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Ep. 77 – Colin Blalock | It’s Not What You Say That is Heard: Why Reading Body Language is Fun & Profitable
Colin Blalock, a shareholder with Jones and Kolb, is a CPA with a very unique set of skills: Colin has developed a talent for understanding the nonverbal messages that people are saying. That’s right – He has developed the ability to read body language, and he has delivered a number of conference presentations on this topic.
The importance of reading body language is underscored when you understand how people are interpreting your message: 7 percent is what you say, 38 percent is how you say it (the tone of your voice), and 55 percent is silent body language.
But a lot of us don’t take the time to think about our own body language, and that limits how effectively we can communicate with others – or understand what they’re really communicating to us.
Colin’s Challenge & Body Language Cheat Sheet
For the next 30 days, when you get up in the morning, read this cheat sheet – the 13 keys of body language – and try to identify these things during your day. What you see, and learn, will absolutely blow you away.
Key #1 – Initial Meeting
- Flash/return flash
- Eye contact
Key #2 – Spacing
- Personal space
- Correct distance
Key #3 – Conflicts
- Unknown male/female (standing and sitting)
- Standing vs. sitting
- Avoid deep armchairs
Key #4 – The Handshake
- Limp wrist
- Dominate (counter)
- Get together
- Double touch
- Shoulder grip
Key #5 – Appearance
- Best face forward
Key #6 – Cooperation/Acceptance
- Head tilt
- Eye contact
- Speaking to a group – contact
Key #7 – Power Plays
- Control time/space
- The stare – counter
- Where you sit
Key #8 – Reading Others
- Watch for leakage
- Read my lips
- Furrowed forehead
- Buy signs
- Watch the feet
- True smile
- Copying stance/gestures
Key #9 – Common Lying Gestures
- No single sign
- The nose knows
- Gravity defying gestures and happy feet
Key #10 – Watch the Hands
- Touching objects
- Palms up/down
Key #11 – What about the Eyes?
- Audio (side to side)
- Calculating (down and left)
- Emotional (down and right)
- Deception (up and right)
- Recalling (up and left)
Key #12 – Common Barriers
- Arm fold
- One arm fold
- How to break the barrier
Key #13 – Practice!
Colin’s Favorite Body Language Books:
- Telling Lies, Paul Ekman
- Extremely hard to read, but many books use his research.
- Unless you really like Calculus I would pass.
- The Secret Language of Success, David Lewis
- First book I read, 31 rules provides a good foundation;
- The book cost $0.01 and shipping is $4.24. Accountants love rules and there are 31 Rules to follow. Note: three books below cover many of the same points.
- The Definitive Book of Body Language, Allan and Barbara Pease
- Excellent book and discusses issues up through former President Clinton;
- Entertaining and useful.
- What Every BODY is Saying, Joe Navarro
- Real life experiences working with soldiers captured in the Gulf Wars and how the same techniques are applied to interactions today;
- Works with Fortune 500 companies now;
- Addresses benchmarking.
- Let Me See Your Body Talk, Jan Hargrave
- Very good book for singles;
- Explains social interactions.
- The Silent Language of Leaders, Carol Kinsey Goman
- Excellent book if preside over meetings or need to get a consensus from a group on issues;
- Explains why some people “lead” and no one follows.
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