Better Relationships, Better Life

Seth and Rebecca Greene

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 012: The Whinypaluza Traditional Marriage

Seth Greene is a nationally recognized direct response financial services marketing expert, the CEO of Market Domination LLC, and co-host of the Sharkpreneur podcast. Rebecca Greene LCSW-R is a Top 100 Mommy blogger and host of the Whinypaulza podcast. With their combined experience in marketing, podcasting, and married life, these two make a perfect entrepreneurial couple!

Listen to this insightful interview with Seth and Rebecca on Better Relationships, Better Life, where :

Here is what our conversation touched on in this week’s show:

• How faith and learning from past relationships give clarity about common goals in marriage. 
• Great partnerships are possible with traditional marriages (vs. egalitarian marriages).
• Growth mindsets and clearly defined roles give stability to the entrepreneurial couple & family.
• Adjustments and challenges with becoming new parents. Seth shares his first-time experiences as a new dad. Rebecca shares how the family contributes to her blog and podcast. 
• How to balance career and family time. 

Connect with Seth:

Website: https://marketdominationllc.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarketDominationLLC

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/APMFunnel

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/market-domination-llc/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/market_domination_llc/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/mktdominationus

Connect with Rebecca:

Website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting/

Relationship Stress Quiz – https://www.judycounselor.com

Complimentary Clarity Call – https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta…

Linked In – https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ 

Katherine Woodward Thomas

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 011: Breaking Up & Becoming Better: Conscious Uncoupling

Katherine Woodward Thomas is the New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After and Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attracting the Love of Your Life, as well as an award-winning marriage and family psychotherapist. Over the past two decades, Katherine has taught thousands of people around the globe to create conscious, loving relationships. They learn skills for deeper connections, health, and happiness. Katherine developed training programs: Certifications for “Calling in The One” Coaches , and “Conscious Uncoupling” Coaches. She provides ongoing supervision to a vibrant community of therapists and coaches from around the world. She’s a Billboard charting, #1 iTunes jazz artist with her CD, Lucky in Love, which was co-written and co-produced with The Brothers Koren. 

Listen to this insightful interview with Katherine on Better Relationships, Better Life, :

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

● We’re moving from hierarchy to equal power in relationships.

● Conscious uncoupling is not just a pretty word for divorce. But rather it replaces attitudes of hostility in order to create peace in the family system. 

● The simple and elegant steps to uncoupling is a process of growing awareness. 

● Spending years in “healing,” can lead to over-identification of the trauma story. Instead, we can develop character and become our best selves. 

● It’s important to change hostile terms like “X” in order to show grace to former spouse and create harmony for the children and extended family.

● Skills in the program can deepen intimacy and even save some marriages.

Connect with Katherine:

WEBSITE: https://katherinewoodwardthomas.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/katherinewoodwardthomas

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KatWoodwardThom

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/

Connect with Judy: 

Relationship Stress Quiz – https://www.judycounselor.com

Complimentary Clarity Call – https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta…

Linked In – https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ 

Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy K. Herman

Episode 010: Oprah and the Pioneers of Connection Beyond Conflict

Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple’s therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! The pair are also the co-creators of Imago Relationship Theory & Therapy, as well as Safe Conversations®, an organization that contributes to the creation of a relational culture through the distribution of new insights from the relational sciences.

Listen to this insightful interview with Harville and Helen on Better Relationships, Better Life, :

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

●    You’ll hear light-hearted conversations about Harville and Helen’s influence on Judy as an Imago Relationship therapist and how this interview brings out the “hidden” Oprah in her. Their first appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show was the program that won Oprah her first Emmy award! 

●    The definition of Imago Relationship Therapy, and how it can benefit not only couples, but also individuals, business partners, corporations, congregations, and more.

●    Helen shares how Harville was first in the history of the world to teach skills of dialogue. He was instrumental in the development of the relational sciences becoming teachable.

●    Living with wonder is a sign of brain health. Dialogue activates all of the lobes of the brain by creating structure to regulate emotions.

●    For those with mental illness, skills of dialogue can provide structure to slow down and calm the mental chaos. Everyone is seeking to be safe and connected.

●    The concept of sacred space between two people coincides with philosopher Martin Buber’s “I – thou” vs. “I – it.”

●    Helen and Harville are currently working with Adrien Kennedy, former chair of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) https://nami.org/About-NAMI. She envisions the impact of dialogue on the world being powerful enough to end mental illness as we know it today.

●    Created by Harville and Helen in 1980, Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is one of the most influential models of therapy in the world today, practiced in 63 countries by over 2,500 therapists!

To find out more:

1.   If you’re a therapist who wants training, or a couple who wants Imago Relationship therapy, go to https://imagorelationships.org/

2.   Join the global social movement to bring Safe Conversations to the whole world by 2030. Go go to https://safeconversations.com/

3.   Connect with Harville and Helen:

WEBSITE: https://harvilleandhelen.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/harvilleandhelen

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/HarvilleHelen

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf_6FDOjokkjsRkZJr-tcgA

Relationship Stress Quiz – https://www.judycounselor.com

Complimentary Clarity Call – https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta…

Linked In – https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/

Stan Tatkin, pt. 2

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 009: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage: Part 2, It Still Takes Two

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

Listen to part two of this interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin on Better Relationships, Better Life, packed with simple ideas that will inspire you co-create a secure relationship. Nature, culture and history throughout time gives evidence of the necessity of equal partnership for survival and growth. It’s not easy and it still takes two.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

●    Our instinctual inclination towards teamwork can save relationships, and turn enemies into friends

●    How to honor both spouses in the partnership as “equal power and equal authority.” Otherwise it’s not sustainable.

●    The necessity of your unique relationship set of ethics that both spouses agree to that’s not to be reckoned with.

●    Why a relationship is less of a skill set and more of a practice

Connect with Stan:

WEBSITE: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrStanTatkin

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/stanleytat

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/stan-tatkin/11/233/281

Relationship Stress Quiz – https://www.judycounselor.com

Complimentary Clarity Call – https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta…

Linked In – https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/

Stan Tatkin, pt. 1

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 008: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage and Your Life: Part 1

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

Listen to part one of this insightful interview with Stan Tatkin on Better Relationships, Better Life, full of the influences that helped shape the PACT institute, and some of the wisdom that Stan and his team can share:

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

●    How Stan utilizes his research in psychobiology as a foundation for his work with the PACT institute and in relationship therapy

●    How Stan went from drumming protégé to working with couples

●    The evolutionary and historical reasons why people long to be in paired relationships

●    Ways of thinking about relationships so that one member is not at risk of being eclipsed or absorbed by the other, where both partners can keep their individual identities while also supporting one another

●    The many different spiritual and philosophical traditions that influence Stan’s work and the PACT foundation

●    Habits and rituals that you can form with your partner that will remind them of your mutual support, even if the two of you go to bed upset with one another

Connect with Stan:

WEBSITE: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrStanTatkin

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/stanleytat

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/stan-tatkin/11/233/281

Chad and Shelley Prevost

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 007: How the Enneagram Helps Increase Marital Satisfaction

Chad (an Enneagram 4) is a writer, publisher, author coach, and certified Enneagram practitioner with advanced degrees in creative writing, literature, and theology. He’s participated in writing and literary arts communities in New York, Austin, Atlanta, and Chattanooga and now spreads his passion for the Enneagram throughout the Southeast.

Shelley is the Co-founder of Big Self School, a personal growth school supporting the mental and emotional wellbeing of leaders through coaching, consulting, a podcast, and events. She is a licensed therapist, educational psychologist, leadership coach, and Enneagram practitioner. She has 25 years of clinical and coaching experience combined with 10+ years as a business coach and startup executive to help leaders be their wisest and most authentic selves.

Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of relationship tips rooted in the Enneagram typology personality system.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

●    What the Enneagram is, and how people are using it to guide their personal and professional lives

●    How Chad’s background in theology and Shelley’s background in psychology compliment each other’s personality and work lives

●    How the Enneagram is different from other personality tests such as the Myers-Briggs

●    How Chad and Shelley met, how they’ve used the Enneagram to improve each other in their 23 years of marriage, and how they came to found Big Self School

●    Why the Enneagram is not the final step in self-understanding, and further steps that you can take to build upon what the Enneagram has revealed

●    How a solid sense of self-awareness can lead you to healthier habits, and better relationships

Connect with Chad and Shelley:

WEBSITE: https://www.bigselfschool.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/bigselfschool

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/bigselfschool

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/big-self-school

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bigselfschool/

Leslie Vernick

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 006: Beyond Destructive Marriages: Clarity Towards Self-Respect & Dignity

Leslie is a popular speaker, author, licensed clinical social worker and relationship coach. She has over 35 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families heal, rebuild or grow their relationships. Growing up in a broken home with an abusive mom, Leslie has learned first hand how difficult it can be to act in a Christ like way with a destructive person. Whether coaching, speaking or writing, Leslie gently leads people to make real changes in their lives. She loves to help women learn to confidently speak their own thoughts and feelings in a constructive way, encounter God’s peace and presence in the midst of suffering or difficult loss, and develop the discipline to turn dreams and desires into reality. Leslie is the author of seven books, including the best selling, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and The Emotionally Destructive Relationship.

Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of tips for managing trauma and working towards healthy outcomes in your relationships.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

●    The two things that Leslie, who has been married for over 46 years, knows you need to keep a marriage strong and long-lasting

●    Ways in which Leslie has pushed back against traditional Christian teaching about marriage to stand up for women who may find themselves abused, depressed, or desperate in their marriages

●    How to learn and grow from abusive encounters or toxic relationships, rather than trying to change the toxic traits in the other person

●    Lessons from Christian theology that people from all religious backgrounds can learn from, and apply to their relationships

●    Ways that past traumas and mental illnesses can manifest in a relationship, and tips on how to navigate their influence to work towards the healthiest result

Connect with Leslie:

WEBSITE: https://leslievernick.com/

FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/LeslieVernickFanPage

TWITTER: http://twitter.com/leslievernick

PINTEREST: http://pinterest.com/leslievernick

LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/leslie-vernick/1/a70/404

YOUTUBE: http://www.youtube.com/user/leslievernick

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/leslie.vernick/

Matt and Linda Lutz

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 005: How High Energy Fun Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Matt and Linda Lutz are a dynamic couple with an out of the ordinary life story who are passionate about unearthing the true potential buried deep within individuals and organizations. They have spent the last 30 years together in business and are still alive [and happily married] to tell about it. The majority of that time they spent 24 hours/7days a week together starting and running businesses, including a non-profit organization, owning rental property, and 21 years building and pastoring a church in NC. 

Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of tips for a long-lasting and healthy marriage:

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

● How Matt and Linda went from meeting at a karaoke bar to a healthy, long-lasting marriage

● How Matt and Linda continually go back to their core values of spontaneity, fun, and adventure. 

● They described their parenting as unique by integrating their children into their “before children” lifestyle. 

● What Linda means when she says that one of the secrets of a healthy marriage is to “never doubt in the darkness”

● How Matt’s strong sense of cooperation was drilled into him in the Marine Corps, and how those lessons still help him in his relationships today 

● Why sometimes, you need to disregard any expectation for your life set before you by anyone else and live your own passions 

Connect with Matt and Linda:

WEBSITE: https://mattandlindalutz.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mattandlindalutz/

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/matt-and-linda-lutz/

Chloe Ballatore

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 004: Yin and Yang of Relationships

Chloe Ballatore is a Relationship & Communication Expert; and a graduate of Princeton University and the WANT Institute. She uses tools derived from Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis (author of THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY) and Pat Allen’s (of MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER) Androgynous Semantic Realignment. In simpler terms, this means she helps people change their lives and get the love they want by balancing their yin and yang energies. She is her own first success story and is now twenty years married.

Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of relationship and parenting advice:

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

● The ancient philosophies that serve as a foundation for Chloe’s work

● A look inside Chloe’s books

● The circumstances that made Chloe want to become a relationship & communication expert, and how they affected her marriage

● Impactful communication tips from Judy and Chloe that you can bring to your relationship

● Tips on raising a family in a way that breaks with generational family patterns of that you don’t want to repeat

Connect with Chloe:

WEBSITE: https://chloesconsciousnesstraining.squarespace.com/

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chloe-ballatore-ab80755/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoLqAmbtotYclh-lmebobdA

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/chloes_consciousness_training/

Melissa Orlov

Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman

Episode 001: The ADHD Effect on Marriage

 Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com, and author of two award-winning books on the impact of ADHD in relationships – The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010) and The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014). She is considered one of the foremost authorities on the topic of how ADHD impacts adult relationships. A marriage consultant, Melissa helps ADHD-affected couples from around the world re-balance their relationships and learn to thrive through her seminars, consulting and books. She also teaches marriage counselors and other professionals about effective marriage therapy for couples impacted by ADHD. Orlov blogs for Psychology Today and at www.adhdmarriage.com, where she also hosts a large community of adults learning about ADHD in relationships. She has been interviewed by many, including the New York Times, CNN, Today, and US News and World Report. You can find her at ADHDmarriage.com. 

Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of information about ADHD, and methods that couples can use to manage it when one or both partners are diagnosed:

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

● Exploring what ADHD is, and dispelling some pervasive myths

● Ways in which an unnoticed, undiagnosed ADHD can manifest later in a person’s life 

● How untreated ADHD can affect a relationship, and ways that ADHD marriage specialists like Melissa help couples manage it together

● Why learning as much as you can about ADHD is the best way to start working with it  

● What it means to be “subclinical” 

Connect with Melissa:

WEBSITE: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDMarriage/

TWITTER: https://twitter.com/msorlov

PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ADHDMarriage/

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKgnjLa_jk3lO7-13p7qQng