Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

According to the website Love is Respect, 1 in 3 U.S. teens will experience physical, sexual or emotional abuse from someone they are in a relationship with. These are alarming statistics.

In this episode we define what an abusive relationship is. How can parents know if their teens is an abusive relationship and what are the warning signs. And most importantly how can parents talk to their teens and protect them against the abuse or being the abuser.

I brought in another family therapist to discuss this important subject.

Our guest today is Eden Garcia-Balis, M.S. LMFT who was appointed Chief Executive Officer for Airport Marina Counseling Service (AMCS) in 2014. She has been in the mental health field for over 19 years with experience in leadership and management of service programs, business operations and fundraising. In addition, she was the Executive Director of the Pasadena Mental Health Center. Eden has a passion for working with the underprivileged and underserved and believes all people regardless of their socioeconomic status deserve quality mental health services they can afford. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and brings a strong clinical background to her position at AMCS.

I asked Eden why a third of all U.S. teens will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they are in relationship with. I mean that’s really high.

“It’s very high. It’s alarming and I’m often asked, why is that statistic so high? When you look at what our children are listening to, when you look at what our children, our youth, our teens are seeing on TV, they don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like.

Some of the questions we dive into are…

1.  Why do you think there has been rise in domestic violence among teens and why do you think it is more common than ever?

2. What are some of the warning signs parents or guardians should look for if they suspect their teen may be in violent or unhealthy relationship?

3. What are some of the ways parents can talk to their kids about dating violence and when is the right time to have this conversation?

4. What advice would you give teens who are in a relationship with a partner that is exhibiting violent, controlling or unhealthy behaviors?

5. What advice would you give parents who suspect, or know, their child is in an unhealthy relationship?

Find out more about Eden at https://www.amcshelps.com/management

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Do your teens help around the house? Do they have weekly chores? Is it a chore to get your teens to do their chores? Does your teen promise to clean their room or do the laundry and they just keep putting it off till you feel like pulling your hair out? Have you given up on having your teens do chores because they have a rigorous academic schedule?

Today I have a guest who will help us explore these questions. She calls herself an advocate for the value of unpaid labor.

Bio: Lori Sugarman-Li believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. Her career as a Communications Strategist, combined with a decade devoted to full-time care of her family, community, and children’s charities worldwide, served as the inspirational backdrop for her professional relaunch as a Coach, Speaker, and Author. She is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space. Lori, her husband, and two sons are Canadian-born and live steps from Lake Michigan in Chicago.

Here are some of the questions we explored.

How should families approach the allocation of household roles to encourage participation from each member? In what ways can parents help their children connect with tasks that play to their strengths? What advice do you have for families to ensure everyone’s preferences and abilities are respected and accommodated? How does assigning tasks aligned with a teen’s interests influence their sense of responsibility? How do you suggest we teach teens to see the value in the unpaid work that goes into running a home? What language shifts do you propose for discussing domestic work that can help elevate its importance? Could you share some insights on how to illustrate the deeper significance of everyday chores to teens?

“Because the ultimate goal, the real desire here is full task ownership by everybody. Because what we know is that not only does the mother perform 75% of the executional work, but typically the mother is holding all of the mental and emotional work as well.”

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In this episode we look at some of the current trends in technology worldwide and what parents can do about it. We also discuss ways for parents to get out of a power struggle with their teens and have important and open conversations to keep them protected in the online world.

Our guest today is Forest Bronzan.

Forest is a co-founder and on the board at Digital Detox where he leads global initiatives for digital wellness and helped grow the company to a customer base in over 80 countries and is the CEO at Camplight – helping parents take a practical approach to navigating raising kids with tech. As a father of two children, Forest has a deep passion for improving the relationship society has with technology.

Listeners can visit camplight.com to learn more, or digitaldetox.com

Find Forest on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/forestbronzan/

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How do you raise confident teens? We talk through the Confident Teen Blueprint which is a 30 day approach which includes how to create your personalized overarching philosophies about parenting, know what your beliefs and mantras which support your overarching philosophies. How to get more mileage out of your conversations with your teens by being curious and being a really good listener. Karleen states that a good listener is really about bring an exceptional learner.

Our guest today – Karleen Savage is sought-after speaker, trainer, hostage negotiator, and conflict resolution expert with a passion for fostering peaceful, harmonious environments. Through her Savage Theory of Resolution, she emphasizes the importance of communication and collaboration in order to achieve success. Through more than 15 years of professional experience, Karleen has learned that the conflicts we experience in business are usually a reflection of the conflicts happening at home. This belief inspired her to write her book The Confident Teen Blueprint. Throughout her career, Karleen has worked with corporations, educational institutions, non-profit organizations, and government agencies, creating a positive environment for growth and development.

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One of the things that makes parenting so hard today is dealing with everything screens with your teens. Screens are a daily battlefield for a majority of parents.

Our guest today is known as the screentime consultant and has just published her book , The Screentime Solution: A Judgment-Free Guide to Becoming a Tech-Intentional Family , and of course in this episode we discuss what does it mean to be a tech intentional family and how to implement that.

Emily Cherkin, M.Ed., is a nationally recognized consultant who takes a tech-intentional approach to addressing screentime challenges. A former middle school teacher, she has been featured for her work in the New York Times, the Washington Post, on the Today Show (twice), Good Morning America, Australia Weekend Today‚ the BBC, NPR, Sirius XM Radio, and numerous parenting websites, blogs, and podcasts. Chuck Norris has quoted her. Emily teaches parenting courses, offers private parent consultations, facilitates professional development training, and provides personalized school presentations built on her tech-intentional approach. As a parent to a twelve- and fifteen-year-old, Emily understands deeply the real-life challenges of parenting in the digital age. Emily is also the co-founder of The Student Data Privacy Project, an advocacy group focused on protecting schoolchildren’s data. More can be

To learn more go to www.thescreentimeconsultant.com.

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How big a deal is vaping? How many tweens and teens vape?

How does vaping impact the brain? Is vaping addictive? How should you educate your son or daughter about vaping? If you find out your tween or teen is vaping, how should you handle it?

Aaron Weiner, PhD, is a licensed, board-certified psychologist, master addiction counselor, clinician, author, and frequent speaker on addiction treatment and issues. Dr. Weiner is the immediate Past President of the Society of Addiction Psychology, serves on the Public Policy Committee for the American Society of Addiction Medicine, and is a member of the Science Advisory Board for the Foundation for Drug Policy Solutions. He earned his doctorate from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and completed his fellowship in Addiction Psychology at the VA Ann Arbor Healthcare System.

To learn more:

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Have you even been caught in a Shouldstorm?

A ShouldStorm is a high-pressure culture of criticism and anxiety that pushes perfectionistic parenting. The Shouldstorm has an opinion on every little thing parents do, but it often contradicts itself. It tells parents what they should or should not do, and threatens that kids will suffer if parents don’t follow those shoulds to the letter.

Parents internalize the shoulds; the Shouldstorm lives in our heads and makes parents feel anxiety and shame.

To get free of the Shouldstorm I invited Dr. Alison Escalante to be our guest

Dr. Alison Escalante is a board-certified pediatrician and an Adjunct Professor of Pediatrics at Rush University. She has been treating children for almost twenty years and has spent the last ten years exploring methods and workable solutions to target parental stress. She’s a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Forbes, and her work has also been featured in Inc. and USA Today. 

Alison will share a unique approach that helps parents resist a culture that causes anxiety and stress to be more and do more in the pursuit of parenting perfection. Dr. Escalante is a pediatrician, mother and the author of the new book SIGH SEE START: How to be the Parent Your Child Needs in a World that Won’t Stop Pushing.

To learn more go to: https://theprimarycarer.com/ 

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How do you instill confidence, grit and resilience in your teens? To explore this I invited Jesse Lebeau to the show.

Jesse LeBeau is one of today’s most highly sought after youth speakers and teen coaches. His unlikely underdog story has inspired millions of teens through his speaking, best-selling books and youth programs. He is one of the worlds premiere basketball trick artists and is regularly featured on TV, film, and international tours. Jesse’s new reality series ‘The LeBeau Show’ allows viewers the chance to follow him around the country and see firsthand the major impact he is having on youth.

Jesse is not only an amazing teen coach but he has great practical advice for moms. Jesse is definitely inspirational you will want to take notes.

To learn more about Jesse go to  https://theattitudeadvantage.com/welcome/

Follow Jesse on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jesselebeau/

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“I have anxiety I can’t do my homework.” Statements like this leave moms wondering, “Is this anxiety or an excuse? Most of us have some level of anxiety and so this can be very confusing for moms.

An anxious teen is challenging to parent especially if they refuse to do something they should do, like go to school, go to soccer practice, or do their homework. It’s easy to get into arguments with an anxious teen. Conversations frequently spin out of control.

To talk about these challenges I have invited Cynthia Coufal to join us today

Cynthia Coufal is a Certified Life Coach for teens and young adults. She has a podcast and YouTube channel called The Teen Anxiety Maze. Cynthia spent 31 years as a teacher and school counselor in Public Schools. She started a podcast during the pandemic to reach her students since she couldn’t see them face to face. This led to her wanting to have a broader audience than just the students in her school building. Cynthia now has clients around the US and listeners all over the world. Cynthia is YouMap®Assessment Certified. She uses the profile to help young people understand what their strengths, values, preferred skills, and interests are. This helps them find their WHY for tackling anxiety.

Email: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.com

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Does your teen frequently get angry?

In this episode, we talk about what anxiety-driven anger looks like in our teens.

Kelsey Torgerson Dunn, MSW, LCSW, specializes in anxiety and anger management therapy for kids, teens, and college students. She opened her group practice, Compassionate Counseling St. Louis, in early 2017. She practices cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness skills, and often finds that just having someone on your side is the most helpful part of counseling.

Kelsey recently published When Anxiety Makes You Angry written for teens.  “Using a proven-effective approach rooted in evidence-based cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), When Anxiety Makes You Angry will help you identify the anxiety beneath your anger, accept difficult emotions—rather than fighting or trying to ignore them—and learn healthy coping and self-regulation skills to help you find emotional balance. You’ll also discover how to “train your brain” to stop and think before reacting; and how to choose calm over chaos when faced with the things that trigger your anxiety or anger.

To learn more contact Kelsey at https://www.kelseytorgersondunn.com/

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