Parenting with Impact

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss the three A’s: Awareness, Acknowledgment, and Action.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Elaine and Diane emphasize the importance of approaching challenges with an open mind and a willingness to experiment.

“Commit to calm before you take action;” By cultivating a sense of calm and mindfulness, parents can make more deliberate and effective decisions in response to their children’s behaviors.

Elaine and Diane highlight the value of involving children in the decision-making process and seeking their feedback.

Related Links:

Welcome to Parenting With Impact:  https://youtu.be/FykSBnaWXhk

How Do I Get My Kids to Talk to Me? 4 Communication Tools:  https://youtu.be/z_sfOuGaEC0

Motivation Myths & the Magic of P.I.N.C.H.:  https://youtu.be/2TkKOif9LrU?si=gJEd8lpgqd7KUd_P

Accommodations vs. Remediation – What’s the Parent’s Role?:  https://youtu.be/2tfQ4nZDs2E?si=Ysl6UyqmxyZyIIUd

Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation & Self Management:  https://youtu.be/V49MEzft064?si=jSOOO4ZmjvEiaVu6

The Independence Pyramid: Big Picture and Daily Tasks:  https://youtu.be/Z6AiUIxhWnE?si=cXo9oxKWOX1YE-PA

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In the world of childhood ADHD, you may have heard of Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD), and you might even have some opinions about it, too. It often travels with untreated ADHD. But as the medical community begins to understand the overlap between ADHD and Autism, we want to invite you to learn more about a presentation of Autism called PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance). To be honest, there’s some controversy about this diagnosis, because it exists in the UK and Australia, but not officially in the US. So, let’s focus instead on the reality of what’s going on when a child resists and avoids the demands of life! In our community, we’ve learned that if you can understand what’s underlying troublesome behaviors, you can support them better. And this conversation with Nicola is guaranteed to help you do just that! 

Nicola Reekie is a parent to a young, autistic person who has a PDA profile. PDA is an abbreviation for Pathological Demand Avoidance or, as some prefer, Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. Her mission is to support families and professionals in understanding PDA, and she founded The PDA Space to provide resources that will deepen their understanding to create a safer environment for young people. A solution-focused therapist, Nicola collaborates with many amazing families, education and healthcare professionals to information and an excellent support network that supports their emotional well-being and helps to create calm in often challenging situations.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Nicola Reekie.

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The episode highlights the significance of approaching individuals with PDA with compassion and understanding, focusing on their unique needs rather than demanding conformity.

Nicola emphasizes the importance of establishing connections and collaborating with individuals with PDA.

Nicola explains framing behaviors as neurologically driven rather than defiant can shift the perspective and reduce stigma.

Links Mentioned:

Bloody Awesome Parents Awards:  https://www.myfamilyourneeds.co.uk/baps/

Website:  https://www.thepdaspace.com

Autism, PDA & Combative Behaviors:  https://youtu.be/fmFRyyelMsQ

Connect with Nicola:

Website:  https://www.thepdaspace.com/

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1632926726873571

YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@thepdaspacenicolareekie264/videos

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Dr. Robert Melillo is a leading expert in developmental neurological conditions such as ADHD, autism, OCD, tics, dyslexia, anxiety, and depression in both children and adults. With extensive knowledge of brain function, he has perfected a noninvasive, multi-modal method

to significantly improve and correct many neurological disorders.

His expertise in functional neuroanatomy and neurophysiology is unparalleled, backed by 30 years as a clinician, professor, brain researcher, and bestselling author. His book Disconnected Kids, soon

to release its 3rd edition, is a cornerstone in its genre, translated into

16 languages. Co-founder of Brain Balance Achievement Centers and developer of the Melillo Method®, he also runs the Melillo Center for Developing Minds in NY. Dr. Melillo directs the National Institute for Brain and Rehabilitation Sciences and co-hosts the web series Disconnected Kids Reconnected Families with his wife Carolyn, boasting over 3 million views. He also hosts The Melillo Method Podcast, Everything Brain.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Dr. Robert Melillo.

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Robert explains disruptions in brain connectivity between hemispheres are linked to neurobehavioral and mental health issues, indicating the importance of targeted interventions, especially within the first six years of life.

Robert stresses the importance of paying attention to developmental milestones, as they are crucial in shaping brain development.

Robert emphasizes that all adult mental health issues stem from childhood, particularly from imbalances in the right and left brain development.

Related Links:

Website:  https://www.drrobertmelillo.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/DrRobertMelillo/

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-melillo-a287b618b/

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Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/DrRobertMelillo

YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@drrobertmelillo

Courses:  https://www.drrobertmelillo.com/courses/

Books:

Disconnected Kids:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399172440?ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_GXXDS5SW689NTSK4JWH1&ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_GXXDS5SW689NTSK4JWH1&social_share=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_GXXDS5SW689NTSK4JWH1

Autism: The Scientific Truth About Preventing, Diagnosing, and Treating Autism Spectrum Disorders–and What Parents Can Do:  https://www.amazon.com/Autism-Scientific-Preventing-Diagnosing-Disorders/dp/0399159541/ref=sr_1_5?crid=28322IR43ZVSL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.lFnY7GWjvemw1XXB6ee5pIh_Szg7dz8jQB2geNhTOZx9OVMT9TmfuH_44ThEsYpQiT-YqypYifYAPnXy9YQP7Wymi_Q5iyuljW_zpSF9ysCzVaZ__1MO33ffI8KR3Oh4GBzLmzKy6xYoUrnbUf33fo7x5zSEQzifQRw4Cjh1GwkhqcW_HbPBIXkfDLb9n4VbT3kkUvlhy-_OerkwvD3qzsHXll_KhzsNTLDzd-QcWa0.qjfOWKBKA9ArOlyjgcvi5stog6IpSg-v1uwaQXBkOqc&dib_tag=se&keywords=dr+robert+melillo&qid=1727101629&s=books&sprefix=dr+robert+melill%2Cstripbooks%2C162&sr=1-5

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Whether you’re talking about ADHD, Autism, or 2e, developing neurodivergent brains in kids require adults to understand what it takes to get activated. The ADHD brain, for example, is understimulated. It doesn’t respond to rewards the same way as neurotypical brains. And it has a complicated relationship with motivation. So how can you help kids with ADHD (and other kinds of neurodiversity) to get essential stuff done? One key motivational tool is novelty. Join us to understand better why ADHD brains thrive on novelty, how novelty and motivation are tied together, and how you as a parent or a professional can integrate novelty when supporting your kids (of any age!). And remember: this fundamental hack can serve you well with all members of your family and community.

Emily Kircher-Morris, M.A., M.Ed., LPC, is a former educator, author, and speaker. Inspired by her own experiences as a neurodivergent person, she is dedicated to destigmatizing neurodiversity and supporting neurodivergent people of all ages. She hosts The Neurodiversity Podcast, which explores the psychological, educational, and social needs of neurodivergent people, and is the author of several books, including “Teaching Twice-Exceptional Learners in Today’s Classroom”(Free Spirit Publishing, 2021), “Raising Twice-Exceptional Children” (Taylor & Francis, 2022), “A Parent’s Guide to Gifted Children” (Gifted Unlimited, LLC, 2023), and “Neurodiversity-Affirming Schools” (Free Spirit Publishing, in press). She speaks at statewide, national, and international conferences and is in private practice in Missouri.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Emily Kircher-Morris.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Emily highlights the importance of incorporating novelty in educational settings to engage neurodivergent individuals effectively.

Tailored strategies and support, like universal design for learning, are crucial in catering to the specific needs of neurodivergent students and those facing situational neurodiversity challenges.

Emily stresses the importance of validating parents’ efforts in supporting their neurodivergent kids, acknowledging the learning journey both for the child and the parent in understanding themselves and their unique needs.

Links Mentioned:

Podcast:  https://neurodiversitypodcast.com

2E Kids & Adults: When Easy is Hard and Hard is Easy:  https://youtu.be/jP756LLv3XU

What’s Different About a 2E Kid?:  https://youtu.be/B2-vJYDv8KU

Motivation Myths & the Magic of P.I.N.C.H.:  https://youtu.be/2TkKOif9LrU?si=gJEd8lpgqd7KUd_P

Recognizing and Managing Stress Triggers as Parents:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y42_YS3w3Is&t=775s

High-Tech Solutions for Those with ADHD:  https://www.blogtalkradio.com/attentiontalkradio/2020/11/04/high-tech-solutions-for-those-with-adhd

Books:  https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1953360173/?tag=im0ea3-20

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Parent focus in parenting is an increasingly important topic in today’s complex, globalized society. Elaine and Diane bring unique perspectives to this discussion, rooted in their experiences and beliefs. Elaine emphasizes the crucial role of self-care for parents, likening it to the necessity of putting on one’s oxygen mask first. She believes that addressing parents’ own emotional struggles and needs is essential for them to effectively support their children, arguing that traditional methods often overlook this aspect. Diane, on the other hand, focuses on empowering parents to take control of their thoughts and actions without self-blame. She highlights the significant influence parents have on their children’s development, stressing that understanding and addressing their own issues can help them better meet their children’s unique needs. Both women agree that by managing their stress and emotions, parents can create a supportive and healthy environment conducive to child development.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss parental focus.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Elaine and Diane explain parents should seek training that includes shifting mindsets, acquiring new skills, seeking community support, and receiving feedback from professionals

Elaine and Diane stress that prioritizing self-care is crucial for effective parenting, as parents need to take care of themselves to provide the best support for their children.

Parents should work on their inner emotional struggles to be a calm and guiding presence for their children, ultimately fostering a supportive environment for their development.

Learn More:  impactparents.com/podcast

Related Links:

Recommended Treatment:  https://impactparents.com/help-for-parents/recommended-treatment/

The Coach-Approach to Parenting: https://impactparents.com/help-for-parents/the-coach-approach-to-parenting/

Become A Dive Bomber Parent: https://impactparents.com/blog/adhd/become-a-dive-bomber-parent/

How Do I Check-In On my Kids Without Nagging?:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/how-to-check-in-on-kids-without-nagging/

Tip for Handling it When Kids Don’t Do What You Ask:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/when-kids-dont-do-what-you-ask/

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Lynne Hughes lost both her parents by the age of 12. She recognized the lack of resources available to her as a grieving child, and into adult life realized child bereavement resources were still nonexistent. So, she took her love for summer camp and founded Comfort Zone Camp, the first-ever national 501(c)3 bereavement camp for grieving children and families. Since its inception in 1998, CZC has helped over 24,000 grieving children.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Lynne Hughes about managing grief.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

• Lynne highlights the importance of preparing children to handle common questions and emotional moments, especially in school settings.
• Lynne explains creating environments where children can express their emotions and feel safe is crucial for their well-being and learning.
• Lynne emphasizes that there is no one way to grieve, and each individual’s journey is unique. Validating children’s emotions, demonstrating coping skills, and offering consistent support are key components in helping them navigate life’s difficulties and build resilience.

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Connect with Lynne:

Website – https://comfortzonecamp.org/

Camp Calendar – https://comfortzonecamp.org/calendar/

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You’ve got to understand procrastination in order to overcome it. So in this conversation, we’ll explore why kids tend to stall on tasks, from unrealistic goals to unclear plans. And we’ll also look at how a child’s procrastination often leads parents to react in ways that may not actually help the situation. If you want to minimize procrastination, join us for a conversation that explores how to leverage your kids’ strengths and prime their brain for action. Uncover the “why” behind goals, ignite motivation and follow-through, and walk away with practical strategies to tackle procrastination common in so many families with ADHD.

Kelly Biltz is an ADHD Teen Life Coach who is passionate about helping teenagers manage ADHD and build confidence. Her journey from tension-filled arguments to a peaceful home inspired her to help others find the same. With a focus on executive function skills, both at home and in school, she meets her students with compassion, patience, and lots of encouragement. A mom, stepmom, grandmother, dedicated wife, proud yogi, and dog lover, Kelly navigates the chaos of a neurodiverse household with humor, a ton of grace and lots of patience and helps teens improve grades, boost confidence, and master executive function life skills.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Kelly Biltz about procrastination.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Kelly explains procrastination can stem from various factors such as overwhelm, lack of interest, or organizational challenges. Identifying and addressing these underlying issues is essential in tackling procrastination effectively.

Kelly stresses breaking tasks into smaller components can make them less daunting and more achievable. Starting with one small task can lead to momentum and motivation to continue working on the larger goal.

Kelly discusses recognizing that energy levels fluctuate and that individuals may have optimal times for productivity is crucial. Aligning tasks with peak energy times can enhance efficiency and reduce procrastination tendencies.

Links Mentioned:

Improve Communication with Complex Kids and Teens:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/improve-communication-with-complex-kids-and-teens

Empowering Your Teen with ADHD: 5 Essential Keys to Success

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fOthkdstchx0AhaU-27PJOhEy_1lLS_H/view

Connect with Kelly:

Website:  https://teenswithadhd.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/succeedwithadhd/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenswithadhd/

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You’ve got to understand procrastination in order to overcome it. So in this conversation, we’ll explore why kids tend to stall on tasks, from unrealistic goals to unclear plans. And we’ll also look at how a child’s procrastination often leads parents to react in ways that may not actually help the situation. If you want to minimize procrastination, join us for a conversation that explores how to leverage your kids’ strengths and prime their brain for action. Uncover the “why” behind goals, ignite motivation and follow-through, and walk away with practical strategies to tackle procrastination common in so many families with ADHD.

Kelly Biltz is an ADHD Teen Life Coach who is passionate about helping teenagers manage ADHD and build confidence. Her journey from tension-filled arguments to a peaceful home inspired her to help others find the same. With a focus on executive function skills, both at home and in school, she meets her students with compassion, patience, and lots of encouragement. A mom, stepmom, grandmother, dedicated wife, proud yogi, and dog lover, Kelly navigates the chaos of a neurodiverse household with humor, a ton of grace and lots of patience and helps teens improve grades, boost confidence, and master executive function life skills.

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Kelly Biltz about procrastination.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Kelly explains procrastination can stem from various factors such as overwhelm, lack of interest, or organizational challenges. Identifying and addressing these underlying issues is essential in tackling procrastination effectively.

Kelly stresses breaking tasks into smaller components can make them less daunting and more achievable. Starting with one small task can lead to momentum and motivation to continue working on the larger goal.

Kelly discusses recognizing that energy levels fluctuate and that individuals may have optimal times for productivity is crucial. Aligning tasks with peak energy times can enhance efficiency and reduce procrastination tendencies.

Links Mentioned:

Improve Communication with Complex Kids and Teens:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/improve-communication-with-complex-kids-and-teens

Empowering Your Teen with ADHD: 5 Essential Keys to Success

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fOthkdstchx0AhaU-27PJOhEy_1lLS_H/view

Connect with Kelly:

Website:  https://teenswithadhd.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/succeedwithadhd/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenswithadhd/

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Parenting is a balancing act of love, care, and self-preservation. Elaine and Diane dive deep into the challenges and rewards of finding that sweet spot between raising your kids and nurturing your own identity. How do you maintain this delicate balance in your own life?

Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss finding your balance.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Elaine emphasized the significance of defining individual measures of success as a parent instead of adhering to societal standards.

Diane highlighted the necessity of intentional self-care practices beyond the conventional notions of exercise and relaxation.

As children grow and develop, Elaine and Diane emphasized the importance of adapting parenting strategies to promote independence and growth.

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Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Monika Roots about talking to your teen about pornography.

How to Talk to Your Complex Kids [and Other Important Relationships]

Strained communication can create a hot mess of misunderstanding and conflict — whether it’s with your kids or any significant relationship in your life. In this FREE guide, you’ll discover your role in communication dynamics and 10 simple but effective ways to help you build more trust and calm in your communication with your complex kids — and any relationship. 

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Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Dr. Monika highlights the importance of ongoing communication and guidance when it comes to helping children navigate the digital world safely.

Dr. Monika stresses the significance of acknowledging vulnerability, offering genuine apologies, and making efforts to mend connections. By establishing trust, children are more likely to approach their parents with concerns or questions about online experiences.

Dr. Monika discusses the importance of being vigilant for signs of mental health changes that could indicate exposure to harmful online content or technology addiction.

Related Links:

Website:  BendHealth.com

Let Go, Control Freak Parent!:  https://impactparents.com/let-go-control-freak-parent

5 Steps to Settle Family Politics:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/5-steps-to-settle-family-politics/

Confident Parenting – Why Bother?:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/confident-parenting/

5 Tips for Having Embarrassing Conversations with Your Kids:  https://impactparents.com/blog/adhd/5-tips-for-having-embarrassing-conversations-with-your-kids/

A Parent’s Guide to Sexting, Texting, and Teens:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/a-parents-guide-to-sexting-texting-and-teens/

Handling Conflict with Complex Kids:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/handling-conflict-with-complex-kids

IPPF Report:  https://www.ippf.org/sites/default/files/2016-05/ippf_cse_report_eng_web.pdf

Learning Network Newsletter:  https://gbvlearningnetwork.ca/our-work/issuebased_newsletters/issue-39/Learning-Network-Issue-39.pdf

Surgeon General Calls for Warning Labels on Social Media Platforms:  https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/17/health/surgeon-general-social-media-warning-label.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare&sgrp=c-cb

Opinion:  Surgeon General:  Social Media Platforms Need A Health Warning:  https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/17/opinion/social-media-health-warning.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare&sgrp=c-cb

Teaching Kids to be Responsible with Technology:  https://youtu.be/9_NbAkoaZjk

Intern’l Conf on ADHD 2022 Takeaway Part 2: Technology & Gaming Research:  https://youtu.be/3OmacXsemNc?si=Avmr_v_c9YIBBVWn

Tech Overwhelm and the Metaverse:  https://youtu.be/HXN4ShSNbvw

Surgeon General Warning on Social Media: How should parents respond?:  https://youtu.be/H67o7CMioCM

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