parents, we worry about our kids fulfilling their potential, and want them to think about what they want their future to look like. How do we encourage our complex kids to envision a future, when they may still be struggling with the present?

Sheila Akbar joined the Signet team in the summer of 2010, bringing with her a wealth of experience teaching SAT, ACT, GRE, literature, and composition in both one-on-one and classroom settings. Sheila loves both teaching and learning and finds nothing more rewarding than working closely with students to overcome the challenges they face. After graduating from Harvard in 2002, she spent two years working in financial services before continuing her academic career, which culminated in two doctorates. She brings her significant business and academic experience to bear on her current role at Signet, which includes speaking to every client to craft a tailored solution for their needs, managing the administrative team, and providing educational thought leadership for the company. Sheila holds a bachelor’s degree and master’s degree from Harvard University and two doctoral degrees from Indiana University.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Sheila Akbar about ways you can encourage your complex kid to envision a future that THEY are excited about.

12 Tips for Parenting a Complex Teen

From the experts at ImpactParents (and the moms of 6 young adults!), we promise you this: it’s not too late. In this FREE guide you’ll learn 12 fool-proof tips to improve conversations and reconnect with your teens so you can guide them to

become independent and successful. Parents all over the world have better

relationships with their teens using these tools. You can, too!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Encouraging students to focus on positives, emphasizing strengths, and acknowledging their unique interests.

Emphasizing the importance of daily discipline and skill-building rather than solely focusing on achieving set goals.

Emphasizing the need for kids to own their aspirations and motivations rather than parents imposing their agendas.

Reframing failure as a learning opportunity and a part of the journey toward finding the right path.

Advocating for a safe space where kids can explore interests and change their minds without pressure.

Links Mentioned:

Three Steps to Learn From Mistakes Without Shame

How Are Values Guiding Parents And Kids?

Look for the Positive Traits to Find the Fabulous in Complex Kids 

Connect with Sheila:

www.sheilaakbar.com 

LinkedIn

Connect with Signet Education:

signeteducation.com

X (fka Twitter)  

Facebook

LinkedIn

YouTube

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

Instagram  @impactparents

Facebook  @impactparent

LinkedIn  @impactparents

Twitter @impactparents

Elaine and Diane are back from the Annual International Conference on ADHD 2023! Hear about the ongoing evolution of ADHD management approaches, emphasizing the need for nuanced perspectives, change management strategies, and empowerment for individuals and families impacted by ADHD.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they reflect on their experiences at this year’s conference and the evolution of ADHD management, and how to mesh together the book-smart approach with the street-smart approach to managing ADHD.

Recommended

Treatment for Children and Teens with ADHD Tip-Sheet

So — your child has ADHD. Want to get past the confusion and the stigma really fast? This FREE Guide explains, in the simplest terms possible:

• What is recommended treatment for children and teens
• Ten things to consider when trying to make a decision about medication
• Exactly what to look for in a behavior therapy training program. Short, sweet, and to the point — don’t spend hours on the internet scouring.
• ImpactParents gives you exactly what you need to know without wasting any time or effort.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Shifting Perspectives: From deficit-based to strength-oriented approaches Observing a transition from a disempowered view of ADHD to an empowered and strength-based outlook within the community.
• Complexity of ADHD: Understanding the multifaceted nature of ADHD, including the complexities of diagnosis, treatment, and coexisting conditions, leading to a more nuanced approach in managing the condition.
• Change Management vs. Behavior Management: Recognizing the need for change management alongside behavior management, especially in familial and educational contexts, emphasizing a holistic approach to support individuals with ADHD.
• Empowerment and Transformation: Highlighting the transformative impact of their coaching approach, focusing on deeper conversations beyond problem-solving, empowering individuals to manage ADHD effectively and encouraging personal growth.

Related Links:

• CHADD Annual International Conference on ADHD 2023
• Dr. Tracey Marks YouTube Channel
• ADHD Dude- Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP   
• ADHD Neither Gift Nor Curse with Doctors Russell Barkley and Edward Hallowell  
• Why Don’t Parents of Complex Kids Get the Help They Need? Impact Parents – Research Results

Images From the Conference:

• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/digital-literacy.png
• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/evaluate-credible-information.png
• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/risk-of-over-reliance.png
• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/healthcare-partnership.png
• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/healthcare-partnership-provider-tips.png
• https://impactparents.s3.amazonaws.com/images/adhd-conference-2023/healthcare-partnership-client-tips.png

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Impact Parents:

• www.impactparents.com
• Instagram: @impactparents
• Facebook: @impactparent
• LinkedIn:@impactparents
• Twitter: @impactparents 

Susan Stiffelman is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Therapist and the author of Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting With Presence. Her work focuses on helping parents forge sturdy attachment with their children as the calm, confident “Captain of the ship.” She hosts a popular podcast and offers online classes and is a lifelong meditator who is deeply committed to enjoying her life and living with gratitude and joy.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Susan Stiffelman as she shares her journey of understanding the diverse learning needs of children and the evolution of her work in merging educational psychology with therapy.

Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex Kids

Parenting complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• The impact of parental engagement in children’s emotional and academic development, and the importance of understanding diverse learning methods.
• Addressing the challenges parents face in a world where teenagers are inundated with overwhelming information, and the need for parents to help their children navigate this landscape.
• Stressing the significance of self-compassion and finding support in parenting, and the need to prioritize self-care while creating or seeking out supportive communities for guidance and shared experiences.

RelatedLinks:

• Kristin Neff  

Connectwith Susan Stiffelman:

• susanstiffelman.com
• Podcast
• Facebook
• Instagram
• YouTube
• Master Class
• Parenting Without Power Struggles
• Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

 Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

• Instagram  @impactparents
• Facebook  @impactparent
• LinkedIn  @impactparents
• Twitter @impactparents

Ginny Luther shares her journey of parenting her son, Bart, a defiant, passionate, and determined child who challenged her to shift from control to connection.

Ginny Luther MS, is an Educational and Family Behavioral Consultant, founder of Peaceful Parenting LLC, and Conscious Discipline Master Instructor. She is a dynamic international speaker for parents and educational professionals, pulling from her vast life experience. Her own challenging child was the catalyst for her passion to help others, using Conscious Discipline in schools, early childhood centers, with parents, and in mentorship. Her tremendous knowledge provides creative solutions to many difficult issues facing schools and families today. 

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Ginny Luther about the

importance of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging emotions, and fostering

strong connections with our children.

Parenting is Leadership

Parenting is a leadership opportunity. With the “Parenting is Leadership“

Guide from ImpactParents, two frameworks and a dozen core competencies will

guide you to up-level your parenting… and improve the most important

relationships of your life.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Embracing empathy and connection over control in parenting complex children.
• Recognizing disappointment and failure as invaluable learning opportunities for children.
• Prioritizing self-acceptance and empathy to foster trust and empowerment in parent-child relationships.
• Navigating through loss and tragedy with resilience and the lessons learned from such experiences.

Related Links:

• Episode 109 Success! Changed My Family’s Life with Help from Sanity School® 
• 3 Steps to Respond Without Reacting
• Shedding the Shoulds 
• Taming Your Inner Control Freak!
• Let Go, Control Freak Parent!
• When Kids Lose Control or Destroy Property
• Relationship Battles: Lay Down Your Sword and Shield
• Dinner with an ADHD Family
• Communicating with Teachers for School Success with ADHD
• Dreading School Meetings with Teachers? Try These 8 Steps
• How to Create a Great Relationship with Your ADHD Child’s Teacher
• 3 Step Method to ACE Communication with Complex Kids & Teens

Connect with Ginny:

• GinnyLuther.com
• Blue Star Grit by Ginny Luther

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

• Instagram  @impactparents
• Facebook  @impactparent
• LinkedIn  @impactparents
• Twitter @impactparents

Communication is an ever-evolving part of your relationship with your child, no matter what age they are. During the holiday season, when there is increased togetherness there is a greater potential for difficult conversations.

Episode 138 How Do I Get My Kid To Talk To Me? 4 Communication Tools with Elaine and Diane

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss the importance of effective communication tools.

How to Talk to Your Complex Kids [and Other Important Relationships]

Strained communication can create a hot mess of misunderstanding and conflict — whether it’s with your kids or any significant relationship in your life. In this FREE guide, you’ll discover your role in communication dynamics and 10 simple but effective ways to help you build more trust and calm in your communication with your complex kids — and any relationship. 

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Permission-based conversations and breadcrumb cues for smoother interactions.
• AC-E Method: Acknowledge emotions without judgment, wait or pause to let emotions settle, and then explore options or inquiries for problem-solving.
• Designing Conversations: Offering acknowledgment or a gift, making requests, and performing check-ins for reciprocal and inclusive discussions, aiming for collaborative problem-solving.
• Trust and Connection: Emphasis on maintaining trust and connection with kids as the foundation for effective communication and problem-solving, fostering collaborative dialogue and mutual understanding.

Related Links:

• Relationship Battles: Lay Down Your Sword and Shield
• Three Steps to Take When Your Kid Says, “I Don’t Know”
• 5 Tips for Having Embarrassing Conversations with Your Kids
• Ask Your Kids
• Collaborative Conversations: Ask Powerful Questions for Independent Kids
• Plan Important Conversations
• 3 Step Method to ACE Communication with Complex Kids & Teens
• Relationships by Design
• Improve Relationships with Complex Kids and Teens

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

• Instagram @impactparents
• Facebook @impactparent
• LinkedIn @impactparents
• Twitter @impactparents

Stephanie Pinto is an Emotional Intelligence author, speaker and coach who specializes in helping parents to create an Emotionally Intelligent family culture at home. She is a certified Emotional Intelligence specialist, is a pediatric anxiety therapist, and practiced as a Speech Pathologist for 10 years. Her ground-breaking book, From Chaos to Connection, was published in March 2023. And she has over 100k in her Facebook community called Let’s Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids. 

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Stephanie Pinto about understanding emotional intelligence in our children and how to parent effectively based upon where your child is at.

Ten Tips for Calm and Confident Parenting of Complex Kids

Parenting complex kids can be difficult, even mind-numbing at times. In this FREE Guide you’ll find clear, quick guidance to help you calm the chaos and more confidently prepare your child for greater independence and success! Learn techniques parents all over the world are using to reduce friction and (believe it!) rediscover the joy of parenting.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• What is emotional intelligence and how does it impact the ability to regulate emotions?
• The key components of the 26 competencies of emotional intelligence- what is most important?
• Punishment vs. discipline- are you responding or reacting? Which will help your child grow?

Related Links:

• How to Apologize When You’ve Hurt Your Child’s Feelings: Recovering after a Fight 
• Dealing with Emotional Kids and Meltdowns
• Are You (Secretly) Calling Your Child an “Idiot”?
• Even an Epic Meltdown is a Great Parenting Opportunity

Connect with Stephanie:

• www.stephaniepinto.com
• Facebook
• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• YouTube

Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools 

Connect with Elaine & Diane:

• Instagram @impactparents
• Facebook @impactparent
• LinkedIn @impactparents
• Twitter @impactparents