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Do you consider yourself to be emotionally and financially wealthy?
The world is changing around us on a daily basis. We have multi-generations in the workforce (more than 2 and about to be 4), technology evolving at exponential speeds and changing paradigms on our purpose driven lifestyles. One aspect of this is the perception of the impact and importance of pursuing emotional and financial wealth for our journey of life. Are both achievable and how do individuals gain them?
I consider myself emotionally wealthy beyond measure. I have a life family of 32 units in addition to the support of my blood family in times of need. I live a nomadic lifestyle without any ties and yet am able to provide the support my clients need when and where they need it. I am there to have experiences and memories with those in my life family that truly brighten my life journey. I wasn’t always living this lifestyle. It’s taken years of self awareness and years of pursuing only financial wealth to get to me to a place where I can start with emotional wealth and rebuild my financial wealth. I was a corporate executive for almost 20 years and then spent the last 3 years focusing on me. I left the corporate world and explored the world through people and places. I’ve been called a rational free spirit by many in my world as I “flit” around the world yet always end up on my feet strong and steady to support myself. This time around, the life family (my emotional wealth) has been there in spades to support me as I restart building my financial wealth all over again. I don’t believe that if I only had financial wealth and I was emotionally ruined that it would be as easy to build up my emotional wealth. Yet, at this juncture the process of building up financial wealth has been easier because of the support system of the life family.
I work with many clients that are wealthy beyond words. They can spend money and buy multiple houses, go on the best vacations, buy items they want when they want and on and on. They are successful business people who are strong leaders and will not back down from supporting their people in business. However, many are emotionally struggling in many different ways. For some its not being able to have honest conversations with spouses about how they feel in the marriage as time has gone by. Many of them have lost the intimacy they started out with when they were young but as children, life, and business have come along they have lost it. Each one of them wants to go in different directions – Some want to be able to open the doors of building those relationships again and some don’t (but they don’t want to hurt the other person either). The partner relationship is important to them because they feel like they have a companion and it gives an illusion of not being alone. This is where there is a crack in true emotional wealth as the companion is no longer a true partner but just a facade for the rest of the world. In many cases, the financial wealth is a deterrent to changing the situation and so the individual believes there is only one choice but to continue to pursue financial wealth as a distraction and not pursue creating emotional wealth which is done through relationships in any form. With the life span of humans getting longer there are many individuals who are making a choice to live their journey in life giving up who they truly for the golden handcuffs of financial wealth. Many don’t even realize that their personal struggles and not having the right emotional wealth is actually preventing them from growing further in their financial wealth.
Another phenomenon that I continue to see is happening due to longer lives. Many successful business folks are realizing that the business environment is changing and what has made them successful may not keep them at the top of their game. However, they are in their 60’s, 70’s and sometimes 80’s and still have the mental and physical capacity to run businesses. Many of them are trying to re-asses what is their purpose in life now and how do they want to continue on that journey. Many don’t want to just retire and go travel the world. They want to run businesses, travel and have a life. They have the financial means to do it but they don’t know how to find a way to do it with the right support system. The support system is static and wants them to give up the business and just travel together. In other instances, the support system is wondering what they have to prove at continuing to work at such a late stage of their life instead of just enjoying life. Their support system doesn’t understand that they are driven and motivated by keeping their mind active and continuing to create wealth (whether for children, spouse, family or even themselves). Many boomers were given a path of education, marriage, children, house (build your financial wealth) and enjoy it when you retire. However, they don’t want to retire because they still have a lot to give. I work with my clients to give them insights into how they can have the lifestyles they want (emotional wealth) and continue to build upon their financial wealth and make an impact on society.
There are many financially wealthy people who are also emotionally wealthy but they have spent a great deal of time cultivating the right relationships and having honest conversations to be at a point that they can achieve both financial and emotional wealth in their journey of life. Do you know of individuals who have achieved both and would be willing to chat with me about their journey? As I continue my work into this dynamic, I am writing a book around the impact and importance of both in our changing world and any input is much appreciated.
Do you know folks who could benefit from having a sounding board as they build up their emotional wealth and continue on their life journey that will provide them and those around them with fulfillment? Send them over to me to chat about how we can work together to increase their emotional wealth.
Do you actively build your emotional wealth in the same manner you build your financial wealth?
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